how to get some space

[amcinto]

I told my boyfriend before he moved in that I like and need my space. We have 3 tv sets in the house and I like to be able to watch TV by myself sometimes. From the moment he gets home to the moment he goes to bed he's stuck right next to me as close as he can get with some hot *** breath. I'm at my breaking point. And whenever I mention needing my space or going in the other room he either follows or pouts. Sometimes I stay up even though I'm exhausted just so I can have some alone time. Any suggestions would be helpful it's making me crabby and miserable. I'm tired of fighting and waiting him out

[rosealie23]

Sounds kinds clingy....

[7115bauer]

It will get better. Maybe this is all new for him too and he is trying to be supportive and caring, not a dead beat. Just let him know it's not that you never want to see him, you just need a few hrs a day to calm down. I send my bf away every once in awhile or make him go out with his friends when he is on the fence about going. I get more done and sometimes his constant touching is annoying even though I know he is just being caring (I still have to get up and get anythinh I want or need too lol) just hang in there, you will get used to it and he will eventually realize that he doesnt need to be attached to you to show you he loves you

[amcinto]

I've always been on my own and I knew it was going to be a hard adjustment to make. I'm not saying I never want to spend time together but sometimes I just need a few hours to myself. I just want to be able to lay on the couch without someone constantly laying on me or touching me. And to be able to get through a whole episode of general hospital without him asking me a million questions about the bills or what color phone case should he get. Before he moved in he wasn't like this he would go hang out with his friends and go bowling now whenever I suggest it he acts like I'm insane.

[7115bauer]

Dont feel bad about wanting alone time. Living with someone is an adjustment and when you are used to doing things a certain way and having your own space its hard. Try going out for a bit or just talk to him about how this is all a little overwhelming and it helps you to destress when you are alone. Thats not saying you never want to be in the same room as him but sometimes you need a few minutes to breath without having someone right there. Dont get discouraged, it will get better and you guys will figure out something that works for both of you!!

[pregoRita]

^^^ she totally right .. ive been with my hubby 10 yrs living together for 4 yrs and I love our time together every chance we get for alone time we take it ...then again we got jobs and 2 kids going on 3 so besides a few mins in the evening bedtime is our time

[ash060115]

If your feeling that way now after only six months of living together I'd reconsider living arrangements.  
Thats not too good .

I love having alone time with my boyfriend when our daughters in bed - years later.
I couldn't imagine not wanting him here-

I'd an ex who irritated me just being too clingy and all over me all the time I quickly dumped him.

[amcinto]

It isn't because I'm pregnant. He's been like this since he moved in 6 months ago I'm only 15 weeks pregnant. And it isn't so he can help me because believe me I'm the one who gets up if I need a drink or snack or to let the dogs out he stays firmly planted to the couch. And while he might be beneficial once the baby's here I know that I won't be able to have any alone time then so why can't I have some now?

[LADYOH603]

I pray your pregnancy is a happy healthy one! With the stressors of life and bringing life, we need our space and our time. I'm 27 + 6, with an 11 year old and almost four year old. My spouse is the late night owl so unfortunately I don't have to deal with him in that perspective. Hour happiness and health means the mos; however, as hormonal as we can get with being pregnant and even not pregnant, sometimes we have to pick our battles. Your significant other seems, based on your statement) loving and concerned. I bet he only wants to be at your beckon call and comfort you.. Through all of the heartburn, leg aches, late night kicks from the baby, etc., try to have another point of view with him. You're feeling that way now, but when baby arrives he's going to be more beneficial than you know. Just because I understand and have been there, "You can get much more with honey than you can with vinegar."  Best wishes and congratulations, Mom!