is it normal

[Maryiscool]

I am pregnant with my second baby but is my third pregnancy. I lost the first at 6 weeks pregnant. The second one was born premature at 31 weeks but she was in the hospital for 2 months really sick. Now with this one I don't feel exited or happy is it normal? Yesterday we were able to hear baby's heart beat and...nothing I feel horrible for not feeling how I felt with my other pregnancy.

[happiMom87]

I think you're being hard on yourself, it almost seems as if you're afraid to enjoy it.. you know.. anything can go wrong for any of us at any time, God will guide you through whatever is in our lives. Best wishes.

[Finurligaida]

It's probably a safety mechanism as Evanlee11 stated. I don't think you will be relaxed and somewhat happy until you pass the 31 week + 2 months of this baby. You and your body know about the worst things and it tries to protect you from getting too hurt. I would see this as a good and healthy sign from your body, as long as it stays in that level and you don't get depressed.

[jen0221]

Pregnancy definitely has a way of taking control over your emotions. I would think that as time progresses you'll become more excited. I think the first trimester is the hardest anyway because there really isn't a way of knowing whether or not things are okay with the baby since you can't feel him/her move. I've found that once I start feeling movements is when I become less paranoid about something being wrong.

[Maryiscool]

Thanks ladies. I think I give myself a hard time because I expect a lot more control over my emotions but true be told I feel like I am loosing it. This pregnancy is having a hold over my strength and feelings is not even funny.

[haydenava85]

I was going to ask this question too. I have a son, 7, and a daughter, 3, with my ex. The divorce was really hard. With my new husband I had a miscarriage last July. Now I am 21 weeks with our son and I feel so many things but excited isn't really one of them. I do have a feeling once baby is here things will be different. I have a new family that is very excited. So maybe if you just don't worry too much, time will fly by and before you know it you will be holding your new baby and everything will fall into place ;)

[Elee11mama]

It seems normal with all youve been thru to be less emotional. Maybe like a safety mechanism, the less excited you get the more prepared you are for loss if it occurs. Hope things are easier this time, baby goes full term, and you both stay healthy!