need advice on what to do

[wzpb2010]

My 4 year old son is completely potty trained but for the past 6 or so weeks he has started pooping in his pants again. Like it's an everyday thing. Before he would have an accident like maybe twice a week but now he's doing it everyday.  What can I do to get him to stop?

[wzpb2010]

He's just stopped pooping in the potty.  He will still pee in it. We have done that where he washes out he is undies. It didn't seem to bother him t [ awful much.  He is very stubborn and strong headed.

[KieaRai]

Some people think this method is a bit mean but we would have my hubby's daughter wash out her own undies by hand. She was about 4 when she started doing it on purpose and we couldn't get her to stop no matter what else we tried so one day we told her she had to wash her own undies. Sat with her in the bathroom and had her scrub them. After doing that a few times she started using the potty again.

[MaddiesMommie14]

He might just be scared or jealous of a new baby and trying to revert to things babies do so he doesn't feel like he is being replaced by the new baby? Has he stopped doing other "big boy" things too or just the potty? Or maybe that's too sophisticated for a 4 tr old? But that's the first thing that came to mind.

[speck2677]

With my little boy we the same problem. I started to notice what time of day it would happen for us it was right before nap time. I would send him to the potty and ask him to try and go stickies and for the most part it helped him to remember that is were he was supposed to use the bathroom.

[wzpb2010]

We tried the pull up thing again and it didn't really bother him

[knufrio]

Stick him back in pull ups if he doesn't like it then he needs to learn to use the potty like a big boy in order to wear big boy undies. A lot of times, especially at his age it is a control thing. This is the one thing they can control. The only thing is don't push TOO hard. If he feels like he has to show you he has control sometimes it can backfire. They'll hold it and then become afraid to go because the large stool will be painful and then you end up with encopresis where he leaks stool, usually at night. Once that happens its difficult to get them to stop.

[wzpb2010]

I hope so cuz I can't take it much more. I thought that it had something to do with me being pregnant

[triple_a_mama]

Yeah it's normal though. It will pass. Good luck mamma bear.

[wzpb2010]

He can control it. He hides when he does it. Afterwards he will go dump the poop in the potty.

[megmegcleve]

If he's telling you he can't control it, you might want to take him to see the doctor. He could be having a medical problem trying to control his bowels movements.

[wzpb2010]

We talk to him about the baby all the time.  He's given the baby a nickname already and we call the baby by his nickname,  gummy bear.

[wzpb2010]

He's had tummy troubles since he was 6 weeks old but one we got him potty trained they went away. I try to talk to him about it and he just says well I tried to stop it.

[triple_a_mama]

Try to be a little patient. I went through this with my children too. It's normal because they can "sense" such a big change coming that they can't control and it reflects usually in the one thing they can control which is going to bathroom. Just try to include them in the process of the baby. Make them feel like the "Super Big Sibling". That's what I call my children. I tell them how much the baby will learn from them and need them and stuff like that. Make them excited about it.

[elvendork]

is he having digestive trouble? complaining of stomach aches?

[KyandKay]

I'm not sure what you can do but my two year old is fully potty trained and have been well over 6 months. People say that he will go back to having incidents because a new baby is coming and it's a stage they go through. Haven't experienced it yet but I would like to know the answer to this as well in case it happens.

Have you talked to him about him having incidents?