Aa
need to vent and get a womans advice.
I'm sure this has little to nothing to do about pregnancy... well it kkinda does.. ok so my best friend of 17-18 year is getting married. We promised each other since kids we would be eachothers MOH. (Maid of honor). She was mine. But she called me 10 min ago and said that she want going to have me as her MOH or matrine of honor because I'm pregnant and won't be there for her. I pop the 4tth of july! Her wedding is set for sept! So I'm not even in her damn wedding not even as a dang bridesmaide! I'm so hurt by this. She chose someone she's known 2 yrs. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
tattoomommy, do you really want to be done with the best friend you have had for 18 years? I really don't understand the anger that you feel toward her - SO FAST - when she's basically right, you won't have time to do the Matron of Honor stuff. You really won't. In September about the time of her wedding you won't be able to get away for bridesmaid's parties and showers and shopping and errands and planning - the stuff a Matron of Honor is supposed to do.
I really think you might regret acting with such anger - although honestly your last posts sounds like you really don't like her at all anyway, regardless of this bridesmaid misunderstanding.
I really think you might regret acting with such anger - although honestly your last posts sounds like you really don't like her at all anyway, regardless of this bridesmaid misunderstanding.
Nope, I told her I wasn't going period. I doidnt really agree with it any way but she's happy. She getting married to a 54 year old lawyer... and she's 26!!! Just hope she has fun with a penis pump and viagra and changing his diapers in 20 year. Lol I'm done! I'll show her what a hormanal bit** is! Thank you all for your input. Nice to know I'm not the only one who thought it was NUTS!
Hmm. I was about to say she has some problem (jealousy?) with your pregnancy but going to your profile I see you have an older child, which apparently was fine with her.
The fact is, since you're having twins it's unlikely that you will have the time to do the stuff she needs a matron of honor to do. Are any of the other bridesmaids mothers?
I don't know about the money thing - but bridesmaids here typically pay for showers, a bachelorette party, their own gown, and a nice gift for the couple. It does cost money traditionally to be in a wedding party. I haven't heard anything about flowers, though.
Anyway it's all a done deal now that you told her to stick her wedding and she called you a b*****.
The fact is, since you're having twins it's unlikely that you will have the time to do the stuff she needs a matron of honor to do. Are any of the other bridesmaids mothers?
I don't know about the money thing - but bridesmaids here typically pay for showers, a bachelorette party, their own gown, and a nice gift for the couple. It does cost money traditionally to be in a wedding party. I haven't heard anything about flowers, though.
Anyway it's all a done deal now that you told her to stick her wedding and she called you a b*****.
Omg I agree with thirdtimemum she wants ALL the attention & it seems like she thinks you'll steal her limelight OR she could be just making excuses, but whatever it is you can do without all that stress for now & focus on you & baby
She sounds awful - I would forget that relationship!!
Your friend is expecting WAY too much, and i don't see anyone willing to do that as a moh. No wonder she's not asking you to do it, she wants someone who can focus all their energy on her, spend all their money on things she needs to be paying for, and with you being a new mummy she knows she won't get that! You'd be way better off just turning up as a guest, sitting back and enjoying all the festivities with no stress!
Holy cow! Someone needs to get that girl a wedding etiquette book. His family should be paying for flowers. Her family pays for the decorating...moh usually does do the shower though. That gir is unrealistic and I wouldn't be surprised if she ended up not having a moh. Sorry you had to go through that, but that doeant sound like a true friend. She sounds like a user. Only thing I made my girls pay for was their dresses. Mo.et was super tight for our wedding.....but we proved itcan be done and look good under 2k.
Yea I know. Just sad and hurts my feelings. But my wallet isn't thick enough for her. *eye roll*.
At least u found out why she didn't want u as the moh. But its still messed up the way she did it.
I talked to her today and she doesn't want to stress me or the baby out with the wedding planning. And that I was hurting in the money department due to work hours got cut, she didn't want me to have to spend money. Her idea of a MOH is that they have to pay for all the flowers, decoration and the bridal party gifts along with bridal shower! Wow! Did I miss something here? Since when is the MOH responsible with such a heavy load? I paid for my whole wedding even bought her gown! So I told her where she could stick her wedding, wished her the best and walked away. Then she called me a 'hormonal bi***'.. maybe she will open her eyes but till then I'm done. Sad to say that.
Talk to her. My moh that had promised waited til 2 months before the wedding to bail. She didn't even come as a guest cuz she claimed she couldn't get off work. We talked since the wedding. I can forgive, just can't forget.
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Aww that happened to me in my previous pregnancy my sister in law was going to make me bride said then found out I was pregnant & refused (I wasn't even showing yet)
But it must hurt not to take part at all. Speak to her, good luck
But it must hurt not to take part at all. Speak to her, good luck
i would definitely talk to her about it.
Thanks ladies. I want to talk to her about it but I don't want to sound like a bi**h. I just want to let her know how it hurt me. I understand its her day and all. But I do want to be apart of it. Help with the planning the way she helped me with mine. God! I'm pregnant not handycap!
that's messed up. i had a friend who got married a year ago and we have been friends for 10 years. i wasn't pregnant or anything but i didn't even get an invite to the wedding. i felt hurt..no one understood how hurt i felt till i told my ex bf (who knew that the girl was my best friend at the time we were together). i unfriended her on fb deleted her number, everything because i was so pissed at her. she actually contacted me a few weeks ago saying "why haven't we spoken to each other?" I was like really...you really need me to tell you why? people are so out of it when it comes to other peoples feeling.
Thats got to hurt hun and she probably doesnt realise shes hurt u. My best friend got married when we were 21 and i was going to be her maid of honour but then due to unforseen circumstances she ended up getting married in albania. When she renewed her vows with her parents back in the uk i didnt even get to go :( because i couldnt get the time off work. I was hurt beyond belief because i wanted to be there to support my best friend. But because i love her i was there to support her in spirit and wish her all the luck in the world x
She said I wasn't even a bridesmade because I will still be recovering. It doesn't take 2 month to be able to walk! So she said I was invited but not apart of it..
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