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Just wanna know.... what would you deem as the right age to have a baby ?

When is the right time for your parents to accept that you're old enough to have a baby?
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I am married and 26 years old, we are pregnant with our third baby now :)
I had my first when I was 18 years old, My second at 22 and now third at 26. I'm glad I started my family early. It is what works for us. We know our kids will all be 18 and over by the time we are 44 years old. I was always more mature for my age though. I believe everything happens for a reason, and nobody is the same. Therefore what works for me may not work for you. I also suggest talking to your parents asap.
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I have 2 kids already moved out on my own with my fiancée and we have another one on the way (only 9 weeks) and the only 2 people I've told are one of myclose friends from the military who also is pregnant again and has a baby 2 weeks younger than my last one and my sister who I'm very close to since we're only a year apart. I don't plan on telling my parents until probably when i find out the gender and I'll find a cute way to tell them so they're not soo mad that we didn't wait longer.so honestly i don't blame you for not telling your parents yet. I didn't even planon telling anyone when Ii was pregnant with my daughter i was just going to let them figure it out on their own but my mom got nosy and went through my car and found the proof of pregnancy
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I hear you ladies. Thanks for your input. I will bite the bullet as 2015Harmony put it and tell them.. and get back to you . Lacyfer I do believe I'm grown up its just some of us  dont deal with people and situations the same  way. When you share news of pregnancy you'd like to be supported and encouraged  . When you don't know what to expect from your parents it becomes a bit of a challenge.  Thanks ladies for everything
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That's a loaded question. It depends but Ur 33 wks & 25, Ur fine let them now ASAP. Just bite the bullet. I've had friends that had babies at 16 & others that had their 1st at 38. Every1 is different every life is diff & every situation is diff. What matters most is that U take care of U & baby. I'm not close w my mom, neither is my sis. I told my mom when I was 7wks, I was 28 & I ended up miscarrying-she was happy & had said I would be ruining my life. Got prego again I waited to tell her till after the 1st tri. I had my 1st at 29. But she has never supported my pregnancies. Which is odd bcuz my mom had her 1st @ 18 & 5 kids by 26. She didnt support my sisters either. My sis was 28 when she had hers. I have a wonderful family/hubby now preparing for baby 3 (now 36) I can't share anything w her as she always has something terrible to say. So I just don't engage & I tell her just enough. But you need to Ur parents now as Ur lil 1 will arrive VERY soon. Really there is no magic #. What matters most is what U do next & just supporting Ur baby.
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You should have told your parents a long time ago, I would have had a very hard time not telling my parents and I live several states away from them. I told mine at 8 weeks. I think you need to tell them now, not after baby comes. I agree that telling them after the baby is already here will only worsen any bad reactions they might have. I bet they will be happy about a grandchild but it may take a bit because you're springing it on them so suddenly.
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Sorry but if you're 25 (a full grown woman) and your that far along and still haven't managed to tell your parents then maybe you aren't make enough to have a child. You need to grow a pair and tell them cuz suddenly coming home with a kid is a $#itty way to tell them! They won't have any time to let it sink in or go through emotions properly and what I'd they want to give their grand baby a blessing or gift?! You seem selfish, grow up!!
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I'm having my first at 29 with my husband. I was in a long 8 year very abusive relationship before I met my husband in 2012. I couldnt be happier that I waited. I knew I wanted to be settled before having my little ones. Its all about life and how you feel!
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I'm having my first at 31 and I'm glad I had my 20's to finish school, travel, go to music festivals and get settled into my career.
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I'm 25 and 33+6 days. I'm so scared of telling my parents. I thought I'd go home during maternity leave. I'm scared that they will not assist me. I'm not financially dependent on then on any level I just don't wanna be  alone as this is my first one. I haven't seen my parents since Dec 2014 we leave in different cities. It's a bit depressing not being to share this time with my mom cos I this fear I have.
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I think you should have some life ecperience, have finished schooling, have a steady job and a stable relationship. I'm 26 and this will be my first.
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I started having my kids young. First one a month before my 19 birthday. It was unplanned of course, and I was even on the pill. She came anyway. Luckily I was mature enough and financially stable enough to raise her unassisted. I agree with waiting until you are a little older though if you can. In now pregnant with my third and although I don't regret any of my children sometimes I get so worn
down that I feel like I'm in my forties and I'm only 25. I have an excellent life with a wonderful husband and I can honestly say I have a good family but at the same time I feel like I wasted my youth. Believe me the college years were not like I imagined they would be lol. It all depends on your mindset and how you are able to cope with children because at the end of the day it's not about you, it's about the human that you brought into this world.
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Oh and ment to add me and my sons father got married after we had him now we are having our fourth baby were 27 now and have been together sence we were 18
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Everyone has a different parenting style and a different opinions. I had my first daughter at 15 (which I do not recommend). I now have 2 girls and am pregnant with my third (all same daddy). I don't now want my kids to do what I did. I think the right time to have a child is when your finished with your schooling. It is so hard to go to school with kids. It's not impossible but with children in the mix, it makes it harder. So I would say the best age would be about 27. That gives you time to go to school and enjoy your life a little before you become a mom!
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Well that would differ for everyone. Depends on how mature and self saficent you are. I had my first at 19 I was totally ready had a job and knew I could take care of him on my own. On the other had my cousin had a baby at 18 still does not work and has a hard time raising her baby. Now obviously that's just my opinion my parents was shocked at first but then were super happy
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