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sex after birth

My bf wants to have sex within the 40day of giving birth to our son cause he wants me to get prego fast for another baby. I don't mind but I know were supposed to wait..any thoughts..
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Do what feels right for you. If you feel like you are ready hen do it if you feel like your body needs more time slow it down. No o e not even your bf knows the anwser better than you will!!
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Totally agree you should wait a little bit simply coz your body need rest but no1 can really tell you if you will be fine or not getting pregnant right away coz every women is different. My boyfriend have 1 sister and two brother exactly 1 year apart from each other HOW CRAZY IS THAT ... I dnt know how in earth she did that bt she had baby and get pregnant 3 month later again and she did that  every year for 4 years LOL they all even from the same month :) so yh it is possible bt i wouldn't personally do that ... Good luck hun xxx
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I had sex on valentines day,  that's about a mth after my daughter was born,  and it was great.  I luckily didn't get pregrant.  But i agree enjoy your lil bundle of joy and wait till your body is healed before another baby.. Just discuss it with your hubby. Just. Tell him about the health benefits of waiting till u back to preprego n body normal.  Plus you can breast feed your baby a yr
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My oldest is 3 and then I got prego in November with second baby it really just happened but now were together since b4 then..I'll talk to my doc but were going for it:)
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Hey it's your choice and a decision you and your partner have to come to.  Talk to your doctor. My OBGYN said he wanted me to wait at least a year before having my second and I goto pregnant when my son was a year and a half
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I'm waiting until stitches heal if I have any or till I stop bleeding..I'll be sure to take care of myself.
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Its really not healthy for your body. And the risk for miscarriages and other complications are high. Waiting six weeks won't kill you. Ultimately it is your choice, but you want to give your body and your baby a fighting chance. I have seen one two many parents decide to have children that close. They could handle it, that's not the problem. It was just too much for their bodies. Most miscarried a few times. Others messed up their bodies to the point that they were unable to have children again by the age of 38. My sister is one of them. Just really give yourself time to heal. But it is your choice and I wish you the best of luck
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I had my first in may of last year and got pregnant again in October ....
Everything is fine my way so far... I'm due July 30 , but everyone is different
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I'm gunna talk with my doc so he knows as well..but were pretty firm on our choice
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Im neither yay or nay I'm neutral on this one I've seen good and bad things happen on this subject one thing i feel you should worry about having sex early is infection because even though you might not get stitches it's still an open and healing wound that semen may infect or even the moisture of the sexual activity can irritate u in there... Good luck
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Well I no I'm not having sex with stitches still there if tearing occurs I know that much but I know were going to when stitches heal very nervous but I know what I'm getting into
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i had my baby 2 weeks ago and the thought of me having sex again scares the crap out of me!! i cant imagine getting pregnant back to back the pain....ughhh!!
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Go for it :-)
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Right I'm 23 its my second baby and his first and he wants our kids close at age and after we have this one we want another I don't mind waiting 4weeks but we want to start before 40days I know it seems like its crazy lol and there's myths upon myths but we've been disscussing it since we met and we know what we want I want it as well.
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If I'm having a girl ilk be getting my tubes tied but if its another boy I'm going to wait only 6 months before we try again BC I refuse to give birth once I hit 30. I have no special reason for it I've just always said it since I was young. No babies after 30!!!
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It's not safe to get pregnant that early. And if your breastfeeding your milk will dry up. Should weight at least a year.
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I'll just tell you my experience with this. I had a baby in 2011.. and at 12 weeks postpartum, I found out I was pregnant again. Because of that happening so quickly, I had some issues.. My uterus prolapsed and was bulging out of my vagina when I went to the bathroom. If I barely even strained, you could see it start coming out. I was told it was because I had a baby so soon. I didn't have enough time to heal up.

I will say however, that I was able to deliver vaginally, and we waited until the baby was 14 months old before we start trying for another baby. I'm 37 weeks now with a boy and so far, we're doing well... My kids are the best of friends.. It's a decision you and your partner need to have an agreement and understanding on. No one knows what's best for you, but you. It's probably a good idea to discuss this with your doctor. Just for reassurance as to what you two want.
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My exs. Grandma had 15 kids everyone she got pregnant while breastfeeding within 6 months apart.  prenatal care for woman has came along way over the years so no I doubt you'll die from it. Anyone can die from childbirth at any point so I don't think k back to back has any reason ing. Just my thoughts though
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It won't make your baby grow up any faster either thats bs . any good mom can handle two babies and give each of them the attention and love they deserve. You'll be fine :-)
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I didn't wait w my first to have sex I think it was like 2 wks. But we didn't much until after 6 wks. I say go for it if that's what you guys wants. I want my kids close to I started trying when my 14 month old was 4 months and it took almost 8 months. Everyone will Give you your opinion but do what you want to do. :-)
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back to back pregnancies was one reason women used to die during childbirth/pregnancy with such frequency
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From the Mayo Clinic website:

Research suggests that a pregnancy within 12 months of giving birth is associated with an increased risk of:

The placenta partially or completely peeling away from the inner wall of the uterus before delivery (placental abruption)
The placenta attaching to the lower part of the uterine wall, partially or totally covering the cervix (placenta previa), in women who had a first birth by C-section
Autism in second-born children
Research also suggests an increased risk of uterine rupture in women who attempt vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC) less than 18 months after a previous delivery.

In addition, a pregnancy within 18 months of giving birth is associated with an increased risk of:

Low birth weight
Small size for gestational age
Preterm birth
Some experts believe that closely spaced pregnancies don't give a mother enough time to recover from the physical stress of one pregnancy before moving on to the next. For example, pregnancy and breast-feeding can deplete your stores of essential nutrients, such as iron and folate. If you become pregnant before replacing those stores, it could affect your health or your baby's health. Inflammation of the genital tract that develops during pregnancy and doesn't completely heal before the next pregnancy could also play a role.
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Thanks,me and him have been talking a lot about it I have a 3yr old and I'm due July 31st.this is his first and my second.we have sex regularly and I have no problems or pain right now.but he always assures me if I do have any pain discomfort to let him know but I enjoy it so I'm fine.
I won't have sex if I have stitches if I will wait at least 4weeks and know most of you were against my whole post and some with my post but it all comes down to me and if we as a family can handle it.I'm pretty sure I'm aware that its going to be hard for a bit but I know just having one child is hard..
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@ shortanddumpy1, we are due on the same day.
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