special needs baby

[carolinepozzatti]

Am I the only mom that is afraid to have a special needs baby?
Don't get me wrong but I guess all the moms here want their babies healthy.
I am almost 37weeks and thibking aboit it all the time.

[jesshat]

Thanks! My 6 year old son is super excited about having a sister and I hope I don't have to tell him bad news. My other son is only 7 months so he's not going to know anything other than mommy has lost it and is crying a lot. He probably already thinks that because since I found out I have been off and on crying thinking about it all.

[carolinepozzatti]

You are totally right, jesshat!
I am pretty sure you'll be a great mom and you baby girl will be the most loved girl in the world!

[jesshat]

Can't say it's not killing me because it is. I refuse to do test that may harm our baby girl if the ultrasound doesn't clear things up. I will carry her for as long as I can and hope for the best because no matter what healthy or not she is my daughter.

[JordansMommy88]

I really hope the best for you, jesshat.  I can't imagine even having to wait for an answer.

[mrsouidiani]

It's not a punishment of your child had a disability. I too, work with the developmentally disabled population, and I've had nagging fears that my first baby will be disabled.  But I've found (generally speaking, and not all fall in this category) that the children and adults that are most difficult to deal with were raised in a fashion that put their disability first. Ie, made exemptions and excuses for behavior as a result of the disability instead of acknowledging that all people ar responsible for themselves no matter what. I'm not afraid of having a disabled child anymore, and I will welcome the challenges if any

[carolinepozzatti]

Oun girls, you are all so kind and nice.
I wish all the good things for you and you babies.
Lets keep positive.
I am pretty sure I'll love my baby with all my heart if she has any needs.
God luck!
Wishing you all the best.

[jesshat]

I have an ultrasound tomorrow to determine if my baby girl has Trisomy 18 because her blood test came back positive. It so scary because most don't even make it to term or thru the first week of life if they do.

[Firstxmom]

I didn't get the test. Not sure why, but my Dr said our chance was way low but I work w the mentally disabled and I fear it will happen to my baby. I don't think I could be happy. Is that aweful? Of course I would love my child but it would be so difficult to care for and a life I don't want to deal with. I've done it for years now and don't plan on going back to my job. Just too much and ready to move forward. Just for thinking this way I sometimes think I'm going to get punished and end up with a disabled child.

[ksbwebdesign]

I think you would be a great mother even if you did have a special needs child. If you had the generic testing and everything was fine I wouldn't worry honey, it's our emotions that allows us to think this way and we all would like healthy babies like you say. Stay encourage sweetie all will be well.

[b4b]

My oldest has autism and I do worry. The whole situation can be stressful, but either way, you will deal with it. If you do have a special needs baby, you will find that you are stronger than you ever thought.

[carolinepozzatti]

I did. And everything is fine. Just mom's head I guess.

[greenwheellover]

Did you get the genetic testing?