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7965686 tn?1396910229

vanity and childbirth.

I see a lot of posts talking about "preparing" for labor. When I think of labor preparation, I think of making sure the diaper bag is stocked, my hospital bag is in order, and my older children are in a place to be looked after. I think it is utterly baffling to see posts where women are concerned about hair and make-up before going to the hospital. Whether or not their neather region been shaved or waxed so it's pretty when the dr sees it. I can understand primping after labor for pictures, but before just seems to be a wasted effort. As for trimming the hedges, I just don't get it. Do you really think the doc is going to look at it and go, "wow that's pretty" as your pushing the kid out? I don't think so...I just find the vanity of some hysterical given the situation. Don't get me wrong I prefer to be shaved a primped most days but it just seems misplaced to be so concerned about it when giving birth
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7965686 tn?1396910229
If you read my original post sew2009, then you would see I said I was all for primping and such any other day. So I "implied" nothing about women wearing it under normal circumstances. I have kids. cleaning, showering, combing my hair brushing my teeth. Making sure the kids are clean and ready to go. That's my routine for prelabor. I do makeup after maybe, for pictures. As for people taking pictures of you during labor. Why let them do it if you're uncomfortable with how you look? Cause no one else looks good pushing out a baby, just saying. Lol.
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7965686 tn?1396910229
I've never once been asked to "Shave" before labor. I wasn't "judging" anyone just saying that I though it was funny and strange how any women worry about it. Lol.
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I think it's funny that people do their hair and make up beforehand. It's not going to look nice after labor anyway. I'd primp after for pics, but people can do what they want. As for the shaving, the doctor really doesn't care one way or another. If they did, they'd tell you to keep it neat as you neared the end of your pregnancy.
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Before my last baby i showered, flat ironed my hair and put a bit of make up on. Im a nurse and work with ppl who deliver and my ob knows me. I felt better not looking like  dirty bag of crap before going in.
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I agree with it to some degree. I always have make up done whether I'm puking sick with a hivh fever or what not. It just makes me feel better. Hair I guess depends on my mood. its easy to put makeup on in five mins but to straighten my hair takes awhile I don't always have the time w a 4 yr old and 18 month old around. And shaving my legs is the least of.my concern in the dead of winter.......But my main.concern the last month is always.my house!!! I hate.thinking of how messy it will be to return to after 4 days in the hospital the thoughts of it give me anxiety very bad. I always have my sons clothes all out and this.time my youngest will be with my mil if its a weekend and.my sister if its a wkday. but I'm not sure yet if they'll stay at our house with him their own. So that's my issuee. I always vacuum and mop every single day!! But towards the end I'm especially anal bc you never know when it will happen. I'm just glad my oldest will be on winter break from school its.one less thing to worry about. And if I tried to update stuff on my phone during labor my husband would most likely throw it out the window lol.
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Saying doing makeup and hair is vanity is a bit harsh. If it makes the mom feel better than that's what is important. I didn't know I was going to the hospital when I did with my first so I already had my hair fixed and makeup on.... I knew with my second....i put on a little makeup and did my hair.... I wear very little makeup to begin with and after laboring a while, most of it was gone, but it made me feel like I was prepared. I am far from a vain person, but it is rather presumptuous of someone to say because I chose makeup I'm vain. My kids and bags and everything was in order first so it doesn't make me less of a mom for looking decent at the hospital. Just saying. Maybe you didn't realize that your comment insinuated that makeup wearing mom's are vain or that we aren't as good as non makeup wearing mom's. I dislike drama posts but I certainly don't want ftms to feel bad if they choose to do makeup, shave etc. To each their own. It certainly doesn't hurt the baby, so who cares?
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I agree with others. What's wrong with wanting to look nice on one of the most important events your life?
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"Utterly baffling" to think of a woman going through 9 months of ups and downs and god knows how long of a labour process to want to look pretty in their after birth photos for their friends and family that have absolutely not a single thing to do with you or anyone else? Yeah, totally baffling isn't it.
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WHatever makes you feel most comfortable during labor is what you should do. Like above comments have said most women whether ftm or not have there arrangements set up, hospital bags packed etc way before labor is even expected. I myself will also put on light makeup and do my hair before heading to the hospital. I have had my husbands bag, mine, and babies ready since 33 weeks along with everything organized and spotless in my house for a long time.I have shaved every other day, and had my nails and toes shellaced every two weeks for a while now, but that's what make me feel comfortable and better about myself. I have always been a clean manicured person so I am definitely not going to stop now.
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I started having contractions at 3am. I spoke with my doctor and he told me to head to the hospital to see if I was in true labor. I wasn't in that much pain, I got into the shower, relaxed and took my time. I fixed my hair into a bun and yes I did my makeup. It's what made me feel nice and relaxed instead of panicking about giving birth. To each it's own, If that's what people want to do, then who are you to judge?
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I agree. Anything that makes YOU feel better, go for it! :) I'm just wondering how do you even accomplish shaving? I'm 33 weeks and can nearly see anything anymore! Was even thinking of going to a salon for waxing but find that super embarassing especially being 8 months pregnant
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9812003 tn?1452545539
Pregnancy is hard and for many very emotional. If for one day after 40 weeks and possibly a few sleepless weeksafter
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9812003 tn?1452545539
Sometimes it's not for everyone else to understand. Having your hair and makeup done, and vagina trimmed or shave. Is a decision that many women make for different reasons.  
Like I will get my hair braided because it will be easier to manage rather than trying to tame my unruly curls after a c-section.
I will have my husband shave me because I don't want the nurse to do it.
I don't do make-up but I can imagine for the moms that do, that they just want to feel good and look good for the photos and videos that will be taken of them.
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I don't feel comfortable anyone else shaving down there if i need stiches. I would rather just take 5 mins of my own time to simply shave the hair off then they are free to do the rest lol
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Normally here if you don't go shaved already, they will shave you down there in case you need stitches or a C-section!!! The baby bag is something most of us have ready since week 24 out of excitement, the other things just come. I want pictures so i want to be shave and my husband will be down there waiting for the baby, taking pictures. Imagine like this the bleeding you don't want during first days having to remove that from your hairs down there. Even though if you are a mom you are a female too...some wants to look gorgeous when they are giving birth because i make them feel relaxed and confortable and others like to go more natural, wich i imagine is your case wich is perfectly normal too. Everymom has the right to choose how they want to give birth. If they feel empowered wearing make up, hey why not??? Not planning to offend here is just my honest opinion.
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My way of seeing it, working on #3 so I've had practice, you make sure you're other children are taken care of.  This is something most women  have thought of since the first positive on a test.  Those who aren't FTM's know what to pack in our bags.  I for one, when I went into labor with my first was at work, as  as I got home,  in the bath I went to shave and trim.  My second,  I labored all day,  before I went to bed, again shave and trim.  So with this one,  When labor starts, I'll get in the bath. I treat having a baby (as  as belly button down) like I would my yearly visit.  Now my hair,  forget it!  Pony tail to keep it out of my face, don't wear make up to begin with.  This is labor,  not a lunch date!
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9642453 tn?1407574022
I wonder how pple re able to post on the app during labour or maybe  not all women fell pain. I dint even know.whr my phone was during labour with my first. n wen my family called.i told my sis to talk to them, i cldnt tlk to.anyone.they pain was so unbearable......yet i read msg of my water broke am in pain, how re u able to write that in pain....just wondering
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Also i asked my mum and her friends about this as they are midwives they would prefer if there was no hair down stairs. They would have to shave the hair if they girl needs stiches.
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Obviously everything else has been organised an that is of course the main priority
.... getting 'waxed'  is just another extra thing in preperation to make sure i am comfortable showing my vajj. Don't judge anyone.
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I completely agree. It's labor, not a beauty pageant!
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Haven't*
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Haven't*hah
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Usually women have all those things in order wayy before time cause of excitement I know I will be (: but myself I feel uncomfortable at any giving point when having my  vajj out for everyone to see I would atleast would want it clean looking and I know I want Alot of photos from the whole experience with my newborn and id atleast wanna try to look like Ive been run over by a train .. Not being selfish but taking care of yourself and also making the experience comfortable also(:
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