Help me please emergency

[Needhelpasap9]

I'm 15 (I know Everyone probably thinks im a bad person) and I think I might be. I've been feeling sick about 2 weeks ago in the morning and now I'm having severe cramps in my stomach for the past week like my periods coming but it hasn't. It was supposed to start today and its usually early but I'm worried. I've thought I was pregnant before cause ive had spotting while not on my period most likely cause of stress but I also had other signs of pregnancy I ended up taking a test and it came up negative every time and I ended up getting my period early. My emotions are severely unstable which is a new thing and I've been very stressed and worried. My boyfriend and i have had unprotected sex 3 days that I was ovulating and last December we had sex everyday I was ovulating bug I didn't get pregnant, I ended up spotting which I've never done before and my period came on Christmas. I don't know what to do if I am cause my mom says shell force me to get an abortion, break up me and my boyfriend, and disown me. If that happens I know she can't make me get an abortion cause its up to the mother no matter how old if she wants to (I think...) my boyfriend has a job and makes decent money but I'm looking for a job I don't have a far yet but I'm getting my permit next month. My dad also wanted make me live with him and give up the child so my question is if I am pregnant could I possibly get emancipated? I'd have access to a lawyer but I don't know all my rights. Also can they actually force me to give the baby away or get an abortion if I'm not ok with it? Thanks for the help.

[CutieMommy2be]

One more thing... your not a bad person for this as you said above BUT you may be making some adult decisions on which you are NOT ready for.  I hope you the best!

[CutieMommy2be]

Needhelpasap9-  You are soo very young so this is a hard conversation as you still have school and a whole life ahead of yourself.  First, if you are pregnant NO ONE can force you to have an abortion.  Secondly, I wont beat around the bush here but rasing a baby is no easy task not only financially, but emotionally as well.  If your not pregnant I would think about getting on some form of birth control until your older, more financially stable, and even better MARRIED before trying concieve.  Please dont think im judging in any way or that I am trying to tell you what tp do only trying to help!  Btw.. a quick question.. Are you trying to get pregnant? Why would you have unprotected sex on your ovulation days?

[EllaMari]

Facts, research, and science are not judgemental they are just true. There are exceptions to every rule, but what makes them exceptions is the rarity of their occurance. Ever thing I said is backed by the CDC, APS, and every early childhood psychology/growth & development class I have taken.

[J42552]

If you're actually pregnant, you get to make the decisions about your baby and your body.

I work in an ER and legally, if someone is under 18 but has a child, that person can consent for themselves and their child to be treated medically. That's what I know about that.

Also, if you go to an ER as a minor and want treatment for sexual health stuff (STD testing, pregnancy testing, etc.) a minor does not need parental consent for that. Try to find a free clinic or STD clinic.

Good luck. I hope you get help. God bless.

[joceeykittykitty]

^Well that was totally uncalled for..
Excuse yourself,  don't be judgemental because you're no better.
Anyways. It could possibly be that you're pregnant, I had a light spotting three days before my period and,never got my period and ended up being pregnant. And the only way to get emancipated is to either show you're stable, have a job, and a place. Also graduating early. I got emancipated by graduating early and started college and lived at a dorm.
Its not your parents choice what you do with baby, Its up to you.

[EllaMari]

In order to emancipate yourself you would need to prove to a judge that you are able to be fully independent. As well as find a lawyer to do this for free. Do you pay for your own cell phone?  Do you have a car? A steady job? The ability to pay rent? Emancipation is very difficult to get without your parents being on board. I hope you are not pregnant and hopefully you will put it off till you are a little older and more stable. It costs about 1/4 of a million dollars to raise 1 child from birth to 18 - not including college. You would need to be making close to $50,000 between you and your boyfriend to raise a baby comfortably on your own. Poverty, instability, and stress are worse for small children than smoking crack while pregnant.

Your parents cannot make you do anything,  but they can choose to not support you. Best of luck to you.

[Bigapplefamily]

They absolutely cannot force you to do any of those things. And you can emancipate yourself at any time for any reason whatsoever. I think parents who would inflict the emotional abuse of an abortion or adoption are despicable and don't deserve to be a parent. Good luck hun!