Need Advice ASAP

[reeny555]

ok I had 2 different occurences I had sex using protection on 7/22 with my bf..i had sex 7/29 with a different person twice without using protection and using my ovulation calender it said i was most fertile around 7/29..I took a test today on 8/5 and it is positive very faint so i went to the store and got a more expensive early pregnancy test and it is positive..So now Im lost is this possible I am pregnant after a week of unprotected sex or is it likely I am pregnant by my bf who I used protection with a week prior?? what are my odds? what do you guys think? please no negativity or judgment I am really stressing this Thanx :)

[Clysta]

I would definitely think about your relationship if he's unfaithful as well. That's not a situation you want to bring children up in. Have either of you two considered counselling? If you want to stay together, it might be a wise area to start. You both need to figure out what it is missing and figure out how to make it better. If you CAN'T work things out, it might be better to end the relationship altogether. Is he still unfaithful?

[reeny555]

I agree I know I have to deal with the consequences and me and my bf werent perfect and he was cheating on me a lot so after years of that i guess when the oppertunity arrose i thought it would be justified even though I KNOW it wasnt..and yes im going to go to the doctors and get tested because I am afraid i couldve caught something from the guy I didnt use protection wit...theres no excuse for it ..I was being careless and the reason I was careful with my bf is because we have had issues with him being unfaithful..I know it sounds bizzare but this whole situation is jus so out of charector for me..i guess I will have to take it 1 step at a time n deal with the punishment as it comes :\ thanx for talkin to me I feel better I got some of this off my chest!

[Clysta]

I've seen these happen a lot--but it will be better to be honest. You definitely don't want something like this coming out in the future. Seeing as it did happen, I would say you need to evaluate why you did it in the first place. Something is likely missing from your relationship, otherwise you wouldn't have been unfaithful in the first place.

The only part that confuses me is that you didn't use protection either time you were with him. Not only now is it likely his child, you also put yourself at risk of disease from him--unless you know 110% he's clean from a doctor.

It's hard to do, but we have to own up and deal with the choices we make and the consequences that follow those actions.

[reeny555]

Thanx for the advice..Im scared to tell either of the guys...1 because my bf is also the father of my first child n of course im naturally scared hes gonna drop me like a hot potato..and 2nd the guy I didnt use protection with was like a 1night stand that was odviously the biggest mistake ever and im not even on speaking terms with him..This is really gonna ruin my life..i dont have any1 i can talk to and i dont know how to tell either of the guys..I mean my bf of 6 years who I live with and have a child with is going to take this the hardest I think and I know this is all my fault but I never thought this would happen to me..Ive never done something like this and now BOOM! its the worse case scenario..

[Clysta]

More than likely it was the guy you chose not to use protection with. While contraceptives can fail, the odds that they would are low. DNA test is the only way you're going to know. I would also be sure to mention to both men they have the possibility of being the father, and tell your boyfriend (I assume you're still together) what has happened.