Pregnancy test

[Semizm]

I had sex 5 days ago, (was unprotected, but didn't ejaculate inside) she is saying the pregnancy test shows positive. Is this posdible? Information says precum is very difficult to get someone pregnant and test results 5 days after intercourse are also rare. Am I being duped?

[Londres70]

Well, if you had sex with her in February it is possible she is telling the truth as you didn't mention in your original post that you slept with her in February.

Sounds like she could of just found out herself that she is pregnant.  Just because she didn't tell you sooner doesn't mean she isn't pregnant.  

I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 6 weeks along.  I had no idea.

[Semizm]

It's possible to go 7 weeks without a menstral period?

[Semizm]

Thanks.

[Semizm]

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[Semizm]

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[Semizm]

Yes, I did have sex with her previously, around the end of February. I would also assume that if I got her Pregnant then, I'm thinking if that were the case, she would have known sooner, not on April 12th.

[AnnieBrooke]

Not to be a killjoy to your relief, but perhaps she would have known sooner and perhaps not.  The end of February to April 12 is not a really long time.  See if you can tell her the idea about getting an ultrasound in her 6th or 7th week (counted from the first day of her last period if her cycles are regular) and see how many weeks 'along' they say she is.  A doctor's count will always begin on the first day of the last period, so count forward in time two weeks from that starting point to try to guess the conception date.  (Example:  If the doctor says "8 weeks," that is 6 weeks since conception.)  

If this does not clear things up, get a DNA test when the baby is born.  If it's positive I would suggest it is from the earlier sex and not the later sex.

Also, remember this worry and stress next time you are tempted to have fun without your condom.  This is why God invented condoms, so you don't have to go through this (and she doesn't either).

[AnnieBrooke]

* she would have told you "at" 14 days, not "are" 14 days.  

[AnnieBrooke]

Five days?  My IVF doctor would say no.  He says the embryo does not implant until day 6 at the earliest (it has to come out of a shell first, and that happens at day 5) and only once the embryo has implanted does it begin sending the hCG signal that can be picked up by a pregnancy test.  A home test is nowhere near sensitive enough to pick up hCG until a few days at least have gone by of the embryo signalling the woman's body.  Even a blood test can come up negative at 5 days, and it is a lot more sensitive.  

Did you ever have sex with this woman before the time you are mentioning?  If not, the pregnancy test (if it really was positive) is picking up a pregnancy from someone else.  Just tell her you will believe you are the dad when you see the results of the DNA test (and don't use a drugstore test -- call the family courts in your area of jurisdiction and get a list of labs certified by the court to determine paternity, and go in and give your swab to a neutral third party).

Regarding the question of being duped -- keep in mind that if she were trying to fool you, and if she is not a total dumbhead, she would not have told you at only 5 days that the pregnancy test was positive.  She would have told you are 14 days, or 20 days, both logical time frames for a woman to do a pregnancy test.  She would not have told you a story so easy to pierce as false, if she had the intent to defraud you.  So, be gentle with her when you explain you think she was already pregnant and it's not you.  Do tell her that you'll only accept a DNA test as proof, but don't assume she was lying on purpose.  She probably just doesn't know what the hell is what and made the assumption you must be the dad.

For her information -- if she will count out from the first day of her last period to 6 weeks out or 7 weeks out, in one of those weeks she can go get an ultrasound, and they will tell her an estimated due date for the baby to come.  If she takes that estimated due date home and counts back on a calendar 266 days, it will give her an estimated day of conception.  That might help her figure out who is actually the dad.  Tell her not to do an ultrasound too late or too early, that 6 or 7 week window (from the first day of last period) is the most helpful because after a while babies can develop at different rates and ultrasounds stop being that useful for trying to date pregnancy.

Offer her sympathy but in your position my posture would be that I was not the dad.  Good luck.

[Nighthawk61]

I agree.

[RockRose]

It's very unlikely that if she is pregnant,  that it's your baby.  

[Londres70]

Being duped in my opinion.

[Nighthawk61]

You've done your homework. It is rare, but possible to have a pregnancy detected through blood work (I found between 7 and 12 days after conception). Since you've said "rare"  that means possible, and you need to prepare yourself mentally and physically to support this child, should it be determined it is yours through a paternity test. Also, let this be your guide, to help you to remember to always CARRY A CONDOM AND ALWAYS USE A CONDOM.

Incidentally, If you are under 26 years old, please make sure you go to the doctor and get the HPV Vaccine. It can save you and the ones you love, a world of trouble later on in life.  Here's a link (and there are many) that talk about the necessity of the vaccine. (i found out i have HPV at 55 years of age, and now need to get tested to see if it's the strain that causes cancer or not. NOT fun). Wish i had of known there was a vaccine, that's for sure.

http://www.cdc.gov/hpv/parents/vaccine.html

Good luck, and i hope you keep us updated as to  your situation.