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So I'm really sure I'm pregnant. I have all the symptoms. But I won't show up positive on a test because the hormone isn't strong enough. But I have cramping hardness and So moody. And I haven't had my period since November but I miscarried in December. Does anyone think I'm pregnant.
Your Symptoms run in your partners side? Which symptoms? That isn't really possible. I it was twins that could only come from your side if it was fraternal and it is a genetic fluke if identical.
It is possible to have miscarriage like symptoms, but have a pregnancy carry on. You need to go to a doctor ASAP.
It is possible to have miscarriage like symptoms, but have a pregnancy carry on. You need to go to a doctor ASAP.
thank you to those who understand and are helping me, and im very happy that i have some peopl who believe in me, there are so many things that i dont want to share but i have more to think about than the people on here trying to tell me i am going to fail and yes i am 16 and yeah i am terrified and i am nervous but i will do this i will have this child and i will graduate and i will do it and those of you that disagree you dont know me but i will do this and my child will have the best i can provide for them. so thank you to the women who have been helping and not discouraging me. i really appreciate it.
Let's remember that words hurt and offend. We are a safe and supportive site for everyone, and there are better ways of saying things without being insulting. Please remember that some of these members are very young and afraid, and calling them ignorant is only going to push them off our site when they really need the support most.
If you find you can not be supportive, then please don't respond.
Emily
If you find you can not be supportive, then please don't respond.
Emily
I believe they are calling you ignorant and uniformed because of your actions, they aren't trying to be mean. i honestly would have said the same thing. Yes, your tests may have come up negative, but you said you're SURE you're pregnant. So therefore, that should be reason enough to get to a doctor and get the right care you need. Eating right and taking care of your body isn't always enough..things need to be checked. A person I know, who was taking care of themselves, was due in 2 months, just lost her baby because a mass ruptured on her spine. Things happen, you can say you took care of yourself, but what if there's something wrong that's too late to fix now? You should have been more responsble if you were so sure of the pregnancy. It's not something to take lightly, as I'm sure you know.
It's not as easy as it sounds to raise a baby AND hold a job. My friend who is 19, is struggling as it is, and it's harder to get a job the younger you are, PLUS you also have to do school...
I have nothing against teenage moms, my mom was one, and I honestly think that if you put your mind to it, you can manage...
I just hope things go well for you.
It's not as easy as it sounds to raise a baby AND hold a job. My friend who is 19, is struggling as it is, and it's harder to get a job the younger you are, PLUS you also have to do school...
I have nothing against teenage moms, my mom was one, and I honestly think that if you put your mind to it, you can manage...
I just hope things go well for you.
After reading through all of the posts, I don't think that anyone was being rude or disrespectful. People were being honest and letting her know what reality was going to be like. Raising a child at any age is hard. Being a minor, still in high school, and no job - that makes it even harder. You see women day in and day out who are TTC when they already have 2 or 3 or more children at home, yet they can't pay the bills they already have, they can't get the groceries they need, and they are already on government assistance. Yet here they are trying to have another baby, and another mouth to feed with more bills to pay. These women are selfish and disgusting. Their poor children will suffer and grow up to be just as ignorant because that's how they are being raised. It is more likely that this cycle starts from being a teen mother. No, not all teen mothers out there fit this scenario. I have massive amounts of respect for women like LilMama and Mamaof4410 who finished their education and did what they had to do to make sure their children have the best life, despite being a young mother. The girl who made this post does not need to hear that everyone supports her and that everything is going to be ok. She needs to hear the truth. She needs to hear that she is going to struggle. No, she may not fail and fall on her face - but she needs to know that it's not going to be a cake-walk and that she is going to have to work harder than people who own age who are not becoming parents. It's so sad to see young mothers drop out of school, not finish their education and live on welfare to support their children. It's also sad to see their lack of skills - unable to use proper grammar, punctuation, or spelling. How can you help your child when they start having homework, if you don't have basic knowledge?
Bree - I hope you know your options. If you choose to keep this baby, know that you can't rely on other people to raise him/her for you. You have to be the mother, the provider, the caretaker, etc. Babies take a LOT more than they can give for a very long time, and you will have to always put your child before your own needs and welfare. You also have the option of adoption. Something I haven't seen mentioned in these posts. There are 2 types of adoption - closed and open. Closed means you adopt the baby out to a family, case closed. Open means you still have the option of remaining in the child's life, but he/she will be raised by another family. I know it's not an easy decision to make, and no one wants to think of giving up their child - BUT, you would make your child's life better, you would be able to finish your education and childhood, and you would make a couple who is not able to have children on their own very happy.
Bree - I hope you know your options. If you choose to keep this baby, know that you can't rely on other people to raise him/her for you. You have to be the mother, the provider, the caretaker, etc. Babies take a LOT more than they can give for a very long time, and you will have to always put your child before your own needs and welfare. You also have the option of adoption. Something I haven't seen mentioned in these posts. There are 2 types of adoption - closed and open. Closed means you adopt the baby out to a family, case closed. Open means you still have the option of remaining in the child's life, but he/she will be raised by another family. I know it's not an easy decision to make, and no one wants to think of giving up their child - BUT, you would make your child's life better, you would be able to finish your education and childhood, and you would make a couple who is not able to have children on their own very happy.
I KNOW IT, We are all on here for some type of guidance We come here bcus we obviously cant get the support from family or friends. At any age it could be difficult, and nerve recking to tell our family. So its SAD to see women that are on other forums asking why? come here, and degrade, humiliate, and be insensitive, to another. especially a 16 year old girl..
i couldn't stand the way they were being towards her either. The way she was talking you could tell she was just scared that is why I posted my sisters story to give her some hope.
thank you for standing up for the way you did and alot of these women on here need to grow up and start realizing that instead of helping they are hurting.
God Bless You
Misty
thank you for standing up for the way you did and alot of these women on here need to grow up and start realizing that instead of helping they are hurting.
God Bless You
Misty
CORRECTION::::I AGREE WITH BREE, GUYS YOU ARE ADULTS THAT ARE TTC, OR HAVE CHILDREN, AND FORGOT THAT AT ANY AGE WHEN PREGNANT FOR THE FIRST TIME, YOU WERE SCARED AND ON THE INTERNET ON FORUMS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT IF THEIR WERE OTHER WOMEN LIKE YOU. SO BEFORE YOU PLACE JUDGEMENT, MAKE ASSUMPTIONS, AND NOT KNOW WHAT MAY BE GOING ON IN THE HOME OF A 16 YR OLD WHO HAS FALLEN PREGNANT, REMEMBER YOUR FIRST TIME, REMEMBER WHEN YOU FIRST HAD SEX, REMEMBER HOW U FELT WHEN YOU MISSED A PERIOD. BECAUSE WHEN I FIRST GOT PREGNANT AT 16 I KNEW ALL ABOUT SEX AND BABIES. I WASNT UNINFORMED, NOR IGNORANT, JUST FELT ALONE, WITH AN ABSENT MOTHER. AND NO ONE TO TALK TO, THEIR WERE MANY PPL, I COULD HAVE SPOKEN TOO, BUT HOW MANY PPL. ARE GOING TO GIVE A 16 YR OLD ADVICE/ OR HELP WITHOUT JUDGMENT ( YOU LADIES CANT ANSWER THAT BECAUSE YOUVE JUDGED) WETHER UR 16 OR 30 UR FIRST PREGNANCY WILL BE ALL QUESTIONS, BECAUSE ITS UR FIRST TIME. YOU DNT KNOW ALL THE ANSWERS, UNLESS UR ON A BLOG SITE, LIKE MOST OF YOU ARE. THERE ARE ALSO GROWN WOMEN ON HERE TELLING STORIES HOW THEY DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE PREGNANT AND THEY WERE SMOKING, AND DRINKING, THEY NEW THEY MISSED PERIOD AFTER PERIOD, AND TOOK TEST AFTER TEST AND IT WAS BFN, AND THEY DIDNT GO GET CHKD, WHAT ARE THEY IGNORANT AND UNINFORMED, COME ON, YOU ARE ALL ON THIS FORUM, FOR A REASON, AND TALKING AND GETTING HELP, AND WANTING TO KNOW SOMETHING.. SO I CAN WE ARE ALL UNINFORMED, SO YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP BEING IGNORANT AND PROVIDE HOPE, HELP, AND LOVE TO ANY GIRL, YOUNG WOMEN, GROWN WOMEN, BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY WE ARE TRYING TO FIGURE THINGS OUT. SHAME ON YOU.. PS.. I WAS RAPED AT 16.. I HAD A MISCARRIAGE .. AT 17 I GOT PREGNANT AGAIN, AND I DIDNT GET ANY CARE UNTIL I WAS ALMOST 6 MONTHS, I WENT TO GET AN ULTRASOUND BECUS MY DCT SAID I WAS TOO BIG, AND IT WAS TWINS, WHO ARE NOW 5 YRS OLD. SO WHO HAS JUDGEMENT, FOE ME.
I AGREE WITH BREE, GUYS YOU ARE ADULTS THAT ARE TTC, OR HAVE CHILDREN, AND FORGOT THAT AT ANY AGE WHEN PREGNANT FOR THE FIRST TIME, YOU WERE SCARED AND ON THE INTERNET ON FORUMS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT IF THEIR WERE OTHER WOMEN LIKE YOU. SO BEFORE YOU PLACE JUDGEMENT, MAKE ASSUMPTIONS, AND NOT KNOW WHAT MAY BE GOING ON IN THE HOME OF A 16 YR OLD WHO HAS FALLEN PREGNANT, REMEMBER YOUR FIRST TIME, REMEMBER WHEN YOU FIRST HAD SEX, REMEMBER HOW U FELT WHEN YOU MISSED A PERIOD. BECAUSE WHEN I FIRST GOT PREGNANT AT 16 I KNEW ALL ABOUT SEX AND BABIES. I WASNT INFORMED, NOR IGNORANT, JUST FELT ALONE, WITH AN ABSENT MOTHER. AND NO ONE TO TALK TO, THEIR WERE MANY PPL, I COULD HAVE SPOKEN TOO, BUT HOW MANY PPL. ARE GOING TO GIVE A 16 YR OLD ADVICE/ OR HELP WITHOUT JUDGMENT ( YOU LADIES CANT ANSWER THAT BECAUSE YOUVE JUDGED) WETHER UR 16 OR 30 UR FIRST PREGNANCY WILL BE ALL QUESTIONS, BECAUSE ITS UR FIRST TIME. YOU DNT KNOW ALL THE ANSWERS, UNLESS UR ON A BLOG SITE, LIKE MOST OF YOU ARE. THERE ARE ALSO GROWN WOMEN ON HERE TELLING STORIES HOW THEY DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE PREGNANT AND THEY WERE SMOKING, AND DRINKING, THEY NEW THEY MISSED PERIOD AFTER PERIOD, AND TOOK TEST AFTER TEST AND IT WAS BFN, AND THEY DIDNT GO GET CHKD, WHAT ARE THEY IGNORANT AND UNINFORMED, COME ON, YOU ARE ALL ON THIS FORUM, FOR A REASON, AND TALKING AND GETTING HELP, AND WANTING TO KNOW SOMETHING.. SO I CAN WE ARE ALL UNINFORMED, SO YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP BEING IGNORANT AND PROVIDE HOPE, HELP, AND LOVE TO ANY GIRL, YOUNG WOMEN, GROWN WOMEN, BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY WE ARE TRYING TO FIGURE THINGS OUT. SHAME ON YOU..
I understand what you are going through my sister got pregnant at 15 yrs of age and i had my first child at 18.My sister was also very confused she took 15 pregnacy test her first three months the doctors even took one when she was 9 weeks and her harmone level was low so yes that can happen. Now I also want to tell she was a strong person. when she found out for sure that she was pregnant she sat down and told our parents they kicked her out of there house and she had no where to go. They told her she wouldn't amount to anything and she even got kicked out of school. Well she went and lived with my aunt in a different state and let me tell you she got enrolled back in school and graduated top of her class with a three year old son when graduation day came she walked up to that podium holding the hand of my nephew And I have never been more proud of her. After graduation she went to college and became a nurse she has three more children now and single but she owns her own house and takes very good care of my neices and nephews. Don't listen to all these other people on here you can and will be alright just take care of yourself and that child.
You're right, you are just a child. But that changed when you made the choose to have sex and now you have to grow up far faster than you ever would have needed to. There is no easy way to do anything. You just have to be upfront, blunt and honest. You can not however say it's not your fault, you didn't mean for it to happen, stuff like that because it IS your fault, and when you have sex (especially unprotected) this WILL happen, whether you try or not. Does the father intend to stay? If not, it will be something you will also have to speak to your parents about. Be prepared for anger and disappointment. I got pregnant when I was 20, living with my husband (who at the time was my fiance) and my family was still disappointed in me. You have a lot you need to consider and think about now, and you will need the support of your family and parents--mentally and definitely financially.
I'm 15 and I took a test and I'm pregnant need advice on how to tell my mom... ima b smart and tell her so I can get the proper care and prenatal vitamins or what ever they r... I want to have a healthy baby because I'm goin to keep him/her...
Ok I'm 15 and I think I'm pregnant I'm going to tell my mom with in this week my friend is going to go with me to the doctor.... I'm scared and naieve.... anyone have any advice??? I'm 15.... I'm so scared and just throwing this out there if u don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all! And age doesn't matter bcause if I am pregnant that means I will be a 16 yr old mom... ugh weird to say myself as mom... hell I'm just a child myself how am I supposed to raise one... if anyone has advice on what to do please let me know
i also got pregnant at 16 luckily i had a boy with a good head on his shoulders who got out and made a living for us.If you dont have someone supported and MATURE then your in for a big suprise rasing a kid is not easy i had to quit school and stay home with the baby while my husband was working.i later went on to get my ged which i was tickled to death with.but its not easy baby girl you gotta grow up play time is over they are no more running to the mall or going to spend the night with a friend.Hopefully everything goes good and i hope you will keep us updated...
I have to agree completely with mamaof4...We are two women who were teen mothers sitting here trying to make you see that it's not easy...I wasn't as lucky and my daughters father didn't stick around but I found someone that didn't mind that I had a child, and even that is rare...Not many people at the age of 21 want to be with someone that has a child but my Fiancée didn't mind, and now we have two beautiful kids together...But like still isn't a walk in the park for us but we make it work...mamaof4 is right we are not being judgmental we are all being honest and realistic with you...You want us to think differently of you but you have not stated in anything you say to make us think any different...You get all mad and think that we are attacking you when all we are trying to do is save you from being another statistic and to make you try to understand that life isn't going to be easy for you...You say you have all the plans and what your going to do but the fact of it actually being done is slim to none...I really hope you do get as lucky as myself and mamaof4 but she's right we got a lot of help from people that really didn't need to help us...I hope you open your mind up a little and try to understand what it is all of us are really trying to do for you...
I completely agree with LIL MAMA. I to was a 16yr old mother. My kids dad stuck around ( I got lucky) most of them don't. I struggled to finish high school and went on to college. It was hard! We both had to work to pay the bills. W e had our own apartment and struggled all the time. Now we have our own home and each have our own vehicles. Have you thought about how you will pay for everything? Health insurance is not cheap. Formula is $14.00 PER CAN. And you will probably not be able to handle breast feeding so your going to need about 15 of these cans per month. They are not being judgmental. theyre being honest and you dont like it because it's the truth. I really hope you stop being irresponsible get yourself together and finish school. Stop having unprotected sex so you dont become another statistic. LILMAMA and I got lucky we have good guys that help us get through the day. And the chances of that happening are slim to none. The odds were truly against us as young teen moms. But we did it with alot of help from other people that didnt have to help. You really need to re-think the choices you are making and how they will effect everyone, not just you.
You are a very ignorant and uninformed person...You sat there trying to say that you new for a fact that you were pregnant for twins when A.You never had blood work. B.You never had an ultra sound...Do you see where any of us women are coming from? You made yourself out to be those things just by what you are saying...You chose to come onto the internet and ask people what they thought of your situation, and just from talking to you and the things you say this is what we clearly think...Like I was a 16 year old pregnant 17 when I had my daughter it's not a walk in the park...Let me guess the father is always going to be there...Right? Not likely, your one lucky girl if he actually stays...I'm now 22 with almost 3 children with the father of my boys who works, engaged and in college and I still struggle...Life isn't a walk in the park...A baby is something you get to just dress up...Money doesn't fall from the sky...and online classes good luck to you if you really do them, but chances are with a brand new baby sitting there crying your not going to...I said all the same things...Life hit me when my daughter was only 3months old and being watched my family so I could work two dead end jobs...I just got lucky that I had family that was willing to watch her for free...but still I didn't live at home I had my own place...We are not trying to be mean to you in anyway, we are trying to make you understand that so far on the things you have told us you have been everything BUT mature about this situation...All we are doing is making you see you are going to struggle it's going to be hard...Take it from a teen mom who was there...It's not easy...Good luck to you and your baby, but you don't know reality until that baby is here screaming every night!
If you are offended by the response you got on the internet then there is a simple solution: GET YOUR *** TO A DOCTOR! Don't rely on answers you get online. You were sure you were pregnant, but instead of getting a highly sensitive blood test at a doctors office, you got on your computer and ignored all the signs you say you've had.
I hope you do, I really do, but it's so easy to say these things now. You say you're going to get a job, but where would you work? Our economy is poor and when people who have gone to college have trouble getting a job, what chance do you think a teenager will have. We're not trying to be rude. We're being realistic and realistically it's hard. You have a lot you have to consider. If you DO get hired, who will watch this baby? Will you have the energy to stay up all night with a screaming baby and then go to work all day too? If you have no one to watch the baby, you'll have to pay for childcare and that's far from cheap. In my neighborhood, people pay 135+ a day for a child under one year. I really do hope that you can do it, because that baby is going to deserve the best it can get. You've just made things so much more difficult for yourself, and until that baby is here I don't think you'll really comprehend that.
i am so offended by all of this. im sorry okay i really am i know i should have went sooner but your not understanding i got a negative the first 2 tests so i was told i wasnt and when the hormone was strong enough it finally said positive.. im not a selfish scared little girl okay i am far from selfish. and of course im scared and none of you are helping and i now feel like im automatically going to fail because of you guys. and im not i am going to continue to go to school until my baby comes and then i am going to do online classes and get a job. and i will make something of myself while raising a child.
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