Alcohol consumption while pregnant

[tobbeyj]

Ok so a while back my hubby and I had a miscarriage. It was devastating but we managed to get through it together and accept that the baby was not going to be a healthy little one. Thankfully we are preg again. Ok so here is the question though. So right after the MC we had a going away party at our home. I had a friend who was preg at the party and she decided that she was going to have a beer. I was shocked....I personally think that we are given one chance with a baby and that drinking is prob not the best choice. Ok so then I discussed this with two of my closest friends...one in which thinks drinking in moderation is fine and the other who insists on ensuring me that although I choose diff that when she is preg - she will drink wine. Like am I the crazy one?  My hubby thinks that drinking is just risky too and that Im not crazy but like what the hell? Pls tell me how you feel!

[Hopeful2BPreggy]

I would just ask your Dr. Some say its ok to have a glass of wine and others would rather you didn't. It's a personal choice and if you don't feel comfortable don't do it. My Dr. says that it's fine to have a glass of wine once a week. He said that it could do no harm to the baby. Obviously drinking a lot on a regular basis will. I do know that while TTC it is extremely beneficial for both partners to refrain from alcohol consumption.  

[tobbeyj]

Thanks for all the comments guys. I have normal friends - I do  - but for three of my closest friends to make these choices - I felt outnumbered and as if they were gangin up on me. I am the only one in the group who has ever had a MC and perhaps thats why I am sensitive to the subject. I guess I just have to continue hanging with them and doing as I please and shut my mouth.  I just dont understand the one friend - who is my best friend who has already made the decision that she will continue to consume alcohol in moderation of course before she is even preg. I mean the subject came up when the situation and the BBQ arised and I guess she wanted me to mind my on business when the time comes....which I hope is soon for her as I know she is TTC now.

[Kamyrn2009]

No, you're not crazy at all! I really hate that some ppl choose to drink during pregnancy. Even though some say a glass of wine is ok...why take that risk? But, you know ppl are gonna do whatever they want so as long as you're doing everything you can to make sure your child is safe, thats all that matters***

[jlankford09]

I think its just what other ppl and their docs decide. To each their own. I, however, have never been a big drinker. Id have drinks at a bbq.. things like that.  When we decided to start ttc, I stopped drinking totally. And we started trying in May. There's been lots of bbq's since then. LOL.  Everyone would just look at me weird because I told them I wasnt drinking and hadnt been for a few mths. No one in our families know that we have been ttc or even that we are now pregnant yet. =)

[ernie13]

i am feeling bad enough about drinking a ginger ale or two a day. its been the only thing to keep me from throwing up and really can't go without right now. i am glad its caffeine free at least.

[tobbeyj]

Thanks for your thoughts. I am not a big drinker either. I can get a kick off of a good coke with ice...Mmmm and I have even tried not to consume that. Call me paranoid now after the MC but I don't wanna have anything happen this time - even though I know a coke or a glass of wine wont cause a MC - I just think that its sad if ppl can't not consume alcoholic beverages for 9 mos. These babies have one chance. ONE!  Such a touchy subject though.

[ernie13]

i agree with you. no drink is worth it to me. i would never forgive myself if something was to go wrong. a few of my friends have been telling me its ok to have some red wine here and there and i just look at them like no, i am not drinking anything. i have never been a big drinker, so i guess its been an easy thing to give up. i dont understand the people that feel the need to drink...thats just my opinion. i dont like the taste of anything, so i guess if i did , it might be different.