I'm trying to not be scared...

[TarHeelBaby2010]

I found out yesterday that I am 4 weeks pregnant with a very clear BFP using First Response. I am VERY happy but scared at the same time. Three years ago I had 3 miscarriages within a 12-month period...I had gotten to 10 weeks with the last one. Well since then i have divorced my ex-husband and have found love with a new wonderful  and we are getting married August 27th. We had already talked about ttc after the wedding but to our surprise we are preggers now. I guess I'm worried b/c of my past history. I have had multiple tests ran on me and have been told that there is no reason why I shouldn't be able to have kids (BTW - i do have a 9 yr. old wonderful son so I can carry a child full-term). I was beginning to feel that my past history with miscarriages were due to my then-husband and his infidelity...however, my son is actually our child together so we could have children together, but the dcotor did say that even though we had a child, we may not be compatible to have kids. I am trying to stay positive but I fear losing this child too b/c of my history. I will have to be watched very closely b/c of my history. in my heart of hearts, I want to believe everything will be okay, but I'm just afraid of being disappointed and disappointing my soon-to-be hubby. Someone please tell me to chill out...LOL...thanks for listening to me

[tobbeyj]

I can go to a walk in clinic - but to be honest the docs there are not my fav poeple. I think I am just out of luck and when I do show up for my 12 week apt. then all will be well. This is what I am hoping anyhow. Even though I made it to the 20 week mark last time, the fetus was only 8 weeks and so I have only ever seen a little blob in the US. This time I am hoping for something that resembles a baby :)  obviously. I am sure they will do an ultrasound- but I have called them 2x and the lady said no. I can make my water works start in my eyes and maybe the doc will feel sorry for me and give me one anyhow. I mean if protocol here is 20 weeks then I should be no different than the rest. Having one MC doesnt put us at risk of another said my doc....I have the same chance of having one as the 25 cent hooker who works downtown new york city who smokes and drinks daily... docs words not time...I think he wanted to ensure me that there was no actual reason that it happened. He was a little blunt - but when I finally was introduced to him - it was a relief. OK well again - thanks for all the reassurance.

[katieamelia]

I am in the same boat...two m/c since January. Had all the tests done - everything came back normal. Now we're 8 weeks pregnant and I'm sick with worry - although we've made it further this time and last week we saw a strong hb! But I know exactly how you feel...it seems like it almost doesn't matter how much time has passed if you can lose it at any moment. But try to focus on the statistics. Most people who have multiple m/c will go on to conceive a healthy baby. You know you are able to conceive, and with a new partner, your chances are even better.

Tobbeyj, with your history (which sounds very similar to mine), you might be able to insist on getting an early u/s. My doctor was willing to do one at 7.5 weeks. You should at least be able to get a couple of HCG tests to make sure everything is progressing. I don't see my doctor again until 12 weeks, which feels like forever. I can't imagine how you must feel . I wish there was a way to check everyday that things are ok.

Good luck and congrats to you both!

[tobbeyj]

My doc does not want to see me until week 12 this time....which some minutes I am ok with and others I am balling about. Pretty nervous but at least then when I go for 12 week apt. I will have some solid answers whether or not baby is ok. Our last MC was discovered at week 20 and the fetus was only 8 wks.....this time I will know better.

[TarHeelBaby2010]

Thanks so much for those words...you gave me alot of comfort. I'm taking my chill pill (figuratively...not literally) and enjoying being preggers. I will be making that drs. appt for hopefully early next week. Thanks again for responding.

[tobbeyj]

Chill out! JK JK JK easier said than done. My hubby and I had 2 MC's since January and we are just over 7 wks preg now. I am staying calm but that is not to say in the back of my mind that I am not worried to. It is normal to feel concerned, but I am a believer that there is no reason to worry until there is reason to worry. Just because we have had MCs in the past doesnt mean this will be a MC too. So lets hang in there and think positively, pray if that makes you feel better and the best thing you can do for the little bambino is not worry. It needs supoport and strength from you. Please know though that you are not in this alone and that I have the same concerns and worries as you. It is soo normal but we will get  through what is being offered. Take care of yoursef and that is all you  can do for little one. In your own words CHILL OUT!  :)  Oh yeah - ps congrats on the BFP!  :)