i am sad and angry today

[colorado_g]

its not reated but i just have to write about it maybe it will help me relax

so my dh has 2 kids from prewious mariage (15-g and 11 - b)

the boy is not a big problem but the girl i thin its the worst kid i can imagine

thts what she sent on skype today

" where is my money? he sents money to my mom not to me.

today she didnt want to much only expensive pants from victoria last time it was iphone

i dont buy stuff for that muchwe dont have that much money
she never said pls all she say is you have tooo

she swears on facebook and myspace he wont tell her a word

and i am the bad one for saying that something is to much and that she is mean to me he dont care:(((
all he said is this are my kids
his son ones told me that if we will have a kids my kid will be sick b/c his mom told him that his dad make sick kids

(his son was brn with bladder extrophy) its genetic and not related to parents

he didnt even say a word to her

sometimes and a lot of time i fell like shiet and that she is the one and she is still in love with him but she has another kid with other guy thats why i think if not the baby ge would be still with her


what you girls think

[blueeyedtabbycat]

I am so sorry that you have to go through this:( I have similar problems with my step daughter and her mom. I try not to get involved if I can avoid it. She doesnt live with us yet. Her mom thinks she will be living with us after school is out because she has had it with her daughter. My hubby pays $800 a month in child support but her mom thinks we still need to buy her school clothes too. Her mom blows the money on herself and her other kids and doesnt spend one cent on  my step daughter. Its frustrating!! But im sure if she moves in with us I will be going through the normal teenage stuff like expensive jean. I will have 4 other kids to support so that wont fly. I do consignment shops and Target for my kids, if its good enough for them than its good enough for her, lol. I hope things get better soon, you dont need the extra stress while pregnant!

[NicMom]

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. My sister is in the same boat and she calls on a daily basis to vent. Her dh let's his bratty daughter get away with everything. It's so bad. The crazy thing is they don't even think that it's his daughter his ex was cheating on him and the girl looks exactly like the mom's new husband.

Something about girls and their dads. These are hard years also because she's a teenager. I really hope that I have a boy because teenage girls scare the **** out of me.

Hang in there and try not to get too worked up about it, just blow it off and ignore her antics.

[colorado_g]

target she wont event go there abercrombie victoria secret and it has to cos over 50 or she even want look at it

her mom just clled me from girl cell and start yelling at me . what a heck u a millionaire then buy her 70 pants we not , he is curently ot even working

he slept in dirent room tonight and i cried the whole night but i have to think about my baby and i am so scared:((((

[JAXX55]

Tough situation but in my opinion, and its just my opinion, if you(anyone) dont set boundaries and limitations on kids, they will never learn respect and/or responsibility. Maybe you can explain this to him in a nice/loving way. Everyone needs to be held accountable for him/herself... if we as parents dont teach our kids this, we are doing them a disservice. So, although it may seem that spoiling them is showing them love, its not. Its a lazy way of just appeasing them. Its not teaching them to be respectable, self-sufficient adults - thats what love truly is... that's why they call it "tough love", because anything worthwhile is NEVER easy... but if you(or he) love the children, then bring them up to be appreciative, respectful adults... again, this is just MY opinion. I know you understand this, the trick is going to be getting HIM to... Good Luck Hun!

[jenkaye21]

I have a 16 year-old step-daughter, and thank god my DH would never let her get away with acting like that!  He sends his child support, and she *rarely* gets (or even asks) for $$$ out of him.
What stinks is she lives with her maternal grandparents, who are wonderful, but the $$ goes to her dead-beat mother, who receives child support from three different fathers-- (who needs a job??)
Anyway, I treat her the same as our own kids.  When she went on vaction with us, she got the same amount of spending money (very little), and when I took her school shopping a few times, it was consignment stores like my kids wear.  Now that she's older, I don't even bother.  I know consignment clothing would not suit most teenagers, although it is brand name like you get at the mall!!

Anyway, there isn't much you can do.  DH needs to step up and act the parent, maybe with the baby coming it will be easier for him to say "No" once in a while!

[colorado_g]

i hope thanks girls :))) i always say i will spoil a baby but they need to respect us our job and understand that spending money is easy but mking them is a hard job . they dont grow on trees (  i wish they do)