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694568 tn?1228844471

Is is safe to make physical contact with dh in the early stages of pregnancy?

Sorry for the embarracing question but is it safe to make physical contact with dh in the early stages of pregnancy?
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You know, I read your post yesterday, and didn't think anything of it.  Wouldn't you know that I had a BD dream last night?  God knows if anything happened.  I have such a bad head cold, I wouldn't know if someone hit me last night, after I finally fell asleep.
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694568 tn?1228844471
Thanks for your advice, we haven't actually done the do at all, we are waiting until we know whats what and when the time may be considered as safe but because I'm really missing the physical side of things with my dh as we are very close like that, I'm dreaming about it and actually having o's in my sleep, it has happened a few times during this treatment, I know that I have actually experienced o's in my sleep as I have woken up staright after and felt the sensations - HOW EMBARRACING and the other night when I had 4 separate o's in my sleep, I occasionally woke up after most of them, I remember waking up in the early hours and when I fell asleep again, I couldn't believe it, I dreamt the same again and had another o and I could tell by the way I felt!!!

Sending o thoughts to you all who are choosing to wait!!!
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229439 tn?1245812437
I have to ask how do you know you are having O's if you are asleep????? And wow you must be a sexual person to be able to have O's just like that. I'm jealous.
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682075 tn?1246999771
Like lmcrt, my RE put us on "restriction" until they gave us the word.  Did we listen--kinda but after my 1st ultrasound and they saw a heartbeat we got the green light for intimacy.  DH thinks maybe us getting physical caused one of the twins to stop growing but I don't think so. He says he can't help but keep wondering.  Having had 2 children naturally in the past I told him with my first one I did not even know I was pregnant until my 1st trimester was complete.  My 1st ultrasound I was 14.5 weeks pregnant and with my son we just carried on as usual so I can't say that physical contact causes m/c.  When we attended our IVF seminar the pyschologist there said the reason they tell couples not be intimate is because if they do miscarry they blame themselves and say "What if?" He said there is no scientific proof that this is the cause.

Hope this was a help.  You and your DH have to do what you feel is safe and right.
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694568 tn?1228844471
This is even more embarracing but we've been avoiding sex altogether for now and I keep having dreams where I'm dreaming about it and I have loads of O's in my sleep, I know that when that happens, your womb contracts and I don't know if this is ok or not - how annoying, I have kept away from him in that way and it's happening in my sleep!! I think it may be a side effect from the drugs I'm taking.

I'm worried sick, last night the same happened and I had 4 O's, DO I NEED TO WORRY?

HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE?!...
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229439 tn?1245812437
My RE told me to wait until the first ultrasound then after that we could resume things as normal and could have sex. I on the other hand am scared to death to do the deed and want to wait until at least 12wks or even later. However I'm a little scared I think becuase for some reason with my hubby everytime we have sex it hurts if he goes all the way inside becuase it hits my cervix. So thats keeps me a little cautious.
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400358 tn?1320234443
What if you had FET is it still safe?? I heard somewhere that you should wait until the first u/s??
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666089 tn?1260520261
it is a-ok! just dont be ruff if your going to do-the-do
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