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Working on birth plan-any suggestions

I am trying to work on my birth plan so I can go over it with the doctor on Monday. I want to have it ready because I have been told that to get a good idea of when you could go into labor is to look at when your mom did and my mom had me 5 weeks early so I want to be ready. Anyway any suggestions on what to add. I have never been to a birth in person so I am not sure what to expect from the hospital. I want to try and have labor progress naturally and want to try without meds.

Please any suggestions would be appreciated!!! If there was anything you would have had done differently or really liked that you did at your birth please let me know. I want Alex's birth to be special and a wonderful experience!!!
Mandi

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Well for my birthplan I started it off with a short greeting saying this is how I would like my birth to be but I understand that things may change if there are any complications.
I have my preferences for during labor, being able to walk around and wanting the lights kept low, who I want to be with me, etc..
I have my preferences for monitoring, external, internal, continuous or not.
For things like artificial rupturing your amniotic membrane and episiotomies make sure you have your preference for those. Some hospitals will do them without asking you. They gave me an episiotomy without telling me for my daughter.
For pain meds, If you do not want any just say you realize that many pain meds exist and you will ask for them if you need them but you prefer to labor without. Some hospitals will go to every patient explaining and offering the epidural. So if you dont want them to mention an epidural make that clear to them.
Also you can put your preferences about Cesarean, delivery, postpartum, breastfeeding, photo/video, and it sounds terrible but put in there what you want in case of complications, if the baby is sick. For example you may want your DH to be able to go with the baby if he needs to be taken to the NICU.
Also there are lots of websites that help you make a birth plan.
I hope this helps, good luck!

PeanutMom
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qw
I wanted to be able to use my birthing ball & get in the tub.
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I was pretty adament about not getting an episiotomy. I read that 80% of them are no longer necessary with perineal massage, etc, but that male doctors almost always do them routinely and women docs almost never do them unless necessary. I would really make it clear that you don't want one unless medically necessary....healing is so much faster and less painful....and contrary to popular belief, a little tearing is MUCH easier to heal than a cut. Tearing only goes through a couple layers and when they cut it goes through all the layers.
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If you want to find a good birthing plan go onto babycenter.com, that's were i got my birth plan from that DH and I are looking over. How are you feeling these days? How much longer do you have left to go again?
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Good to hear from you!

I have nothign to offer on a birth plan because I created one with my DD and things didn't go as planned and my "plan" with this one consisted of showing up at the hospital! LOL

I will say this though, create your birth plan with the knowledge that birth is a process you simply CAN'T control no matter how much you try. The baby will come when it's ready and how it needs to. Create the plan, TRY to stick to it, but realize that sometimes there are things beyond your control and don't be disapointed if things don't unfold exactly as you had "planned".

NOT getting an epidural for axample, does not make you a hero. If you need it, accept it without guilt.  Requiring a C-section does not make you a failure, you want the baby out the safest way possible and that may be it. Unfortunately, nobody offered me this wisdom and I refused the epidural until I was unconscious with pain and HAD to have it. Then I required a c-sectin and spent the first few post partem days in utter disbelief that my body had failed me and my "birth plan" didn't work out.

Go in with a birth plan, and be committed to it but create an addendum that goes soemthing like "This is my plan but if it doesn't work out this way, I will not beat myself up over it."
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