Anyone spilling the beans yet?

[AdrienneLIQ]

Just wondering if anyone has started telling family/friends/co-workers, etc. yet?  I have only let the cat out of the bag with two people at work....whereas my husband has pretty much made the announcement at his job.  This worries me because unfortunately so much can happen.  As for family.....DH  insisted we tell his parents last week....and we're going to my parents tomorrow and I think we're going to tell them.  Still nervous for the same reason.  Just curious what you all are doing....I always thought I'd wait the full 3 months....but man it sure is hard to keep it to ourselves! LOL  

[Pipey]

Last pregnancy we told our parents at 11DPO so 3 wks 4 days pg, I told my office colleagues at 5 wks and the rest of the world at 11wks.  This time round we told parents at 4 wks 2 days which is the day I took the test.  This baby wasn't planned as my first born is only 8 months old but we weren't trying/weren't preventing and were prepared to take the next one when it was ready to come as you just never know how long it can take.  So I am feeling shocked at the moment.  I'm just not ready for another little person but I guess that is why we get 9 months!

[kele1129]

When we started our IVF journey, we told everyone (friends, family, work). When it failed it was so hard to have to tell so many people that we were not pregnant :(  The second time around we told very few people (only need to know people) so it was awesome to call up friends and family to tell than that we were pregnant! This time around it was a total and utter surprise but we are being cautious about telling. Immediate family and close close friends. I really just want to get into the dr's and find out if everything is good and what week we are at.

[mjmom69]

We were hesitant too, we only told our parents the week before the ultrasound and kept it a secret from everyone else. We told ourselves if the ultra sound was good, we'd start telling the people we were closest too. That snowballed because everyone loves to tell your happy news so now even the corporate bosses know! I hope everything is ok. I don't want to tell anyone bad newst. I'm just praying it will be and I'm pretty hopeful about it.
It's fun to tell thought, isn't it!!!

[jhopeful]

We were kind of hesistant on telling a lot of people because of our MC last year.  But we were just to excited.  It started off with just my immediate family and his family.  Then we each told our close friends.  Then a few more people.  Then when we saw the two heartbeats and saw everything was going better than last pregnancy, my husband went crazy and told everyone!! He told everyone at work, a few more friends and posted on his fantasy baseball boards! haha.  He wanted to post it on facebook too..I told him to slow down!!!  LOL  

[smjmekg]

We told everyone again the second day of my BFPs. Lol. We can't keep a secret, I was 12 DPO, which would have put me at exactly 4 weeks.

[WifeofAnt]

We told everyone IMMEDIATELY!! We were so excited and didn't see any reason to hide it from anyone.  I was only 10 DPO (3w3d) when we found out so I was really nervous but everything has gone well so far and my baby shower is even in planning now.

[AdrienneLIQ]

Well....I told my parents today...and I have to admit....it all feels so much more real now!  My mom was through the roof happy.....my Dad took a little longer to digest it but overall is happy.  See.....with me it was kinda hard because unfortunately my sister died in childbirth 10 years ago this month....so it's always been a "touchy" subject.  But they are happy and excited....and that helps me be that way too.  Now we just keep praying that all goes smoothly and I will have a beautiful and healthy baby in December!  

[lori0615]

I told my mom cause she was here visiting, (my son over heard us talking so he knows). we told my mother-in-law cause she wanted to know as soon as possible so she could save vacation time and come see the baby since this will be her first biological grandbaby. She about lost it when we told her cause she knew we had tried for 3 yrs since miscarriage. I told my friends and my husband told all his friends on facebook which i was not thrilled about but oh well. the cat is out now :)

[krey]

I was too excited to keep it a secret too. At first I just told close family and friends.. Then I started telling the girls I work with.. Right now there is about 15 people who know. I am keeping it from everyone else until I get my first Ultra sound which is paril 27th and I cant wait!!

[jennlaurin80]

im going to agree completly with rodebaby...i was far too excited to keep it a secret. I also had several co-workers asking me how everything was going&very supportive...3 of which had gone through the same infertility issues, so it was hard to keep it a secret when everyone wants to be excited with you. It felt great to tell everyone i finally got my BFP! And it helps that they are very concerned with anything i do...making sure i dont do any lifting& letting me take extra breaks to eat something so i dont feel sick.
Cat was out of the bag for me at 5 weeks. I think it keeps the stress level down when you have people excited for you, and making you feel good :)
It feels nice to get congratulated....we deserve it !

[rodeobaby]

Chiming in. I'm in the same boat as you AdrienneLIQ. My husband has shouted it from the roof tops... first with the news that we are pregnant, and now with the news that it's twins. I guess after so many years thinking we would remain childless, he is entitled to show some excitement. And to be fair, it was hard not to tell people, when you have to take so much time from work for IVF treatment... and of course everyone inquires how it's going. He says it is more people to pray for you and more support if something goes wrong. Although I pray we never have to test that theory. Cat's out of the bag, so instead of worrying I have decided to join in the excitement. Afterall, I only plan to do this once!

[AdrienneLIQ]

Awww....I'm so sorry for both of your experiences.  I know....I really didn't want to tell anyone (the two people I told at work are dear friends of mine).  My DH has gone hog-wild, though!  We are going to tell my parents today though....I'm currently 7 weeks PG and luckily yesterday I saw and heard the heartbeat which was pretty awesome....but still so much can happen....it's not over till the Fat Lady (meaning me! LOL) sings....

Good luck to you all and thanks for your input.

[jilianporter]

Last time, we only told my parents and my mother-in-law...who couldn't keep it quiet like we asked and told my father-in-law (who is also my boss) who told our office manager...so of course everyone else in the office found out as well (although I didn't know this until weeks later when the office manager called me in to say "I hope you don't mind that I know you are pregnant.")  well, by that time, I had already miscarried (a blighted ovum around 8 wks just like crysandjeff) and I felt bad for both of us when I had to inform her that I was no longer pregnant.

So long story short...this time my parents know, because they have been so supportive during the challenge that the last two years of TTC and infertility and PCOS, surgery, etc... not saying a single word to my in-laws or anyone else until the first trimester is over.

[crysandjeff]

I had told everybody about my last pregnancy as soon as we found out and at 8 weeks I had an ultrasound that showed a blighted ovum.My nine year old daughter was very upset  and everybody  was super supportive. This time we have told everybody but the kids.We plan to wait until 12 weeks to tell them. My doctor recommends that you only tell the people that will be supportive if something horrible happens. Had I told nobody I would have been left to face my loss alone( my husband was on business in Japan). I say spare the children just in case but tell your friends and family for sure.Just my opinion.