Am I still a person or just a mum? (Is a little romance too much to ask for?)
About a week ago I realised that my best friend had turned into my workmate. And that we only seemed to get any time together 'on the job'. I missed him, his attention, his insight, his humour and the way I used to feel special around him.
Not that much has changed. Only his job, starting our married life, moving house and adding another baby to our family (now 3 kids). Essentially, not the amount of time we have together. We still see each other every day. Just how we are spending that time.
We used to share our interests. Go out together. See friends or invite them over. Sleep in and cuddle in bed while talking about the previous night out and how much fun we had, how good the music was, and about the interesting people we had met.
I decided that some change was definitely in order. Time to schedule time for us. Plan to take the family out for dinner. Plan something romantic to look forward to for our next anniversary (the newborn baby trumped the last one). And DO something other than just flop exhausted onto the couch at the end of the day to watch an hour of telly and then crawl into bed!
Of course, we are have mixed sucess at the moment. But already things feel more like they used to. Even just hearing about sonething that he has thought of that we could do together makes me feel more loved and valued.
Surely we can't be the only ones trying to hang onto our identities and still be parents..
Does anyone have any helpful suggestions?
Stories they can share of their own experiences?
Or are you just stuck in this situation and don't know how to fix it?...
well now that sounds alot like my situation there new house new married life three kids and working full time / Me and and the Dh dont get any time to ourselves anymore and sometimes i think that is what fuels are fight we just donthave time to talk anymore. not so much because of the kids but i think it is more me having ot work opposite shifts of him doesn t help.
on our frist wedding anniversary we did nothing this year we went to see a movie that he wanted to see not me but hey that was becase all threee of the kids were sick but hey that is how it goes
sometimes i sit and wonder how we managed to get so far from where we were when we started. BUt again life changes all the time hopefully we well be able get back to there with time
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