Hello my med help friends just checking into see how everyone is doing? I was sitting here wondering how everyone else's Dh are doign with adjusting to the new life? Well seeing as this ismy Dh frist baby and my third i was thinking that when i had my frist my life completely changed and it changed again when i hadmy second and my third but it seems like my Dh doesnt want to change anything about his life.even though he has now a wife and three kids. Maybe i am just in the need of a good vent so sorry if this becomes like one. Well He loves his daughter there is no doubt about that but i dont think he knew how much his life would be different. It seems like everytime i have a day off he wants to go out with friends instead of stayin home. Now i am not against him going out with his friends we all need time to be ourselves and have what i like to call adult time out with other adults no kids involved. but it seems likehe always is running out the door. Now i ahve tried asking him about it but he doesnt hink he is doign something that is up seeting me even though i try to tellhim that it does of he does everytime i have a day off. I dont know maybe it is the lack of sleep causing me to think this way . It just seems that i never get the chance to go and do something i want to do i always have to bring the kids. Now i usually bring the kids with me everywhere an di never have an issue with that but sometime i jsut want the chance to take a shower with out someone inthe bathroom with me lol. It jst seems like i am the one who has adjusted everything and he has adjusted nothing. He goes when i am home with kids and stay there wiht all the kids and get them already forbed then i sit and do laundry or whatever needs to be done. i laugh and tell everyone ihave two full time jobs and one the them i work 24 hours a day ( and love doing) and the other one pays for the frist job. Seems like the only time i get to have adult and not bring the kids with me is when i am at work even then that is not somethingi want to do. I have talked tohim about this and doesnt seem to think there is problem. IS there one or am i just being silly? i dont know soryr ladies if i am venting just needed to get it out. But is anyone having issues with their DH not wanting to compromise on soemthings?
Benefit of being a single mum, I guess. Kinda. I am friends with baby's father though.
He told me the other day that I couldn't possibly have more kids (still want another) becuase I'm spending too much time on this one!! What does he expect! She's only 4 months old! He has no idea! I should just leave her with a nanny! (that is possible in Philippines)....
Thinks my breastfeeding this baby still is going overboard and is annoyed because I can't travel for work because I don't have enough milk stored to leave for baby for more than one night. And still keeps asking me and getting annoyed when I say no.
But my sisters have the same grumbles... their hubbies still have their own lives and activities while my sister's lives belong to the kids and it takes a super effort.
I cannot complain in this department. DH and I work opposite schedules. I work M-F, 8-430 and he works Sat, Sun & Mon, 6a-6p. So, DH works....and then Tu-Fr he is Daddy Day care and he LOVES his time with Sarah....he does no complain and he seems to worok his schedule around her. He is VERY attached to her and wont let me put her in her own room yet...which I plan on doing before the May month ends!
He definetely likes his free time when I get home though..which I dont mind..bc he has been with her all day...and its my time to spend time with her at that point!
It seems like mine is the same way. He wants to do his thing. But he does love his little girl and this our first one each. When we had her he helped all the time. Then he started to slack off till I finally had to say something. And on top of that he doesnt like to work. He had a great career till we had her. He gave it up too for her. He want to insure that he would be around for her and his family. He was a police officer. I dont have any adult time. Since I work in parks and recreation and I am at the softball fields alot he is out there with me. He plays ball. So I have to work and watch her too. And I am trying to start a career of my own now. Which may not be the right career I should have since we both plan on having more kids. EMT.
I can't complain with this department either. If anything DH is a better father than I could have ever imagined! I am still home with Caiden so he works all day but as soon as he comes home he can't wait to hold and kiss him! They have this daddy son time everynight where Mommy goes works out and runs errands. He can't get enough time with him. He has totally re-arranged his schedule and life for him...and he loves it. He too did not want Caiden in his own room! Their so attached, its adorable. I think if anything I am having more trouble adjusting...I was so used to doing whatever I wanted and I was a busy gal to begin with...so its been difficult for me but not at all for DH. He's been absolutely wonderful. And we had many difficulties when Caiden was newborn..gas issues, formula issues, colic, sleeping and hubby was fantastic through it all. He would often take the baby during one of his screaming fits and let me take a nice bath and watch a movie to relax. I'm so grateful for my hubby, he's been awesome!
My hubby has been incredible too....like Gina said, he's doing even better than I had imagined. He works long days at a stressful job to enable me to stay home with our Annabelle, so I don't expect him to always help out with her when he gets home, it's not his place. I think he's changed 5 diapers in all, and that's fine with me, I'm grateful to him for those 5! He does love his little girl, and plays with her and talks to her all the time in a "baby" voice, which he swore up and down he would never do, ha! But most of all he loves and cherishes and supports me, both financially and emotionally, which does a lot more for me than him changing more diapers or getting up at night with the baby!
Our marriage isn't perfect, but it's pretty incredible, and I thank God for my husband every single day!
Oh, my husband is soo awesome...you can tell he loves Nathan more than he could ever love another human being or himself!! I knew that he would feel that way, but to see it happen is just awesome!!
My Husband is home all day with Nathan, and works all night...living on about 3-5 hours of sleep daily, and then catches up on the weekend, with no complaint. I just pump a bottle for him the day before, and the morning before I leave...and I feed him right before I leave...so he has plenty of breastmilk to feed him throughout the day, and he textes me each time he eats, so I can go pump...
My husband knows Nathan's behaviors more than I do...it is so cute, he will say, "Oh that is his dirty diaper cray..." and he has little coos that he only does with Dad, they sing together, and he constantly has his eyes on Dad...just smiling up a storm, there is soo much love there... I couldn't have a better husband!!
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