anyone else has the baby blues??? i think i might have the baby blues. the first week after labor all i did was cry. i felt so helpless, in so much pain (stitches down there), weak, no appetite, couldn't have bm because of the stitches, i just wanted to be in my Hubby's arms. i felt bad how i couldn't do much for my baby girl because of how weak i felt and the stitches how painful they were. so my Hubby would do most of the work and that would hurt me how my baby was getting use to his arms his voice, etc. i felt sad. like if im going through so much and no one understand how i felt and was going through. it has gotten a lot better but still once the sun goes down i start feeling down, sad, lonely. i love my baby girl so much i shouldnt be feeling like this. my baby girl is beautiful and healthy thank god. but instead of being happy like i should be i feel like this.
Don't feel bad about feeling that way. It is good that you are recognising the signs and asking for help :) I can't say I had the baby blues with my second or third pregnancy but I definately had them with my first.
My son had real bad reflux so he was throwing up from here to tim buk to lol. He was constantly crying from pain and whenever we would take him out he would scream the whole time until we got home. All I could do was cry and I just didn't want to hold him at times :) so what you are feeling is normal.
At the moment your body has been through quite a traumatic experience and you need to remember that :) You will bond with your daughter but you really need to talk about your feelings with you partner or even a doctor. You could even try writing a diary, writing your feelings down could make you feel better :)
I think i can relate to how you feel. We had an unplanned c-section and the pain was unbearable. I was on some serious pain meds IV for the first 16 hours and then moving was difficult for several days. I felt horrible that I couldn't be with my little man. I cry everytime I think of how I failed him in so many ways with our birth and then BF. I just try to tell myself that all I can do now is move forward because there is now rewind. What is the hardest for me is the internal guilt and the inability of those around me to understand and me not being able to share without feeling like I have no right to feel this way. Every site I have visited had recommended you tell your doctor, but that is a persoal choice and I am not sure what they are going to do for you. I have talked to my husband and also I have stopped talking to anyone who puts me down for feeling like this or anyone that brings negativity in my life. This has made me feel ALOT better and more valid and has helped me move forward. Just keep your head up and remember it is ok to have these feelings and you need to take care of yourself and do what you need to do to feel better.
I think i had a little with this one because i would cry and also because i guess i had forgotten how much hard work it is with a newborn, it has been seven years for us lol Dh was also doing most of the work here to but i am bf so he couldnt help with that. I feel much better now that my body seems to be getting back to normal. Had it bad with my second child. There are some natural things u can do to help. My dr suggested that I do some light exercise three times a week twenty minutes at a time,(I walked on a treadmill) take a multivitamin and a calcium and vitamin d supplement before we did other things and within two weeks I felt normal again. Its good u are recognizing what is going on and no need to feel guilty, sometimes it just happens, . Good luck.
Here is an article I just read I hope it helps. The important thing is to talk to others and surround yourself with love. I am so glad you felt comfortable to share this with us and hopefully we can all talk about it and work through it. My baby blues was about not being able to breastfeed. I am able to now but I had to pump and feed the first three weeks and I hated it and I was so sad I couldn't BF. I would try and do something every day for ME. I would pump then give Ellie her daddy time and I would take a steaming hot bubble bath and relax and soak. Having my me time really helped a lot!
Here's the article:
Postpartum depression is a condition that affects up to 80 percent of mothers in the US. This problem, sometimes called the “baby blues”, can vary from mild to severe depression and can last from weeks to months. Before you give birth, it is important to understand the warning signs of postpartum depression and know where to seek help if you suspect you have this condition. For most women, postpartum depression strikes within the first weeks after their baby is born. The common symptoms are crying, mood swings, and a feeling of sadness. Some women experience decreased energy, a loss of interest in things they previously enjoyed, and sometimes trouble bonding with their new baby.
Postpartum depression usually fades away within weeks after the baby is born, but for some women it can last longer and be more severe than the simple “blues”. Women experiencing severe postpartum depression may feel irritable and irrational. Some with extreme cases may even have thoughts and feelings of hurting themselves or their babies. These are serious signs that need to be treated right away. If you suspect that you are suffering from postpartum depression the best thing you can do is seek your doctor immediately. She will have some suggestions for how to help cope with these feelings in the following weeks. Women suffering from severe depression may be given a prescription for an antidepressant medication that will help ease the symptoms.
If you are suffering from postpartum depression, remember that you are not alone. This common condition happens to most mothers shortly after birth. It is treatable and for most women it goes away easily within a few weeks. There is no reason to suffer in silence with this kind of depression. Talk to your doctor, seek help, and know that you are facing what millions of other mothers have also faced.
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