Name Disagreements---how do you work it out?

[jessbbg]

How do y'all work out differences in what the baby's name should be?  I have a list of several for both girl and boy that I like and could go for, and he's got it in his head that, girl or boy, it should be one particular name he has in mind... and I don't like the name he wants!!  I don't know what to do.  I can't just cave and have a kid whose name I hate---I'm terrified I'll harbor resentment against the child all it's life, lol...

Any suggestions?  How have y'all approached it in the past (if it's come up for you)?  How would you or will you?

[Tiger63]

My husband and i love the same girls name but are negoiating a boys name. We decided that whatever we call our baby, it has to be something we are both happy with. I have been going through so many name books and marking names that i think sound ok and would be happy with. He has done the same. Hopefully we will come to some agreement! The name i love, he hates and the name he loves i hate so neither of us will get that name! ARRRRRR. Good luck!

[ArmyPrincess819]

I picked out the first name for our girl he chose the middle name as for the boy I picked both first and middle and asked him and he liked them too. I guess it depends on the couple. Good luck you will both pick a name believe me!

[jenkaye21]

Our first was a girl and I picked the name, my husband never offered any input so I assumed he realized this was MY job (hehe).  
Then, we got pregnant with our son and he said that HE should get to name the boys!  We truly did fight about names the whole time, everything I loved he hated and vice versa, finally we named our son several hours after he was born.  It was a compromise for both of us, and I still feel a little disappointed that its not a name I "love".  With our second son, same thing, although we had an easier time compromising.
Now we're pregnant with #4, and I expect more of the same. ; )

[tnmomma]

We just agreed that if its a girl I get to name it and if its a boy he gets to name it. He has always wanted a junior and his ex wife named both there boys after soap characters on tv. Not crazy about it but if it means that much to him he can name it. He is against the middle name I have picked out for a girl but my son has my dads middle name and if I have a girl she will have my mothers middle name. Its also his grandmothers name and he doesnt want her name any part of this child. Which I dont either but it represents my mother not his family! I guess just try to figure something out. Names in a hat i dont know. He has to compromise somewhere!! Good luck to you!!

[jessbbg]

Ha!!  Did you just say "he" and "compromise" in the same sentence??!!  He's the KING of uncompromising... (Can you tell it's causing some problems lately? lol)

I'm half-kidding, but seriously, he equates compromise with "she's trying to change me!!" and he freaks out.  He did say he's only teasing though, in insisting on the one name he had picked out, just to get a rise out of me.  But I don't know how much I buy that--he hasn't exactly been good natured about it.  I just don't want to have him be disappointed, and me all happy... it wouldn't be fair.  But I don't want a name I hate either.

Bleah... I guess I'm over-analyzing... or over-hormonalyzing, I should say.  

He's decided we shouldn't talk about it anymore until after we know the sex.  I tend to agree, but as long as it's not a "fight", I like talking about it---one of the fun parts of pregnancy, I guess.  But afterall, there's plenty of time for it after we find out.  

Jenkaye---you didn't name him til after he was born??  I would freak out if i went into labor and hadn't picked a name, lol.  It's cool that you guys compromised.  You said you still feel some disappointment---does it ever enter your mind when you relate to your son?  Or is it not a factor?  That's one thing I'm afraid of, secretly resenting my child and not being able to get over not liking their name... I'm hoping I'm just paranoid.