Should I be worried???

[tnmomma]

My family and I moved this weekend. I am 18wks pregnant. I didnt do any heavy lifting. I did ALOT of packing. which means ALOT of bending over putting stuff in boxes and ALOT of walking up and down stairs. We moved from a house to an apartment UPSTAIRS!! Since then I just havent felt right. My back has been hurting VERY badly and I have been having pains in my stomach like achy pulling pains. I have felt the baby move a little but not much which I have heard is still normal for only being 18wks. I have a dr appt in 2 days for an ultrasound and dr visit. I think I am just worrying like I always do!
Also I am a smoker (please dont criticize) I dont smoke unless I am around my husband and I dont smoke whole cigarettes. I will take a couple puffs here and there. I did smoke 2 whole cigarettes Saturday because I had to take my dog to the humane society. HARDEST THING EVER!! I know its hurting the baby and I have been told on another forum I am being selfish. Its an addiction and a habit and I am trying so hard to quit completely. Can anyone else relate?? I have seen other woman smoke their whole pregnancies and babies been fine but I dont want to take that chance. Like I said I take small puffs when my husband smokes.It was easier to quit when I was pregnant with my son why am I having such a hard time this time?

[ArmyPrincess819]

I go to a chiropractor so you should check it out it may help you feel better. Hey listen I don't smoke and I'm having more complications ever. So if you are not a high risk pg and having a healthy pg more power to you. I would def talk to your dr about making sure this won't affect your baby in terms of early delivery etc. If so stop you dont' want to go through it. I wouldn't judge you who am I? I wish you the best and good luck at your u/s or if you already had it what happened? Best wishes to you,
AP

[SoCalTricia]

I won't judge...my husband is a smoker and he HATES it and wants to quit so bad. To ME it's easy to say, "Well if you wanted to quit bad enough, you would." But I have never been addicted to nicotine which, I understand, is more addictive than heroin. That is wonderful that you've set the goal to stay smoke-free until you deliver! Just take it one day at a time. From what I've read about smoking, you need to make sure you *completely quit...don't try to "cut down." Apparently keeping even a small amount of nicotine in your system continues to trigger those cravings. Like heroin, you need to completely "kick" the drug out of your system. Also, don't allow your husband to smoke anywhere near you or where you can smell it. If his child's health is important, he'll be supportive of that. I'm not a smoker, but my husband is so paranoid, he stays completely away from me when he's smoking. Anyway...good luck to you! I'm keeping you in my thoughts...take good care of that little bean!

Tricia

[Seas27]

I just thoughtg I'd share with you, that as of tuesday I haven't touched or craved a cigarette, and so far so good. Don't worry babe! You can do it, but do tell your man he can't smoke in the house! Also I quit with my son the next day and didn't start up again till he was 9 months, when i went back to work, but I never, and repeat NEVER smoked around him or in the car, and he is 6 now and never even knew I smoked! I get super upset when I see people smoke with their kids in the car. I know I am no better because I have one in my belly and smoked a cig here and there, but man! Not all smokers are that inconsiderate! Good luck hun, and like I said, if you moral support I am here :)

[Suzie0224]

I agree - I totally feel that my mom was lucky.  Even though she smoked and we were ok - I feel there was total luck on her side.  I am sure it is tough but your baby is worth any struggle you may go through.  Look into alternatives - hypnotherapy, acupuncture, substitution... You can do it - you have to do it.  Good luck
Your skin will look better, your hair will be shinier, your clothes won't smell, your teeth will be whiter...

[GRose]

That's awesome!! Tell DH that he can't smoke around you AT ALL, he needs to support you in this and he needs to get used to smoking outside anyways since there will be a baby in the house soon. Don't worry about caffeine, you can have it in moderation, I have my cup of coffee everyday and sometimes a soda too later on.

[tnmomma]

Thanks all for your advice and opinions. I made a promise to my self that my dr appt is tomorrow, I am 100% done after that!!!! I am making myself a promise! I dont want to hurt my baby!! I have seen ppl smoke there whole pregnancies and the babies been ok I dont want to risk it. Its been really hard the past few months! My husband had been out of work for a few months just started back working a couple weeks ago I was the breadwinner, that was very stressful! Having to move, having to get rid of my dog moving from a house with acres to an apartment with noisy neighbors lol!  I told my husband starting next week he goes back to smoking outside! I had quit smoking before i met him and had been smoke free for about 2 months then being around him I started back. I quit so easily! Both my parents smoked and I lived with them when I quit and it was easier then than now. I dont understand! Oh well I am going to quit! I promise not only myself but my baby! He deserves the best! The caffine thing oh no cant quit that!!!! I have my cup of coffee a day and the occasional soda. But for the most part i drink tons of water a day! Dont eat sweets or junk. I crave veggies and fruits! Good luck to the pregnant mommies who are also trying to quit!!! We can do it!!

[GRose]

I wouldn't worry about the moving thing, you may have overdid it but I don't think you hurt the baby. I was a smoker for a little over 6 years when I got pregnant with my son, I quit the day I found out aside from 1/2 a cig when we were putting my 15 year old dog down (the day after I found out) The only time I have picked one up since was when I was drinking and every time I tried it I was disgusted. I have been smoke free since May 6th 2006. I work in a restaurant that allows smoking in the bar and unfortunately I have to be in the bar a lot, I really worry that I am hurting the baby through second hand smoke but I need my job and there is nothing I can do about it. I don't want to give you **** but yes, it is very selfish that you haven't quit, when I quit I was a heavy smoker, over a pack a day but it was the easiest decision I ever made, it was for the health of my unborn child. Now I am so happy that I continued not to smoke because Noah doesn't have a mommy who smokes, he doesn't smell like it, he doesn't have to breath it in. It disgusts me when I see women smoking in the car with their children, don't even get me started on that.
I know most people say "my mom smoked when she was pregnant with me and I am fine" yes, you are fine and thank God but what if you weren't, why risk it? My Gma smoked her whole pregnancy with all 5 kids and all 5 kids were under 5 pounds, that right there is proof to me that it does affect the baby.
I will step off the podium now.

[Seas27]

I still have a occasional cigarette and feel horrible about it. I am 15 weeks and quit the day afetr I found out with my son and like you said this one is harder. I also know I don't need them because I can go without, but it calms and soothes especialy when you're stressed. For me I think it stresses me more though, thinking about what I'm doing. I only smoke one every other day, but still. As far as moving, you may have pulled some muscles or something. I would just take it easy and wait and see what your doc says. If you want we can be each others support and quit together! GL and let me know how your appointment goes

[Suzie0224]

My mother smoked her entire pregnancy with all 6 of us kids - we are all fine.  On the other hand I am very critical of smoking.  I don't understand and I don't pretend to.  I am not here to judge you or anyone.  It's just not something for me... I have had so much trouble keeping a pregnancy - 5 m/c's that I am willing to make any sacrifice to have a healthy baby.  No soft cheese, avoiding people who smoke, no caffeine, not even wine at church - parnoid?  yes...  As far as the move over the weekend, I think you are fine.  I find that the more I am moving around during the day, the less I feel my little squirm.  We are either too busy to notice or the baby is rocked to sleep with your motion.  Best of luck and do you best to get rid of the cigarettes...  

[Karen616]

I was a smoker before i got pregnant. I would smoke almost a pack a day. When i found out i was pregnant i quit smoking but it was so hard. I was cranky all day every day. I developed this depression-like state bc i couldnt have a cigarette! It was rediculous. Then I gave in one day (bc my husband still smokes, we havent ever smoked in the house, but the cigarettes are still readily available for me) and lit a cigarette, and when i started to smoke i got nauseous, and after the second puff i was throwing up. Im not sure if it was the morning sickness, or the nerves bc i knew what i was doing was wrong. Anyway, i havent smoked since that day bc im afraid its going to make me sick, but as my morning sickness gets better and better, i am still craving cigarettes. I will probably make it to delivery without another one, but as soon as this kid arrives, i have already made my plans to be wheeled out to the court yard to smoke, lol. Its hard, but you can do it if it really focus. A couple of puffs a day shouldnt be that hard to kick, compared to if you were smoking all day everyday. I think some people are just different, as far as being more uptight, or really laid back. Im more laid back, for instance, i ate a ham sandwhich the other day...some people would freak out for the fear of listeria! I just put my trust in God that ham isnt going to harm me or my child the ONE time i choose to eat it throughout my pregnancy. You just have to make your own decisions. I know the risks and i have chosen to quit smoking, but thats why everyone is different. Obviously its not impossible to quit, but i do understand how difficult it is. If you ever do need to talk about stuff like this, its better to talk to someone who knows exactly what your talking about, versus the non smoking mother who has never been in a similar situation.