VERY upset with my baby shower..

[Kimberlee_20]

So as you know my baby shower was today, Saturday. First off, my sister Ashley came home (she lives two hours away) so mom was excited to see her, and everyone was, but my mom completely blew me and my other sister off. She had already been home for two days, so my mom had plenty of time to see her, but Friday night at 5 her and my mom went out drinking until 1:30AM and didn't help us with ANYTHING at all.We were left to do EVERYTHING, decorate, buy everything, make everything, and I don't mind, I love helping, but it was MY baby shower, I shouldn't have been doing EVERYTHING, and I didn't want to leave my sister to do it for herself. So that was the first thing that went wrong, me and my sister were running around hectic for two days trying to make everything PERFECT. Well we got everything ready and everything looked really good, so I was excited. At my baby shower, DH's family was RUDE as hell. They were saying how bad the decorations looked, and how bad everything was. They were saying it quietly, but loud enough so where my family could hear it. My sister worked HARD to make that place amazing, and it was, but they were just being RUDE.They talked as loud as they could to each other, OVER my sister when she was trying to play games, or say ANYTHING, they didn't pay attention at all, it was like they were in their own little world, we ended up not playing two games because we couldn't talk over them. DH has one aunt that he doesn't talk to, or like much, but I haven't really had any serious problems with her so I invited her to be nice, and she came and was a complete BI*TCH! We had an "advice bottle" where you write any advice for the new mom, and put it in this giant bottle, and she wrote in huge letters "BIRTH CONTROL". When I said bye to her she rolled her eyes at me. And mind you, my family is HUGE so I stayed with DH's family a lot of the time so they didn't feel left out or uncomfortable, I did everything I could to make them comfortable, and they were still so rude. DH's sister in law said "My husband and I have been together 10 years, after a kid it's a surprise you make it that long, I'll be surprised if you and Jared (DH) do."!!!!! Ugh, but it was so frustrating, I'm completely P*SSED the way his family acted, I've never had a problem with them before, we've always gotten along, and they LOVED me, but apparently they were putting on a show when DH was around. My family was NOT impressed at all, and my sister was really upset about the way they were after she worked so hard to make it the best baby shower it could be. I'm so glad it's over with, what a horrible baby shower :[.

[Kimberlee_20]

AP - I know it, already I've felt that way and he's not even out yet! It seems like just yesterday I found out I was pregnant and telling my mom, and my family, and DH's, and not being able to wait until I was showing. My pregnancy has flown by SO fast, I hope when he comes it slows down a little!

[ArmyPrincess819]

Enjoy every minute my first baby he is now 7 and I just want to cry. I remember every minute like it was yesterday. The nerves and the excitement mixed together and not having a clue just going about it with the attitude it's trial and error. I appreciated advice but listening to my pediatrician and bffs really helped me. Don't for a minute not love a moment because before you know it they are going into 2nd grade and doing their own little thing! Enjoy and love being a mommy!

Hugs,
AP

[Kimberlee_20]

I was SO nervous no one would show up too, but we had a LOT of people come. I just bought my bassinet so I have everything big that I need!! I'm so excited! I still need a few little things, but nothing major, I'm just hoping I don't forget something and have to scramble last minute and buy it

[Tasia32]

I am so glad DH was so supportive of how you felt about his family's behavior, because there are some men out there that would take up for his family and tell you that you are overreacting so I am really glad he agrees. I am glad you got basically everything you need for baby and got everything set up and ready. You are more prepared for your baby then I am. I am freaking out that I won't get anything I need at my baby shower. I am also scared that people won't show up. I guess I am beginning to get nervous about a lot of things. Well I am going to stop talking now,lol , glad everything is looking good for you!!!

[Kimberlee_20]

I already have everything set up and put away, I have a TON of baby wash, wipes, diapers, and lotions/powders etc. I had to go buy binki's and bottles and such today but everything's looking good!! :]

[ArmyPrincess819]

That is great your dh is so supportive. One aspect is figured out but now you need to talk to your mom and let her know her actions did not help a thing either. I would def talk to her and put your foot down that was your day and she made it all about your sister. Not to mention she went out drinking until all hrs of the night you should not have had to hang up your own decorations quite honestly you should not have had to do a thing. No need for their behavior as well! It's all about presentation I think without your sister and even dh talk with her and let her know going forward her behavior will not be tolerated! Good luck. Gifts I think when I had mine yrs ago I got like 2 bottles but I got everything else including the crib. I had my cradle from when I was a baby but my son hated it and my baby did too. The only one that liked it was my middle one! I will probably not get one and just put the baby in the crib. It is alot of fun setting up the nursery. So enjoy the positive parts about it all!


AP

[Kimberlee_20]

I know it, I tried so hard to contain it, but at the end I completely ignored them, and I was just facing my family opening presents because his family wasn't paying attention at all. I told DH and he said "that's why I don't go to family outtings, because my family is so rude, I'm sorry the way they acted" and I made it VERY clear the family members that were being so rude would NOT be called when I had the baby, and wouldn't be invited to anything I do again. I'm glad that it's over! My family got me a TON of stuff though, so the gift turn out was very good - I didn't get any bottles surprisingly though, so I have to go buy them and a bassinet

[Tasia32]

Sorry you had to go through that, what does your husband think of his family behavior. I think you handled the situation very well and it really ***** to have to deal with things like that on a day that is supposed to be about you and your unborn child. You could have easily blew up on them all and told them to get out. Uhhh people just  disgust me. Sorry today didn't go better.

[Sasha80]

I very much agree with AP.  I too would avoid those ppl at all costs when baby is born.    I would not want my children around ppl like that.  I have an aunt that I avoid at all costs as I don't want my dtr. to be around such negativity.  The nerve of some ppl.  What goes around, comes around.  I am very sorry to hear about the disrespect your mom showed towards you.  Keep your head up.  

[ArmyPrincess819]

All I can say is wow what reserve and restraint you have. If anyone ever wrote that in a advice bottle or took away from the excitement and celebration of my child's birth and put me and my family down I wouldn't let them around my kids and certainly would do nothing to include them in a thing in my children's life. Wow I can't believe how nasty some people can be and for your mom to be so consumed about your sister when it's your day....! I'm sorry. I know one thing my family has a few winners but nothing like the one's you have. Well just look ahead to delivery day and getting through the next few wks!

AP