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Vent: I think I upset the MIL LOL!
My mother in law is the only parent that lives close by everyone else is a plane ride away...
Anyway she's a nurse and babyholic and this is the first grandkid for all of our parents so obviously she's extremely excited.
So, I think that she was planning on being in the delivery room until I deliver and I told her that I only want my husband in there and that all of the parents will get to see the baby once he goes into the nursery to get cleaned and stuff after about 2 hours of bonding time for me and dh with the baby. Its our first baby so its "our" time to enjoy our first born without anyone else bothering us. So, anyway she said that she loves to see babies when they are all gooey and yucky and that she wouldn't mind being in there and I said "no, I think it would be better if you wait at our house with the rest of the parents until we call you and tell you that he's gone into the nursery then you can all come over to see him etc."
Anyway, what makes her think that she gets priority over MY mom or MY dad, and I don't even want MY parents in the room when I deliver! Anyway she's being quiet towards me and I think she's upset about it and feels like we are excluding her. She was in the L&D room with my husband's stepbrother when they had their baby, so she thinks that naturally she should be there when we have ours? I'm sorry but that was their choice to invite her in to the delivery.
She's becoming extremely overbearing and I don't know how else to tell her to back off a little??
Anyway she's a nurse and babyholic and this is the first grandkid for all of our parents so obviously she's extremely excited.
So, I think that she was planning on being in the delivery room until I deliver and I told her that I only want my husband in there and that all of the parents will get to see the baby once he goes into the nursery to get cleaned and stuff after about 2 hours of bonding time for me and dh with the baby. Its our first baby so its "our" time to enjoy our first born without anyone else bothering us. So, anyway she said that she loves to see babies when they are all gooey and yucky and that she wouldn't mind being in there and I said "no, I think it would be better if you wait at our house with the rest of the parents until we call you and tell you that he's gone into the nursery then you can all come over to see him etc."
Anyway, what makes her think that she gets priority over MY mom or MY dad, and I don't even want MY parents in the room when I deliver! Anyway she's being quiet towards me and I think she's upset about it and feels like we are excluding her. She was in the L&D room with my husband's stepbrother when they had their baby, so she thinks that naturally she should be there when we have ours? I'm sorry but that was their choice to invite her in to the delivery.
She's becoming extremely overbearing and I don't know how else to tell her to back off a little??
In the hospital where I'm delivering in they don't allow anyone in the except for the parents of the baby for 2-3 hours after delivery and then they take the baby to get cleaned and checked and all of that stuff but for the first few hours after delivery the baby is all mine and my husband's to sniff and count fingers and toes.
The childbirth class nurse said that even if they allow people in after a few hours, they have to wear a sterile blanket with no odor so the baby doesn't get confused with the smell because they want the baby to get used to our smell for bonding purposes and not anyone else.
my MIL just thinks that she has priority over everyone else, and I have no idea where she came up with that.
I think that she may have overheard me saying that "She doesn't want to miss one second of this baby before and after he's born" I might have said to someone else, which is true, she's EVERYWHERE ALL THE TIME!! We like our independance and privacy...
She even wants to go to our beach house a week before we arrive so she can clean before we get there and the baby...that's soo annoying, I can freaking clean when we get there and the baby can handle 2 minutes on his bouncy chair while we clean....its just sooo overbearing!
The childbirth class nurse said that even if they allow people in after a few hours, they have to wear a sterile blanket with no odor so the baby doesn't get confused with the smell because they want the baby to get used to our smell for bonding purposes and not anyone else.
my MIL just thinks that she has priority over everyone else, and I have no idea where she came up with that.
I think that she may have overheard me saying that "She doesn't want to miss one second of this baby before and after he's born" I might have said to someone else, which is true, she's EVERYWHERE ALL THE TIME!! We like our independance and privacy...
She even wants to go to our beach house a week before we arrive so she can clean before we get there and the baby...that's soo annoying, I can freaking clean when we get there and the baby can handle 2 minutes on his bouncy chair while we clean....its just sooo overbearing!
My mom is a doula but I still don't want her or my dad or my in-laws in the room with us. They can come in afterwards, but not be there for the birth. But I don't think that ANY of them (except maybe my mom) wants to be in the room when the babies come out.
The delivery room will be crazy as it is! Because I am having twins, there will be 2 doctors and 2 midwives in the room, plus of course me and my DH and I am hoping my midwife form my first birth will come to the hospital with us as moral support (like a doula) too. So that is more than enough people in there! I dont know if there are nurses in there too, but I hope not!
The delivery room will be crazy as it is! Because I am having twins, there will be 2 doctors and 2 midwives in the room, plus of course me and my DH and I am hoping my midwife form my first birth will come to the hospital with us as moral support (like a doula) too. So that is more than enough people in there! I dont know if there are nurses in there too, but I hope not!
Who you want in the delivery room is very much up to you. With my first, it was only hubby and I. If baby was born in the am we asked that we have ZERO visitors until visiting hours start (2pm) so we would have some time alone. Once this baby comes (only hubby and I in the delivery room), the only other person I want in the room after the delivery is our dtr.
I can see where you are coming from I don't want anyone but DH and my mom in the delivery room and the only reason my mom will be there is because she is going to be my coach. She delivered 6 would have been 7 babies naturally if it weren't for my breech brother so she will be helping me through it. But I definitely would not want anyone else and DH and I will be the first to hold our baby.
I totally agree with you. DH will be the only one in the room with me, and I'm opting to have an hour alone with the baby and DH until anyone else sees or holds him, because my family SURE as hell aren't going to be holding my son before I do!
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