post pardum

[mybaby2]

My baby is already a month old!  Time flies!  I am having a really hard time adjusting to 2 kids, my oldest is 5.  She is a big help but she is also craving a lot of attention.   I feel so alone all the time, my bf is working a lot and when he comes home he sits and plays video games all night.  I have already been diagnosed with post pardon and they wanted to put me on meds.  But when i told my bf he completely flipped about me taking pills instead of trying to fix it myself. So i'm not taking them and have gotten really distant from him, which i didn't want.  I don't know what to do!

[Lesley27]

i am so sorry your going thru this, thats really aweful that your Bf is reacting that way to taking meds... i think he should go with you to the Dr and ask all the questions he needs so the Dr can explain to him the need and purpose of the meds as he sounds like he has no clue what postpartum depression is and how getting help isnt taking the easy way out its taking the safest best way out for you.... and dont let him make you feel that your a bad person for taking meds either, chances are that you may only need the meds as a short term use and even if you were to need them long term it doesnt mean your weak or a bad mom its something that is out of your control and stepping up and looking after yourself means your a strong person and that your putting yourself first to better yourself for your family... i agree that 2 kids is a huge change and i am just adjusting slightly myself, i had a csection so my bf is kinda forced to step up and help out a bit or im sure i would be adjusting completely solo (its haying season and he has a full time job off the farm-very busy) so i for sure feel for ya...you have your plate full already and with postpartum on top of that... i say listen to your Dr and take the meds ... and your Bf needs to eduacate himself on what your going thru so he can understand that its a hard battle to try to get thru on your own... you need help and deserve it!

[savanna09]

Thats too bad that it is such a struggle for you :( I am also having a really hard time, and I only have the 1 baby. I couldnt imagine having 2. My boyfriend works alot too and doesnt do too much when it comes to the baby. It makes it really difficult when you feel so alone. Sometimes meds is the only option to help balance out a hormone/chemical imbalance. and if he doesnt understand that than too bad for him. Its important that YOU feel good so you are able to handle and cope better with the situation that you are in. I wish you all the best, and just remember you are not alone even though it may feel like that. If you ever want to chat feel free to send me a msg.

[buggie216]

Im having a hard time adjusting too...my little one is 5w and i have a two year old. my hubby works 12 hour days...its really difficult. Your not alone...i wish i had meds sometimes :/

[kfrasher]

Sorry to hear ur struggling hun....if ur bf doesn't want u to take the meds then he needs to understand he needs to step up n give u a break once in a while. Try talking to him abt it n if he's not on board with u, then take the meds!!