Spouse stress

[kerraayy]

Well, I am 37 weeks over here and so excited to meet my little guy!  We have health insurance but it is switching and the new company says everything will be covered retroactively.   No, not stressful at all!  Well,  I asked my technology savvy hubby to help me print out the letter he got from work stating we will be retroactively covered.  The printer is connected oddly and didn't work the other day when I printed something else.  He yelled at me.  He told me to leave the room and pointed.  I know everyone argues in relationships but I just want to be spoiled and loved a little bit!  He only cares about himself after work eveb when I always make or have something ready for dinner and do all his laundry,  etc.  Should i suggest marriage counseling?  I think they all yell a bit at his office.   This is about the fourth time this has ever happened.   Thanks in advance for your thoughts. .....  

[MissouriMommaofthree]

Mine gets the you're in trouble face and a "don't you dare talk to me that way!" When he pulls that fit throwing at me.  He never apologizes but at least I let him know I didn't like being treated that way and then I can forgive and forget. Men are such children.  I do EVERYTHING at home.   He goes to work and he is also a farmer on his evenings and weekends.  So he depends on me to do everything.  Plus I'm 37 weeks pregnant and still working in the garden and mowing and weed eating and shampooing carpet and getting the house extra clean for our third child to come home to a clean house.  So yeah, he better be good to me always.  Hang in there ladies.  We got this.

[marya30]

Mine stays out until 3am comes home drunk. Then wonders why im pissed off. I have less than a week left, with contractions shooting up my back and down legs. Good luck to yall

[kerraayy]

Thanks Sabzi.  You are right.  I am sure everyone expresses stress and worry differently.   I also agree with how you said to handle it.... a very good tip.  We did not even hug or hardly talk yesterday.   I feel like it is hard to connect and I feel I am owed a big apology and he obviously doesn't feel that way.   He did offer me some of the dinner he made which was nice.   I treated myself out to dinner so i declined .  Lol.  Good luck to us all for a safe and quick delivery!!!  Thinking of you ladies.  I have some kind of amniotic fluid check ultrasound and an NST today.  My practice is test happy.  Should be a pleasure to get those bills in the mail. Ha!  ♡☆♡☆♡ Happy and healthy baby and mommy are most important! !  :)

[sabzi3925]

Babies and delivery are stressful for all parties involved. I know you probably don't want to hear that because yes you are the main player in this game. I have had two before.  My husband is very quiet with his emotions but has admitted to being scared for both of us and not addressing the real issue because he felt the need to be strong for both of us. They are humans too babe. Just choose a tine when he's in a good mood let him now how inappropriate and thankless his actions were and to refrain from doing that around you. He needs to relax too he cant take it out on you rather just talk about it. You'll be fine though. May God your delivery and make it easy iA Ameen!

[kerraayy]

I hope everything works out for you as well.  I know, as if we needed more to worry about than birthing a child.  Unreal.  Thanks for writing.  I am thinking of you and hope you have a safe and speedy labor!!!!  ♡☆♡☆♡☆♡

[Nolegirl1]

I don't know. My husband is being a real *** as well and I'm 38 weeks 3 days. We just had the biggest argument. I'm trying to get everything ready and we just don't seem to be on the same page. Counseling does sound like a great option. Right now though my only priority is getting through this birth and taking care of my babies.  Hope everything works out:)