sex drives

[firsttimemummy94]

Okay so im 28 weeks pregnant today due june 4. And ever since i got pregnant my sex drive went out the window. i still had sex every now and then to keeo my partner happy but ita been neaely a month now and when we tried last time.i had tightened up alot. and it was so uncomforable and painful i told him to stop. i am a bit worried if i dont have sex im not going to be able to give birth naturally. do you think i should just have and deal with the pain or not?? Im just worried about later on down the track. i want to have a natural birth. and im scared ill be too small to do it

[parkersmommy]

I am 27w4d and I want sex all day everyday seriously to the point that my husband tells me on a regular basis that he just can't lol. I hope at some point I stop wanting sex constantly

[firsttimemummy94]

Yer thanks ladies and i know we do do things othen sex but he said its not the same so yeah ill just tell him i really cant do it till after baby isborn

[Babyiish]

TO: Firsttimemummy94
Theirs other ways to keep a men happy & only looking at you 
even when you can have intercourse  but I rather not say ......
(: I'll just keep it PG 13 4 now lol :)

I hope u feel better!! X

[MamaBear0612]

Just tell him what's going on with you. Part of his frustration is probably that he's still hoping for it, but if you're straight with him and let him know it's really hurting you, I doubt if he loves you he would want to do that to you. Tell him it's just temporary, that you'll always want him but your body's just not cooperating right now and that you need his patience.

[firsttimemummy94]

Yeah well we were doing it every two weeks now its been like a month and i just make excuses not to do it. he doesnt like me saying no but he does understand and i worry he is looking at other girls but hey he still says he loves me.everyday so i dont care but yeah thank you everyone for your help

[MamaBear0612]

Wow, that sounds not fun. Don't think I'd do it if I didn't want it and if it hurt, period...if I were hurt consistently during sex, it would take away my enjoyment in the process, and then that would hurt him in the long run cuz I definitely wouldn't want him like I once did. They'll survive, and it's good to listen to our bodies, especially during pregnancy. The baby will be here in a few months, and then...well, everything will change. Not sure what happens to sex after the baby gets here. :)

[kelsebby92]

I have the same exact problem. But thing is I just let him do his thing. It doesnt feel good for me, but I don't want him to go else where and look for it. I really hope my sex drive comes back after this baby. Lol but when I do let him do it which is now mayb once a week. Before it was every other day. But when I do let him do it he usually tears me, and that hurts. For a couple days. So that'd why we stopped every other day. We were using a eater based lube but after words I would just feel so nasty down there and well I just hated it so we stopped that and just started doing it in the shower more.. it does suck trust me I know. And I'm due June 1 st, so I'm not that far ahead of you.

[firsttimemummy94]

Thanks it hurts like getting started but even when we actually get going the pain is gone its just an uncomfortable feeling but all the way through it doesnt get better and definetly doesnt feel good.

[VaniDavila]

Sex is a concern for many pregnant women, and men. Sex is the foundation of a marriage. At the beginning of my pregnancy, I didn't want to have sex, but I did. It was a little painful, but it would not be that painful once we got started. I'm sure if you don't have sex it won't affect the birth. With my first daughter, I had sex regularly and I still wasn't able to have her naturally, so I guess it's just depending on the woman's body. Don't worry, you will be fine and I'm sure your sex drive will increase after the birth of your baby.

[Babyiish]

Hey it is scary but it's beautiful & It's all worth it at the end.... :)
This is my 3rd and I don't even want to think about labor...
I don't think it gets any easier :(
You'll be fine don't worry
Good luck x

[firsttimemummy94]

Thank you i never really thought about when people dont have partners i just feel scared i mean it hurts trying to have sex. im so not looking forward to giving birth

[MamaBear0612]

I could be wrong, but I don't think it will be that big a deal...our bodies are made for this particular job. I haven't had sex since October since my ex-boyfriend (the baby's father) and I broke up, I just didn't want to get into a new relationship pregnant. But really if you think about it there's a pretty huge difference between even larger penises and a newborn's head; either way, our privates are going to have to do something radically different. A lot of women don't have sex at all towards the end of their pregnancies, or even earlier if they can't for medical or other reasons, and do just fine during labor.

[Babyiish]

At. The beginning of my pregnancy my sex drive was non-existent ...
I didn't even think about how it was going to affect my pregnancy...   :(
I was only worried about my husband :) lol
I was extremely jealous and possessive 
I was constantly calling and texting him....  :(

I think you should ask your dr maybe he could recommend you some lubricants