super anxious about birth

[danbaby88]

hi all I'm 31 weeks today and I'm getting really scared of labour, my partner doesn't seem to understand as this is his first, where as its my second and my first was horrendous which was nearly 6 years ago :( I'm really worried I'm going to have the same labour again and not too sure how I'm going to cope :( its making my anxiety so bad, has anyone else had a bad first labour but better second? hope you ladies enjoying your last stretch of pregnancy :) x

[cch1029]

@VaniDavila O yea totally forgot about that when I was in labor...I'll remember to that next time.

@Babyiish- He was only 6lbs. 11oz lol...but I think what happen was I pushed when the doctor was tellin me not to lol. Guilty...I couldn't help it the pressure was there. I'm going to listen this time.

[Babyiish]

2- Mikaleen
I'm so glad that the hospital I'm gonna deliver is 7 minutes away...I don't  need to take the freeway.... =)
I can't believe that I haven't register yet...=(
I just remember that with my 2 year old I waited till I was 38 weeks to register...

2- cch1029
I have never tear and I had a 
1st 7lb 3oz/ 19in long
2nd 7lb 14oz/19in long
How big was your baby?

[VaniDavila]

There are some pelvid exercise they say you can do to reduce your chance of tearing. They are called kegal exercise (I think that's how you spell it), but you tighten the pelvic muscle for about 10 seconds and then release. You can keep doing those and no one will know =)

[cch1029]

I find myself getting anxious about labor as well. This is my second pregnancy. My first was the best easy pregnancy never sick. I had 2 false alarms, but the 3 time was the charm. I went in since I was having contractions they gave me pitocin to augment my labor. I did it without pain medications and had him in 6 hours after I got to the hospital. I did have some tearing and had to get stitches. But everything went smoothly, went in not knowing anything about labor except horror labor stories and bugging everybody with questions of things I read from that horrid book, "What to Expect When Expecting"

This time around I've been doing research on how to not tear. I'm just go in there and be calm. I wanna do my best not to scream even tho it does hurt lol. Definitely would do it natural again (I hate needles lol).

As for men, they don't understand what we go through though I wish they did. My bd calls me sometimes and tells me "Oh I'm sooo sick I don't feel good. I think I gotta throw up." Their such big babies they wouldn't be able to handle the birthing experience. That's why God chose us to give birth.

[VaniDavila]

lol... you girls ar funny!!! My husband does listen to me about my pregnancy.... It does surprise me, though, because with my last pregnancy he would just ignore me. This time he at least seems a little more interested and concerned about my problems.

[mikaleen]

This is my third and I am finding myself much more anxious about delivery this time around.  Instead of the fear of the unknown, it's the fear of the known.

I have to say that both of my births were pretty easy, I was definitely lucky in that.  The first I had an epidural, but the birth went so fast it wasn't worth it.  I had complications from the epidural and recovery was more difficult than the birth.  My second I had no pain relievers and my birth went quickly as well as my recovery.  I am opting for no pain relievers this time around as well, even though the pain was severe, it was immediately over after the birth and I was up and walking around with no complications.  

I was also induced with my first 2, and am foregoing it this time around unless medically necessary.  If I labor fast and give birth in the car so be it...I am reading up on home births just to be prepared.  I understand that things can absolutely change, so I am open to whatever happens.  If I talk to hubby about my fear of the pain he tells me that our bodies are made to do it.  I could kick him.  I know he's trying to make me feel better, but here's a guy who is screaming in the bathroom if he has been constipated for 2 days.  Sorry TMI, but really, he's going to tell me don't worry about it??

[Babyiish]

Men never understand anything... 
They feel a little pain and they feel like their dying.....=(Lol
I don't know about everyone else husband but when I want talk to my husband about the baby or pregnancy...he either gets bored or he say oh.., well...I don't know...I'm not a dr.....
 But don't talk to my husband about UFC tap down or basket ball because his an expert.....>:(
Anyways
First baby gain only 10 pounds ...he was 19in 7lb 3oz...
I thought my first pregnancy was easy including labor and delivery...no pain relievers.. 
My second baby was a girl,,, I gain 20 pounds ... She was 19in 7lb 14oz. 
Omg she was fat and she hurt soo much even with pain relievers...=(
Thats one of the reasons that I'm soo afraid too put on to much weight....I try not think about delivery cuz I'm gonna go crazy...My focus right now is in keeping this baby healthy for 52 more days...
Just keep nice and calm....then when the contractions come you could freak out...lol
X

[akv23]

I also had a horrible first labor. I was in labor for 24 hours i was so scared cause since it was my first baby i didnt know what was the procedures well i got the epidural n i dont know if since i was too scared they werent able to put it right that it didnt have no affect on me and my left leg felt like somebody was squishing it in the end i got like 3 more shot of the epidura n since the baby wouldnt go down i had to get a csection. N call me.crazy but i felt like they were burning me while they were doing the c section n they had to knock me out cause i was moving too much. I dont know if i was a coward but i didnt have any problem with the recovery. N yes after 1yr n 6month im gonna have another one still scared

[VaniDavila]

You got to remember, every pregnancy, including labor, is different. There's no way to say this next labor will be better or worse. I have heard that the first labor is always harder, but I don't know if it's true or not. For me it was. My whole pregnancy was super easy, but labor was a whole different story. I ended up needing a c-section. Now with my second, pregnancy was a lot harder, heavier and more tiring.  Labor was easier though. I was schedule for my c-section for October 10th and ended up going into labor October 3rd. The hospital was an hour and a half away so by the time I got there, I was 6 cm. dilated. I was then rushed in to have my c-section. With this pregnancy, I am also feeling it more difficult and tiring. I just got to wait and see how labor goes (if I go into labor before my scheduled c-section).  Don't worry, you will be fine and just remember after all that pain, you will hold your precious baby =)