Baby Shower

[kele1129]

So we are having our first baby shower on the 20th (this Saturday). I for one am grateful that our friend that is throwing it let us know about it (I am not one for surprises) and asked us for opinions on what we may want. I love that she automatically assumed that Chris would be there. I hate that he gets so left out when people ask how the baby and I are doing. While I know I am the one carrying this load, Chris is the one rubbing my back, running out to the store in order to feed my dorito obsession, getting up in the middle of the night when I can't sleep to just talk, and so many other things. Of course he should be at the shower, he is becoming a new parent just as I am and it would not be a celebration to me without him there.  So my poll question is:

Do you prefer your shower to be a surprise and will it be mixed gender?

[kele1129]

See we will not have the games and whatnot. It is not our style nor our friends styles. We intend on a day of just hanging out and enjoying a calm day together before he hecticness of the holidays

[tbeards]

In my opinion, I LOVED my all girl baby shower. There is just something about women talking about babies and playing the dumb, fun games that doesn't happen at couple showers. I think it is also great to have a couples shower so if you have two, that would be my vote. For my baby shower, it was all girls and then all of my dh's friends came over to our house while we were gone and each of his friends brought a package of diapers and some beer and they played pool and watched football while we were gone. My dad and my dh had A LOT more fun doing that.

[AmyC311]

I might have my husband be there...he normally isn't the type of guy who enjoys showers and "girlie" things...but he has been totally different since we got pregnant. He is all about our little girl and shopping for her so who knows. He might want to come. I don't think we are going to have a couples shower though. We went to one a few months back and the guys all got together in a corner and talked sports the ENTIRE time. I was annoyed because my husband was totally unaware of anything going on at the shower. The guys just stood out in the backyard by the keg (yes there was a keg...) and the rest of us did the shower thing. I think the main problem with us having a couple shower is that our group of friends are so close knit that the guys have conversations to continue from the last time they were around each other. If my friends were more spread out where my husband wasn't close to all the other husbands it might work out better...but then that also leaves out a good chunk of my friends who aren't married or dating anyone too seriously too...

So yeah...No to couple showers for me! :) I am jealous of those who are having them though.

[justice6920]

I love suprises!!! Its also nice to know though LOL, but I would LOVE for DH to be there.... Mine is scheduled for the end of January and will drag DH there if i have too lol

[Juana824]

I am all for co-ed showers..I have been to quite a few, they are so much fun and I agree with ozar129, It takes two to make a baby..so why not have the hubby there!!! Besides, the men sometimes enjoy the games as much as the women!!

Congrats again SiS-STaR!!! I am so happy for you gys!! Enjoy your shower!!!  

[ovaz129]

My mom and sister are throwing our shower Jan. 17th and we asked that men be invited.  

I asked my husband if he wanted to be there and he got sooo excited by me asking this.  I completely agree with you... plus, it takes two to make a baby so why honor just one?  

My LOVELY (totally sarcastic) father in-law already denounced his distaste for our party.  He started laughing and said, "Those things are for women... John, I don't know why you are going".  F-HIM!  Sorry, I am a little bitter :)  My husband didn't let his father's "old fashioned" views get in the way of his excitement for the party!  

[Jem75]

I personally love the showers with couples there. I am heading "home" to Connecticut this week and my best friends are hosting a ladies shower for me on Sat too. I am not opening gifts there  and we're doing games that incorporate hubby - like "how well do you know your husband". A few of the guests have been struggling w/ fertility - so I am trying to make it more low key. But I am grateful for such great friends to host this - so guys or no guys, it is so nice to have loved ones to host something like this!

[mommom2]

I did not vote, because this is my second and I do not need a baby shower. But with my first, I did know about the baby shower and my husband was invited also. He was the only guy there, but he didn't care, it was all ladies we know from the church, my family, his family, my friends (which are his friends too). And he sat right up front with me and helped open gifts!