SOOO Frustrated.

[AmyC311]

Ok...so this is me venting a little...and also asking what you all would do in my situation.

So I went to the dr today. Totally not dialated at all and my cervix is posterior. Which bascially means Blake has baracaded herself in there. I keep reading that first time moms usually dialate a few weeks before they actually have their babies...so I am thinking "Ok..so does this mean I am like several weeks out or just unusual?"
I am suppose to be induced the 5th. The dr is having me come the night of the 4th (Next Wednesday) to try something called cervidale or whatever. It is a small thing that looks like tape that is suppose to release a hormone similar to progesterone to help soften my cervix and hopefully help me dialate so when on the 5th they induce me the pitocin will work...but it might not. And then if it doesn't then I will have a C-section. My husband is all like "Lets wait and see what she decides to do and not risk the c-section" which in theory is ideal but even then she might still have the same result. I still might end up in the same boat.

Ok so here is where it is a bit tricky...I have a dental school interview on the 13th. It is the last possible interview time slot available and I can not go into the interview pregnant and expect to get in. I wasn't even going to tell them I just had a baby because even though it is illegal to base decisions on women's family lives etc they still do it. I have had lots of people tell me definitely to NOT go in there pregnant.

So I need to have this baby ( preferrably naturally) and heal up in time for the interview. I have been trying to get in for over 3 years now...granted I am totally qualified and I should get in but I definitely won't get in if I cancel my interview or change the date because I wait to see what the baby does. Blah...I don't see anything wrong with a c-section if the inducing doesn't work but my husband is totally making me feel guilty about it!

Any thoughts?

[justice6920]

Well I hope all works out for you and you go naturally.... or with the induction, that will most likely work so no C section will be needed! I know how frustrating it can be to have NOTHING going on down there!! But that can actually change in hours or overnight!

I say call the doc and see if he can sweep your membranes, then try the induction...I am betting it will work out just fine.... and If you need a C section then Hey.... you need one! Its just a harder process to recover from.... I am sure all will work out though and praying baby will come all on its own for you, Things can definitly change over night!

[Lachises]

I guess my position on a c-section is a little different because I was told months ago that it's my only option.  It's amazing how you get your mind around something when you have to.  Just remember that they are not saying that you have to have one and even if everything goes perfectly (like you go into labor an hour from now) you could still end up having one.  I've learned that the little girl inside of me is a stinker and is going to do everything that I don't want her to and not do what is needed.  We never got to see her face becasue she had her hand covering it evertime they looked and for the last TWO month's I've had to have WEEKLY ultrasounds.  I went home crying one night because I swore that her hand was connected to her face.  The only thing my mother could come up with to say was, "well if it is they should be albe to cut it off."  Didn't help.  :O)  Anyway, my advice would be to keep your appointment, with the doctor and the school.  You'll get through it.

[ovaz129]

Yep... I gave up the sex idea last week!  First off, like you said it is extremely difficult to find a position that works.  Second off, IT HURTS!  Third off, my husband thinks trying to have sex with a pregnant lady is hilarious... so he is laughing the entire time!  lol... so, yeah... I am with you on the sex thing.  It became more of a joke so "we" (meaning "I") gave it up last week... my husband is still allllll for it!  Go figure.

[AmyC311]

Yeah I am totally not effaced. My cervix needs to turn and apparently that means I am not effaced even a little bit.

My DH and I are going to have sex everyday...which we just found out is incredibly painful for me and frustrating for him! haha. It would almost be hilarious if I wasn't so worried about things moving along... But yeah...for those of you who haven't tried it yet being this huge...it is super HARD to find a position that you can physically do. :( Not to mention I was extra tender down there because my doc did an internal exam this morning...

[ovaz129]

Hey Girl... I am not dilated yet either!  (although, I don't have my appt. this week until Thrusday, but as of last week I wasn't)  And, obviously we are due the same day.  I don't know about that 1st time mom thing & dilating a few weeks before delivery, but I say... definitely don't stress.  My mom didn't dilate until the day of my delivery... she was effaced, but not dilated.  So, I think each person's body does things differently.  

Give your doctor a call tomorrow and see if you can come back in and have him sweep your membranes, or put those seaweed sticks in your cervix.  (I had to have those seaweed things put in before my D & C because it causes you to dilate).  Are you effaced at all?  If you are effaced, then the seaweed sticks are a good option, but you need to be effaced before they give you anything to dilate you.  So, maybe talk to your doctor about that stuff that they can rub on your cervix to thin it out.  Sorry, i am of no help with the name of the medicine.  but, I am sure if you asked your doctor he would know what you are talking about.

As far as the c-section, I would do anything and everything first before doing to c-section thing.  So, give your doctor a call tomorrow and tell him you want to make another appt. for this week... maybe towards the end of the week... and lets hope that he does something for you to get labor going.  Who knows, maybe you will become a momma this weekend?!  Wouldn't that be nice.

[Whitneylauren]

Amy-

Don't worry. I didn't dialate at all until the day I went into labor with my first.... everyone & every pregnancy is very different. With this baby I am already dialated to a 2 & 20 % effaced, and I am not due for 3 more weeks. I, though, would not risk a c- section just so you can get to your interview a week later. Plus is takes a really long time to heal from a c- section. You are going to be really tired, and sore- even if you give birth naturally. Also, I don't know how to really describe it, you will be really out of it for a while. There is a huge drop in hormone levels & it takes your body a while to adjust back to normal.

Both my parents are dentists. My mother went to dental school at a time when no woman did- she was one of 3 in her entire class & was a single mom at the time. She had to go through a lot because many of her professors didn't think a woman belonged in dental school. If you feel as though you are being discriminated against at your interview then you should definitely speak up!

[ashiepooh]

I heard totally opposite of what you've heard.  About first time moms being dilated early?  They usually tend to go over their due date, but your not considered overdue until 2 weeks after.  Some don't dilate until their water breaks, or within 24 hours of having the baby!

But anyhow, the way your looking at it is acceptable!  Obviously with anyone getting induced they run the risk of needing a c-section!  I'd say go about it the way you have it set up for, maybe in the next week baby will decide other plans!  I think your husband is just worried about the surgery, and recovery from that.  Since every woman is different, you can't possibly plan out how you will recover.  You should know that since you may end up with a c-section that you may go into your interview very uncomfortable, and you just have to be ready for that!  Usually it's about a 2 week process, but could end up longer for recovery!  As long as your fine with that, I'd say you got a good plan!

Did your doctor try sweeping your membranes?  Just  running his or her fingers along to see if things get going at all?  I'd say, try every wives tail just to see if it works at all, because it doesn't hurt anything at this point.  I hope that in the next week everything goes well, and gets on track for you!

[kele1129]

ooh tough call....I guess I would start having a ton of sex to try to get things moving along and long long walks. Granted I say that and the last thing I want to do is have sex..unless it guaranteed this baby would come out.