Baptism

[Franky91]

Okay so I need ur advice, I want to get amelia baptised her baptism is booked for 1st of september when I spoke to the priest about it he was very nasty he nearly wasnt goin to allow her to b baptised cause me and my boyfriend arent married, my boyfriend isnt catholic he doesnt want her baptised but said okay when I told him one of his brothers could b god father, I asked the priest if a non catholic could b a god father and he refused me, my boyfriend then said if no one in his family can take part and b a god parent the baptism is off, I then suggested we have no god parents then just get her baptised without them so its fair no members of our family take part, this was not accepted by the priest! I suggested a namin ceremony after the baptism to my boyfriend so that his family could b included he refused and said if there not gettin to b a god parent then its no baptism. I seriously think he is usin this as an excuse now so I cant baptise her, I do everything for my boyfriend his life is easy he goes to work and comes in plays with amelia and then relaxes, I look after our daugter all day, I do all his washin I make this house nice for him, I gave our daughter his second name even though we arent married and I could havr just gave her my second name! even though we dont have alot of money I let him buy his ps3 games, dvdz and weed, thats another thing he promised me he would stop smokin weed when amelia was born but I let him carry on as long as its away from amelia, my point is I do everythinf for him and I let him get things his way and I really want amelia baptised and he wont give me that one little thing thats so.important to me and my family whats ur options girls?

[Franky91]

Yeah ano I told my boyfriend that and said thats why his brother cant b a god parent cause he doesnt believe in god and my boyfriend was still like if my brother doesnt get to.be involved then shes no gettin baptised, he clearly doesnt understand which is why we have this issue and tryin to get the priest to allow it but yeah we might try another priest now

[tomorrow264]

Maybe a different church then. A different priest may be more open minded. Your priest does make sense though because the point of god parents is to help teach the child the religion that they are baptised in.

[Franky91]

Alright, I spoke to my priest again and he was cheeky he said he would b happy to give me a book that explains wht baptism is and why a non catholic cant b a god parent, but my god father isnt a catholic! When I was a baby the old priest allowed a non catholic to b my god father! Total stress

[tomorrow264]

I could be wrong but I think it means that you are Christian but not any set religion.

[Franky91]

Tomorrow what do u mean by baptised non domination? Av never been told about that nor do ano what it means lol feelin a little stupid not knowin

[tomorrow264]

What about having her baptised non domination (I believe that's what its called)? I personal haven't had any of my children baptised. I was baptised Catholic and so is my husband but we don't practice so to me it seem sacrilegious to baptise our children. I feel that when they are older they can decide for themselves what religion, if any, that they want to follow.

[Bri_1985]

Im having a similar problem with my hubby. I was baptised Catholic (havent been to church in years but have slowly started to go again) whereas hubby is Baptist (he hasnt been to a baptist church in years). Anyway, whereas you are being faced with what he would like, Im being faced with the unknown. I want to get my kids baptised, but he says he doesnt care. He wont attend the classes with me either.

[anabelcrts]

Lol yea it is.... Yea they weird...  oook... daam that's krazzy.. we have to get our things straight specially in this kind of situations. .

[Franky91]

God that sounds like a whole lot of drama for u too lol, guys are no good with serious things and I dont think.he understands how serious I am about wantin her baptised, am gettin some where with it we may be able to have one of his brothers as a god parent but they wont b called a god parent they will.b called a sponsor, I beat he will have a problem with that too makin excuses sayin he wants his brother to b named a god parent not a sponsor

[anabelcrts]

Aww!!. Yes I understand u... I am catholic and so is my hubby.. but the shitti part here is that im the one with majority friends and that know way more plp and he doesn't want the persons I chose. We have 4 kids now and we only baptized my 1st daughter when she was like 2 yrs now she 6 and we have 2 boys one is 3 and the other one is 1yr 7months and our newborn bby girl. He pisses me off too because he chose one of my brothers and his stupid wife to be the god parents but they are full of drama and the girl won't even bother to ask hows my daughter doing and my brother calls her once in a while but I didn't wanted them cuz I know the way they are and my hubby still didn't listen to me. And now that I wanna chose he won't let me. And I won't let him chose because this one ***** we didn't even knew asked me for my 3 yr old son and told her I wanted to meet her first cuz I had no idea who she was and she ended up being after my husband and we had problems cuz her and I whoped her *** lol... I don't frkng understand why guys are so complicated when it comes to serious things u know!...  I think is really hard for you specially cuz ur hubby ain't Catholic... but hopefully he understands u and things will get better...

[Franky91]

Sorry this is so long girls but its really frutrastin me this whole situation