Nervous about giving birth

[nadineh1]

Hi this is my first pregnancy. Im 12 weeks 2days. And all i can think about is giving birth im so scared. When i think about it i do feel sick. I dont know if il be able for it. When there is scenes on tv with women giving birth i do have to change the station. Im terrifed.

[kns0622]

Keep in mind you aren't going to be seeing your own lady parts unless you want to. I chose to get the epidural and I had a great birth, however I was also told I was very , lucky in that I had a very short labor.

[TobicaE]

Try searching "peaceful birth" on YouTube :) I can definitely say that birth was not the worst pain I've ever felt, for what that's worth, and my kiddo was 10'11"! Gall stonesnare way worse. Go in prepared (I really liked using the Bradley method), even if you want an epidural, because fear causes tension and tension worsens pain. You can do it! :)

[nadineh1]

Thanks so much everyone

[nadineh1]

Thanks so much everyone

[hwinton20]

Not as bad as u seem I was ftm when I had my son at 36wk 6lbs everyone's pain tolerance is diff sometimes u feel contractions sometimes u don't I had back labor so mine were painful when I got to 5cm then I got epidural wish I didnt. But just relax mommy instincts will kick in

[SavyB]

I delivered my son last year at 21 weeks. He only weighed 1.4 lbs, so it was very easy to push him out, but the actual labor part does hurt. And unfortunately, through the entire labor I knew my son was not going to make it, so that made everything so much worse. I'm thinking "I have to go through all of this pain & I won't even be leaving with my  beautiful baby???". But I did it & got through it & now I'm 14 weeks pregnant again & soooo happy & scared :-) But when I think about the labor & delivery part & get nervous, I just think about all the women I know who tell me they have a very low tolerance for pain... And I'm like, if she could do it, I can definitely do it. And just think of the amazing little miracle you'll have at the end of all the hard work? Soon as my son came out, I completely forgot about all the pain... And I was in labor for 12 hours. You'll do just fine!!

[MamaJackson0522]

Don't let other people's experiences and labor videos scare you. It's something you're not gonna know how to deal with until it happens. Every pregnancy is different and it may not be over quick so please don't try to convince yourself that. My first labor was 17 hours. That's not quick and first time mothers usually take longer. The only thing you can really do is concentrate on remaining calm. If you give in to the pain you're making it harder on yourself. If you wanna scream,cry,writhe don't. You're wasting necessary energy you're gonna need to push. Just breathe hard and evenly. Hold your partners hand. Also, weigh the likelihood of an epidural. If so. Then you only have to prepare yourself to get through 3 centimeters before reliving yourself of the pain. Enjoy your pregnancy. There's still a long way to go.

[rehfieldlove]

My only advice is to do research and talk to your doctor.  I've watched several birth videos and yes sometimes closing my eyes a bit, but after some research I feel better. This is my first pregnancy as well so I am nervous about the pain but it'll be over fast then you know. At least that's what I tell myself. haha