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489099 tn?1286220981

Not so much a Pregnancy deal!!!

Ok so i thought i would ask if you guys if you have had any problems like this. I had a really close friend that ive known for at least 3 years. Then i found out i was pregnant and i told everyone and she seemed really happy for me but she became distant at first i thought nothing of it till we all hung out at a mutual friends house, it was like i was painted on the wall. So after that i spoke to her and asked if i did something wrong or you know if something was up. She said no but she said she thought i needed some space. What space??? I didnt ask for space i told her. She said i dont know!! Anyways after that it seemed like things were cool, but not till today. I heard that someone was saying that we didnt get along so both parties (her & Hubby N Hubby & I) couldnt be invited to the same gatherings cause we didnt get along....What news to me i didnt know. After our talk and after her coming over my house this past Saturday it seemed we were cool. Yeah not the same as before but not that we dont get along. I feel angry because first off friends stick by your side no matter what. Sorry i cant go to the bar with you and get down on the dance floor anymore. Second of all if you have something to say, call me tell me dont be immature and tell other poeple. If you dont want to be my friend because i have a different life now. Then so be it!!! I want to call her though and ask her what her deal is. What does everyone think. Should i even bother??? Have you had any friends stop talking to you because you are pregnant???
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489099 tn?1286220981
Hubby and i been married got 6 years and we were finally able to get pregnant.  So its something we wanted as well. I know its not that she is hurt because she too wanted to be pregnant she knocks on wood every time someone tells her "so when is it your turn". She is still young 22 and she is still going to party it up. Im going to be 28 and well my partying days are over, well still don't mind having a girls night here and there.
So i spoke to her and she told me that she adores me and well she said things have changed "your pregnant" doesn't mean we are not friends. I just told her look just a reminder the ARMY is a small world things that are said get around pretty quick (yeah we are ARMY wives) So if you have something to say i suggest you just tell me. She said no that i have been one of her closes friends. So i left it at that. I told her look if you dont want to be my friend thats fine. I have a great life ahead of me and a baby im looking forward to hold, all of this is not going to matter. Then again if you are in my life than it can all be great.
I have had so many friends that have turned out pregnant and for 6 years hubby & tried to conceive and it didn't happen. Yes it made me sad and thought why isn't it me but never have i once turned my back or distant myself from my friends. Friends stick by your side through thick and thin. Maybe expect the same from my friends. Then again i stop and think my other friends have showed me who my true friends really are. They are the ones who stuck by my side. OK OK ill stop i think hormones and emotional stuff are being involved here lol


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Is it possible that she has been trying to conceive herself, and your pregnancy is hurtful for her to be around?  I came over from the infertility forum, and I know a lot of the ladies on there feel hurt when their friends become pregnant, and even distance themselves, can't go to their baby showers, etc.  
Just a though, otherwise, I'm not sure. I guess I'd give it one more try, and if she won't say what the problem is, maybe one of your mutual friends can shed some light?  I haven't experienced this.
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443185 tn?1211671293
Me, my husband, my cousin and his wife are really close and his wife gave me a little grief when I first told her that I was pregnant. We had alot of plans this summer, staying at the beach partying in New Orleans stuff like that...well I cant do that anymore and Im happy that Im pregnant and IM NOT gonna apologize for it. This is what me and my husband planned and worked for.... I dont think my situation is as serious as yours but still I know what you mean...its like shame on you, you got pregnant, you cant drink anymore dance you *** off like you said stuff like that. Pisses me off too!
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