I know that feeling of wanting another one. My DH and I actually had a discussion about this for the past 3 nights now. We have decided to start trying again when Naomi turns 2 1/2 and since it took 5 months last time hope it will take that long or a little shorter time this next time and baby number two would be due when Naomi is about 3 1/2. Were gonna go ahead an start trying February or January of 2013. We love the idea of knowing that they will be close but Naomi will be old enough to sort of understand and to not feel as jealous.
Period due today or tomorrow so we will if Gabriel gets another sibling soon! The wait has been tedious!
My husband and I had decided to think about it and wait at least a few months before trying. Long story short, (I won't go into the TMI details) last Thursday my hubby decided to seduce me during my nightly shower and protection wasn't used (even though he brought a condom). That was cycle day 15, turns out I ovulated the next day on cycle day 16 according to my temps which just revealed it to me today.
Anyway, this is the same exact timing that I conceived my son (BD day 16 and Ovulation day 17). However, I don't think I'm pregnant because with him I knew RIGHT away. I rarely and still don't get a lot of fertile cervical mucus (maybe 3 to 4 days of wet creamy CM no EW) last pregnancy I got a lot of mucus from ovulation until positive test. And I had little twinges in my stomach a few days after O that lasted over a week....I don't have any of that this time (although this morning I had 3 or 4 "pulling" sensations on my lower right side?)
I know it's early but I just don't feel like I did last time which leads me to think I'm probably not pregnant. My period is due in 7 days so we shall see!
Exactly, it takes the average couple a year to conceive and I'm thinking it would take at least a 4 or 5 months. I have a brother that's three years younger (ALLAN) and one that's 10 years younger (NICK). Mom said I went through insane jealousy when Allan was born, I used to try to push him out of her lap and steal his trainer pants, lol. I love him and now that he's older we are closer but we used to fight all the time. With Nick I was a huge help. I changed his diapers, made and fed him bottles, took baths with him every week, taught him to tie his shoes...I absolutely loved taking care of him (even when I was 11 I knew I wanted to be a mommy, lol). We get along great but it's more like I'm a mentor/2nd mom to him, definitely not a play mate. I'm the big sister he goes to when Allan is mean to him, he doesn't feel good and mom's sleeping, etc.
Anyways, I want my kids to be able to play together, share stories and experiences, support each other during high school...you know what I mean? lol
Hope things go well for you guys TTC :)
Yes, it makes sense :) If they are younger than 2 they don't really remember being a single child. My brother and I are 3 1/2 years apart and we still used to fight all the time. He still does things on purpose to **** me off because he thinks it's funny. My husband and his 2 siblings are really close (23 month gap between husband and sister and 15 month gap between his sis and little brother) and though they fought sometimes when they were little all siblings do and it wasn't bad. They are all really close and talk to each other about everything.
Anyway, I would like to start now so that my kids are just under 2 years apart the only thing stopping me is finishing up my BA degree.
just go with when you feel like it and what would work the best for your whole family, although having a new baby when eldest is 2 is hard, it seems easier when they are either born before the eldest is 2 or after they are 2 if that makes any sense :)
My therapist once called the emotional systems of small children "primitive," when she was explaining why kids who are 2 don't handle it very well when a new baby is born. Actually, research has shown that it is emotionally easier on the whole family if the gap between kids is 4 years or more. I know that is what you did not want to hear, and since you and your husband feel differently, I don't even know why I mentioned it. I guess I'm just saying not to let baby hunger make you time your kids in such a way that they will mostly fight.
I want my children to be close. Brady's first birthday is Oct 27th and we have agreed that will will start trying now. I really want to become pregnant around the same time I did with my son so that I can reuse my mat clothes and baby clothes if we have another boy. So I'm giving myself a few months. If it happens right away so be it but you truly never know!
I have a brother that is 6 yrs younger then me and although I would have been an extreme help for my mom when he was born, we are not very close since there is such a huge gap!