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Not wanting my son's picture on facebook

Hi ladies after being 41 weeks pregnant  I finally had my beautiful son even though it was by C-section due to the safety of him and me. But before I gave birth I had told everyone that I do not want my son's picture on facebook because I don't feel like everyone deserves to see my child. So this morning I go to facebook and the godmother of my son decides to post a picture of my son on facebook without my permission so I politely call and let her know that I do not want my son's picture on facebook and the she asks why, then my respond to her is that I don't want my coworkers to keeping bothering me about pictures of my son that I want to keep to myself and my close family and friends. Ladies am I wrong for asking her to take the picture down of my son or am I just over reacting. Please give me some advice because I don't feel like I need to show my son to the world and since he is my first child I wanna keep him to myself.
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I find it terribly disrespectful for someone to do this against your wishes. It was also done to me, i sent out mass texts asking for people not to post the babies pictures or birth announcement until my husband and i discuss it and make a decision whether or not we even want to share it with the world. Moments later, my sister  took a screen shot that showed that my husbands mother had already done the deed. Smh. I know she was excited and wanted to share her happiness of the babies arrival, but I was slightly bummed. That should have been for us to do. I think people should exercise respect and some sort of etiquette. If you dont see the parents posting or updating their business, why would you?! Crazy. Smh.
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I didn't want my daughters pictures on Facebook until I was ready. I waited until we got home from the hospital before I posted a picture because I didn't want just anyone showing up at the hospital after she was born because her father has issues now and we broke up a few months into my pregnancy. But everyone followed my instructions and they waited to post and even asked me if they could post after I did. I don't think your in the wrong to expect people to follow your instructions on how you want to handle your son's birth. It's your child and you should be able to control those aspects of their life for now. That's how I feel though.
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I don't like Facebook but all of my family has it and I have asked since day 1 that anything about my pregnancy be kept off Facebook with the exception of my MIL getting to announce she's going to be a grandma after we found out the gender, but since that not one peep. It's Your baby and you deserve your privacy, and people need to respect that.
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My husband and I both have fb as well as a lot of our family members. Everyone in my family is excited for our baby but its the first grand child in his family and I was worried about my in laws making the announcement of his arrival before my husband and I could (my MIL AND Grand mother in law are obnoxious and have HUGE mouths) I have politely asked everyone to keep it off facebook until my husband and I are ready to share our sons arrival. So although the situation is a bit different I totally understand where your coming from, yes people get very excited but they need to respect the wishes of the parents!
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Thank you ladies for the feedback
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I do the same thing. I'm pregnant with my 4th and I always tell people before I deliver I don't want them putting any updates or even letting people on fb know I'm at the hospital.  I feel like it is something very special between close family and should be kept private.  Even after delivery I like to keep everything private pictures and all until I'm ready to post it.
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Im also not allowing anyone to post picture of my daughter on any social media
Until I am comfortable and do it first.
I have been giving this a lot of thought and have already told my parents how I feel
I plan on making it cleared to everyone that comes to meet her
And if anyone dose I'm sure I will be just as upset as you are. People need to be respectful
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I totally agree it is your baby and ur wishes should be respected. Good for you for asking her to take it down.
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I don't even have a Facebook. And I told my family and friends the same thing. You don't have to give any reason. That is your child, I think it's ridiculous how much people put out there.  
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Thank you
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I feel the same way as you! So thanks for sharing and congratulations on your son. I don't think you're wrong...it is your child and she should respect your wishes. And even if you did want pics on FB...the parents should be the first people to post any pics, in my opinion. I don't think you're wrong in how you feel. Each parent is different.
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Thank you someone who understands how I feel
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It's no one's choice but your own. This is your son and you have every right to ask that these moments are kept private. We live in a world of too much and over sharing on social media. I don't think you're in the wrong at all.
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