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Anyone else's partner showing 0 interest in pregnancy
So..I'm 23 weeks pregnant and my partner is not excited or interested in our pregnancy. He missed the dating scan becomes he 'couldnt' get the time off work. But then I had to drag him to my 20wk scan and he moaned the whole way through. It breaks my heart that he's not being supportive especially when I have quiet bad pelvic girdle pain and bad back. He won't help me with heavy things or tell me off and tell me look after myself.  I feel like I'm dealing with this on my own...
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I know that feeling my husband is like this not excited at all...  With My frist pregnancy he was not excited at all he thought his life is over but came to the scans second pregnancy upset not excited and did come to any appointments or scans :/ and third well let just say u haven't even told him yet I am pregnant so I know what u are feeling I just wish he woukd get excited with me and support me
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And didn't come to any appointments or scans **
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They are being abusive and to aren't leaving.... Imagine how he is honestly effecting those kids and their mental... To guys should look things up and have more sense.. These men aren't for you and your children..
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If he treating you dismissive, he is also doing the same thing to the children... He is bad for their mental and they will always feel like they have to please him and he can never be pleased... These men are bad parents.. You two should really do some research.. Your child is living a bad life and you are unaware
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He's really good with the other children I just feel I don't get the support I need to get through the pregnancy.
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My man is not supportive or showing any interest in the pregnancy either and I am 23 weeks
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What due date have u been given..being curious now..mines 7th may
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You shouldn't take it to heart. Some men just don't know how to show excitement about pregnancy the way we are. And you need to understand that they don't understand what or how we are feeling. My husband has been the same throughout my pregnancy. He only went to one scan with me which was my 24week scan and I had to insist that he comes. I still did everything around the house myself, he wasn't much help either. He still expected his food on the table etc. The only thing he leaves me be is when he sees that I'm feeling sick. I think to them the fact that we are women means we are just supposed to deal with the pregnancy cos it's our job to get pregnant. It's stupid I know but you know men, sometimes they think stupidly. But that doesn't mean they don't care for you or the baby. They say a woman becomes a mother and falls in love with her baby as soon as she is pregnant but a man doesn't become a father and has little or no feeling for that baby until he holds him/her in his arms for the first time.
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My fiancé has been pretty good about it recently, but in the beginning I had issues similar to these. He always promised to go to all my appointments, until one morning he wanted to sleep in. Doctor couldn't find a heartbeat so she sent me in for an ultrasound. That was the first day I saw my daughter move. When I told my fiancé he missed seeing our child "walk" for the first time, he felt very guilty, wanted to see sonogram pictures right away, and has come to every appointment since :) I agree, I think it's true, moms become moms when the strip turns pink, and dads become dads when they see the baby for the first time.
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I don't mean to go on an on, but my fiancé will still expect me to rub his feet every night. He puts his feet up on my legs when we're sitting on the couch in the evening and it drives me absolutely insane. Even though I'm 34 weeks pregnant he expects this. But I remind him every night the extra weight sitting on me is very uncomfortable, and I'm uncomfortable in general, and he needs to be considerate about that. I think it helps to communicate your needs and be persistent about it, even if that means saying the same thing every day. Men definitely aren't mind readers, among other things.. haha
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Also just a side note-- remind him it can be detrimental to baby's health for mom to be lifting heavy things and you would greatly appreciate some help!
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I am the same way, don't feel alone. My husband has never been there for me. He has never went to a doctor's appoinmemt, he never cared that I was pregnant, he took a long dump in the bathroom while I was in the middle of pushing with our last son. Now I'm pregnant again and he was me to get an abortion or adoption. He refuses to talk to me about the child. I feel so alone, no family or friends.

Please don't feel alone.
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