Considering ending my relationship

[Tsmom714]

Its not really a question i just need to vent iv been with my childrens father on and off for about 11 Years weve consistently been back together for close to 4 years now we have a 2 year old and im currently 38 weeks pregnant with our second we were living on our own and about 2 years ago we had to leave our place we live at my parents house and my fiance hates it here which i do as well my family has there own issues the household is loud and every one is constantly in our buisness or give us room to our own
or to parent my fiance is constantly out he works every day i kno hes working bc his pay checks reflect it but im just do tired of being alone here and not getting the emotional help i need and help with my daughter he always out with his friends and im really over it im going to be bringing a second child into this world and feel like a single parent but i dont kno how to go about ending our relationship.im not concerned about cheating because other than that our relationship is really good i just feel like my familys constant input and involvement has ruined my relationship

[AnnieBrooke]

I also agree, find a place to go and don't wait until October.  If your boyfriend is miserable, it's no wonder he is pulling the long hours, it gives him a place where he is not miserable.  You expecting him to come home and make your misery (from being with your own family) all go away is probably more than he can do.  Frankly, it's asking more than most people could do.  You guys need to get out of there.

[RockRose]

It sounds like it really is hard to be around your family - and it seems like you kind of are blaming your fiance for being at work instead of at home where it's miserable.

You say you can't move out until October - why?  If your family kicked you out today,  where would you go?  Wherever that is,  go there.

[2gs_2bs_andcounting]

The root cause is living with your parents. If I was living with my in laws I'd find any reason to not come home too. He's probably out making as much money as possible so you can leave. Your priority should be saving and not spending so you can save your family and find some peace. You have to support him in working long hours to get where you want to be. My husband was military, then we got out and he works 2 jobs. I have no friends or family. I know what is like to be lonely and over worked. But we are living like no one else now, so we can live like no one else later. Do the grind while your young so you can enjoy it later.

[baby1209]

Well that's what usually happens when women have children. Their priority is the child. Find something for you and your child to do.

[Tsmom714]

Im just very resentful that i have to be at home sticking it out while he goes to workk. And out with friends.he has an escape i dont

[baby1209]

Move out of your parents home.

[Tsmom714]

I am the soonest we can leave is october

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, sheez, if your family is who you're mad at, why break up with your boyfriend?  That will just guarantee that you have nobody but your family, who drives you crazy.

See about taking some space in a shared house or a fourplex somewhere, it can be cheaper than an apartment, and at least you won't have to room with the one group of people that seems to have the power to break you up.

[Tsmom714]

Im tired of being at home alone they are our kids we should be sharing parental responsibilities i dont think just bc he cant stand my family ge should avoid coming home i dont like being here as much as he does but i have a chikd to take care of and no other place to go

[Tsmom714]

No i kno hes a 100% faithful his cheating wouldnt even be a thought in my mind hes very honest and open with me and he tell me every thing im just so frustrated being alone with my family without him but they dont make things easy when were together i get he dosnt want to be there but neither do i why does he get to escape but i cant plus im tired being at the end of my pregnancy my hormones are raging i dont have anyone i can vent to

[yassee]

If cheating is out of the question, work things out before calling quits, especially with a new one on the way, at least you dont have to stress over who is gonna help you provide for you and the kids. But besides the financial part, if you love him and kick him out its gonna be emotionally hard on you and you are gonna miss him and regret it. Again, this is only if you are sure he is not being unfaithful.  .

[Jesseliomar]

I had the same problem and it got worse after our 2nd kid. I learned you have to make it clear what it is you want and tell him he can either make the change or you will. Your kids come first and it sounds to me like you your tired of only you putting in your effort for the kids and all he is doing is making money. However it also sounds like us we had way more stress on our plates when we were living with my parents then when we were on our own. I would honestly aim for getting out and in your own place and see if it makes a difference then you can have a more clear mind to make a decision because making this kind of decision won't just affect you it will effect your babies too.

[Tsmom714]

Iv talked to him about this issue a few times nothing seems to change i feel like a single parent he finacially supports our family but he dosnt put the time in with us

[maw4389]

So why don't you express how you feel to him instead of just up and ending things?