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Okay so quite frankly I don't want to do this **** anymore my bf/father of my two has 2 kids 2 n 4 n I feel like their mother has filled their heads with so much ******** and they come to their dad n make him feel bad when she is actively keeping them away but using me as the excuse we are on our second child and this is still a problem  and then today I just felt upset cause I was all thinking about do something special for the kids or w.e an I hear him on the phone saying yeah imma come get them this weekend  n go to chuckie chesse   or w.e whichttc is on Saturday the day of my dead cousin bday and we made plans the boys bday is today he can take him somewhere 2mar or Sunday but anywho we talking and he says I'm bout to start spending time with my kids alone .. like we don't hAve a 1yr old..he said thAt cuz that ***** say they can't be around me umm who's car I gone take them I'm not mines m leAve me home ... I'm not letting my kid go no where where their mom might be because she said she don't want my kids to have nothing to do with my kids ... he doesn't realize how others affect our relationship I feel my bAbies although they have a live in dad have it the worst cuz we are from time to time left out and he feels he has so much too prove like he wanna show them we don't mean as much as them how would he feel If I said I didn't want them doing certain things with us what if I said I just want to be with my kids alone not yours

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Why are you asking for answers from people who know nothing about your life personally? No matter how many opinions people give you the ultimate decision is yours. You have wrote about this topic plenty of times to have come up with an answer.
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You could either try having a serious conversation with him tell him how that makes you feel tell him to understand your side of this and see if you guys can get a conclusion , compromise so the both of you get what you need . Or you could just simply tell him you don't wanna be with a man who makes you feel this way and if he doesn't find a nicer way to go about this then maybe you should think about what's going to be best for your children . If staying in the relationship is what you truly want to do then you'll find a way to make it work , if your genuinely over this ***** and his bs , and if you feel like not being with him in the relationship will be best for your kids then do what you need to do . But your kids come first , so make decisions based on what's better for them to be around .
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Yea he just gone think I mean m selfish so I'm just like I cool cuz ppl will just say well u knew he has kids but if we live together and plans on being together I feel they need too see us as a unit not saying I'm going to wanna do everything with them but hell if he didn't have other kids I wouldn't have this problem  ya know like if we gonna be a family an I been with him since his son was born and I know for a fact that the lil boy loves me an don't care if I'm around as for his daughter her mother has her convinced  and I just feel he give their mom too much power he get mad cuz she keeps them away but the anger is directed to me cuz... he won't choose his kids (her) over me I never asked n never will I'm tried of wondering if my plans will be broken because of them like sweetest day is coming and I bet that after not letting him see them that she will demand he get them on that day she did last valentines day and tried when I was in labor with my daughter
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Also I feel like things aren't as special with our kids cuz he's already did that ... like he made a comment saying I hope it's a girl so Tre Tre can be his only son ... I got pissed cuz know I wanted a boy ... I got a boy ... I rubbed it in his face n I was like that ***** is good enough to give u a son an not me f u an get out go be with yo son cuz my son is my son
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Your gonna have to have a serious talk with you bf/father and let him know how this is effecting you along with the kids. Its his responsibility to keep things simmered between gf and baby mama. But when it comes to leaving or staying, thats ultimately your decision. We dont know the situation deep enough to tell you who to be with, and honestly thats a question votes cant help you with. You have to think about how much more can you take, But also take the children under consideration.
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Thanks n I do but  tired of being on the back burner I sometimes place my self there by not speaking up
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Yea we all have that problem, but dont think about yourself but think about your children that are witnessing petty things like this. Ya know ?
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Yea I feel ya
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I hope all goes well girl. Keep your head up. I just hate to see siblings ripped apart for some differences. I just think your doing a great job for not stooping down to her level. Let girls be girls.
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I always wanted a family n if he's keeping his kids separated m making them feel more important than mine when they all should be equal and I'm just tired I'm done playing mother to his kids when they do come I'm not doing anything out of my way it's gonna be go ask ur dad I might just ducking leAve cuz I'm not going to be excluded or treated as a,maid or step child .
. Like he told his daughter when we move she can sleep in our bed ... I told him no she not cuz my kids ain't going to be in there cuz once it's bed time I'm naked n I don't want my or ur kids in my bed period
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He got so much to prove too them well his daughter cuz of their pissy *** mom everytime we broke up i tolf my daughter yo dad out here getting this money and a education never ever bad mouth my bf/bd...
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It's mainly how he go about things ... like he cleaned out my car ur not taking my car without me I don't even play that I don't care what the case is u have no licence u have a warrant I didn't pay my insurance  ... u not putting my daughter on the bus with two other small kids m my daughter is not going near ya bm she had threatened me n my kids since 2014 ..
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I cannot recommend staying nor leaving. If you really want things to work then stay. Try counseling but avoid involving the children, minds that young should not be involved in the angry triangle you are having to deal with. There are different methods of talking to your partner and often times when you speak to them the wrong way, they feel attacked and ridiculed. Men are a lot different then women and sometimes women come off too strong. My advice is, seek a third, unbiased party, whom you both can talk to. I'm sure there is more to this that the two of you should discuss. I hope everything works out for you.
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