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How to cope with depression?
This isn't my first pregnancy, nor second, but my third pregnancy. I wasn't expecting to get pregnant. I had been celibate for almost 5 months before I began having sex with my partner. I wasn't on birth control so I was always firm to him about using condoms. He had to be taking the condoms off during sex without my permission or else I wouldn't be pregnant. I don't remember him mentioning of condom breaks. All I know is that  I did not want any more children so soon. I know the situation that I'm in isn't currently the best. During my first two full term pregnancies, I had support from my family. This time around, it's different. I haven't told anyone, but my mother senses that I'm pregnant. She constantly comments that I'm hard headed, stupid, or that my child's father isn't going to stay around. She never says anything supportive. I had to move in with her for support after I was abandoned by my second born 's father when I was 12weeks pregnant and had lost my job due to my pregnancy. I've been trying hard to get back on my feet. I don't have sitters to care for my children so it's hard for me to find a steady job or return to school to complete undergraduate studies at the moment. I had a scholarship for college. I really do miss school and being independent. I've tried to come up with every possible solution to get me out of the living situation that I'm in. It only seems as if it's getting worse. It's taking a major toll on my physical and mental health. I'm trying my best to not to stress, but it's hard. I feel alone. I haven't spoken with my unborn child's father in two days because I'm not ready to face him right now. I really don't know what to do.
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7552771 tn?1469933249
Well condoms are actually less effective than birth control it says 99% on the box but its actually quite less than that. But i understand your situation completely. I think the best thing to do is just sit back take a deep breath and fogure out whats best for you and the 2 kids you have now. If you didnt want another baby so soon maybe now isnt the time to be having one. But if thats not an option for you then you need to just take another deep breath and move on and get happy about the baby its hard i know but thats life. I found myself pregmamt with a surprise baby this February with my 3rd baby and my husband and our 2 children are still livimg with his parents in 1 bedroom and i have a fridge in the garage and 1 shelf in the pantry. Thats my life. It sucked and i didnt want to be pregnant then i miscarried in march and it was awful and destroyed me. And now im pregnant again and terrified of whats to come. I dont even want to see a doctor and i cant tell any of my friends and family and we still live with his parents. Life bites you in the tushy sometimes. Sorry i probably just made ot worse. Im just scared too right now but i actually wanted to get pregnant just didnt think it would happen so fast again.
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Just hang in there things will turn around and start looking better whenever you hit rock bottom the only way to go is up just hang in there and don't give uo
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It sounds like you have some choices.  There is a range of possibilities, all the way from one extreme to the other.  It sounds like it would be hard to just automatically get happy and have the third child, but you might be able to do that as the pregnancy progresses.  The other extreme that some women do (which I'm not saying you are asking about at all!) is to put the entire sibling group up for adoption.  But there are options in the middle.  You could put the upcoming baby up for adoption, possibly in your boyfriend's family there is someone desperate for a child.  And you most definitely should hit each of your children's fathers for child support! See a lawyer and get the papers filed.  (Don't be passive about this -- having financial help will make a big difference.)  And while your mother shouldn't call you hard-headed and stupid, you are going to have to face the music with her about being pregnant no matter what because you're under her roof and supported by her money.  See if there is a pastor or counselor you can talk to, your doctor might be able to recommend someone.  You could use someone just to run it all by.  And this goes for the whole length of the pregnancy -- find a support system, it helps so much.
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