Im cheating on my husband in my dreams....

[eadayiznew]

So first of all I hate that I'm having these dreams... We have been together off and on for 10 years just celebrated our 2nd year of marriage. 2 years with our 2nd baby on the way it was not planned and to be honest in the beginning a little upsetting. We went through so much with our first that as a couple we had to go to councelling because he wasn't hearing me at all and I told him in front of the counselors that I didn't want to have another child until things changed (should have been on birth control but I thought the pull out method would work) :( o well praise God because I'm having a girl, and I wanted a boy first then a girl. But now we are going through the same thing because nothing has changed. I'm currently on bedrest not able to cook or clean. I cried to my mother because I needed help. My husband is in so many extra things ( two bands, two bible studies, and of course his family always have events) he figures he can take out 1 year old drop him off at his parents house and go where he pleases and I'm in the house by myself. I'm currently always on nifedipine and from time to time I get massive headaches and I'm still cramping. I tell him I need him to stay and he says why I'll make sure u have everything you need before I leave.. My mother has to go back home (South Carolina where all my family is) because her husband isn't doing good either. So I'll be here by myself while my husband is at work ( my MIL told me to help me she would come get the baby everyday like daycare hours, but how does that help me I want to be with my son I want to see him). Maybe I'm just hormonal and it's not that serious.. Mind you when my husband is home he does fix me a plate of food and get me water and other things when I ask. But if I'm married why do I still feel the need to have my mother to help me? My husband meetings, practices and events are about 3 to 4 times a week... And he tells me that he is making connections for us for 20 to 30 years down the line for our future and I should be fine/happy that he is going to these events.. But what what's about here and now and me being high risk for this pregnancy (my fetal fibranectin test came back positive so I don't want to over do myself and have this baby before its time) IDK...

[eadayiznew]

And that's it

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm sure you can leave the house in order to go to the doctor.

[eadayiznew]

I can't leave the house by doctors orders

[samisam88]

Just a suggestion but could you try going along to some of these places with your husband? Ask him to take you along with him. That way you're getting out more but have him there to support you and help look after your son together. Or does he have any family member that you get on particularly well with? Maybe you could invite them around and go out and see them with your son.
I'd still do what Annie Brook has suggested and go and see your doctor. You won't get help if you don't ask for it.
Good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, it sounds like you have depression, I think there is such a thing as "prenatal depression" but with you having another child so young it could even be postnatal depression.  I think you should talk this over with your doctor and see if there is anything he can prescribe that would help, or if there is a counselor on his staff you can talk to.  You don't sound like you have it that bad, but you sound like you are feeling really bad, and that is what makes me think it's depression.  I don't mean this to sound like I'm saying "it's all in your head" because depression is a real medical condition, taken seriously by medical people.  They won't blow you off.  Go see your doc.  Good luck!