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10843549 tn?1425096623

Valentine's day ; (

So my husband was sweet and took me to dinner when he came home but after dinner he passed out on the couch and that was the rest of our night.
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10743983 tn?1440210210
Well that's great! (: I understand. Especially wanting time in or out with your partner before the baby comes. I feel this way constantly. And find myself either over exaggerating (according to others, my feelings are totally legit to me) or totally freaking out. I have four weeks left, give or take. That's terrifying, especially not knowing what's going to happen or not after she is here. I am scared for myself and often for my relationship. I just don't know what it will be.

Your feelings are normal. Everyone sees things differently. I am glad you got to finish your vday! That's great (:
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10843549 tn?1425096623
We finished it today..when he came home I made him a really good dinner and we started a movie. ..he fell asleep again but im not upset...I was just venting yesterday...pregnancy hormones make things feel alot bigger. But im lucky to have someone like him..not to mention he works so hard everyday and never complains
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10743983 tn?1440210210
Make tomorrow the finish to your valentines day (: he took you out to dinner, which was awesome of him. And you were hoping for a little more (; I get it. So do it tomorrow night, if he's working be naked when he gets home. I assume that is what you meant by some more lol.

I understand what they are saying, but I also understand what you are saying. Just like some people don't celebrate Halloween, but you have the ones who rather enjoy the night. We all have opinions, it is what it is (:

But don't forget to thank him for taking you out to eat! That was super nice and filled with effort. Men don't always know what we expect, or don't expect. Especially when it comes to days like valentines day. Everyone shares different opinions of the day, everyone.

Just because today is vday, doesn't mean you can't finish it up tomorrow (; or whenever he may not have to work and has plenty of rest. You know him! You got this.
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10843549 tn?1425096623
Look ladies dont get me wrong..please ive been grumpy as all H*LL lately...you should know we get carried away all year with our every day tasks..and I think its special to have one day where we can take time to reflect on the love we have for the special people in our lives. To all you ladies saying "we dont do anything" or call it  a "forced" holiday. ..well thats what you feel..this is my post and this is how I feel..like I can set aside time for one day to love on my man..and dont even try to tell me it devalues day to day love cause thats some BS.
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My hubby and I don't do any gifts or date nights on vday either. To have each other and our growing family is enough for me....we all went to dinner last night since I'm working tonight and to have a lady came up to us and told us what a great job we're doing with our 2yo because she's an amazing kid...she said was way more meaningful to me than any gifts out there! Just treasuring what we have. Good luck to all of us mommies!
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We don't normally do anything for valentines day for each other. Every year he works and so we just get the kids something small and call it a day. Last year was the first year we went out for dinner for valentines day and made a date out of it. This year I woke up to a stuffed elephant and that was the sweetest gesture! We're both working today so we probably won't go out. I know it's sad to not do anything for valentines day or not get much time spent together on valentines day but the good thing is he made the effort and tried to do something sweet for you by taking you out to dinner. I'm sure he feels terrible falling asleep afterwards but maybe you two can have a date night later this week like a redo date ?
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I understand you girl!
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10843549 tn?1425096623
@makereth I wasnt "forcing" him to spend money on me..I wanted him to spend "time" with me...watching tv. AND believe me i know all about not seeing my husband, we both used to work on fishing boats but when I got pregnant I stayed home..and also I understand he was tired I was just venting here like I said. AND if I may add I was planning something for him..its hard to spoil our men when theyre asleep, unless you missed that.
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Don't get me wrong....my husband and I go out plenty of times during the yr for date night. We used to try and go every fri night until this pregnancy took its toll on me. And now since I got really sick, we haven't been out or done anything in almost 2 months. We normally go to the movies every yr for V-Day, so not even anything crazy. I just wanted to do something, anything for a good night before baby (32 wks, but they think I'm going early. ..I hope!!) And thoug g t that this was the perfect opportunity for thst one last romantic outing  
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Valentine's Day shouldn't force a man to spend more money on us. Don't get me wrong, I love being spoiled but I'd just as soon my husband takes me on a nice date any other day of the year instead of valentines because there is so much pressure for him to make it a big deal. Why does it have to be him spoiling us? We can spoil him too. There is no set date for a couple to be romantic, or shouldn't be. I haven't seen my husband in 4 weeks due to him working 6 hours away from home and I'm 38 weeks pregnant. He comes home on Sunday and that to me is date enough! Although we are planning a date day for a couple days after he gets home to spend some quality time together before baby arrives (hopefully). I'm just thankful for a husband who loves me, who works so incredibly hard to provide for us both and for our soon to be family of 3. Happy Valentine's Day mommies/mommies to be! Let's spoil our men and show them our appreciation of them!
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Well, at least he took you out to dinner. Tonight we were coming home from grocery shopping, and I said "so we aren't doing anything tmr for V-Day?" (We are getting a blizzard 12-18" more of snow) and he goes no, I'm good not doing anything this yr b.c we already have a great gift (meaning baby). well thays great that you are ok not doing anything,  but what about me? Im having a rough hard pregnancy and would love to be taken out for a nice night before baby comes in a few wks :-(
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10843549 tn?1425096623
I should add he has been working 10-12 hrs a day without any days off for last two weeks..just needed to vent :/
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