really not attracted to my boyfriend

[Blessingbaby15]

I really do not want to be with my boyfriend anymore should I tell him im thinking about leaving him and moving out or should I just up and do it without him knowing? I feel like he is literally not caring about me he doesn't act like a man and I feel like he doesn't care about me being pregnant so im not attracted to him nomore and I just really don't like him no more I feel like he is not meaning me any good I feel like he cares about hes friend more then me so I feel like why am I even with him clearly hes friend means more to him then me im just so tired

[Chima7]

You said this has been going on since before you got pregnant so why are you having a baby with him?  The signs have been there all along that he doesn't want a girlfriend or a baby. Also through his actions he made it crystal clear that he doesn't care about you so why are you bringing a child into this mess? If the boy isn't responsible and doesn't care about you, DON'T have sex with him, period. You could've avoided ALL of this drama if you would've made smarter choices. Learn from this and don't make this kind of mistake again.

Hopefully you've learned a huge lesson here to not have any more babies with anyone until you are in a stable long term relationship with a man who actually wants kids with you. It makes all the difference when both parents are mature and responsible and ready to be parents.

[dee_lopez]

He is just young and most likely not ready to be a dad. My ex husband was the same exact way but with his brother. I mean they were inseparable his brother would cuss me out and say i stoled his brother from him. Lol... I am 5 years older than my ex he had just turned 18 and i was 23 but ex didn't act his age he was always responsible and such a hardworking and did everything he could to make me happy. He stayed from his family the first year while i was pregnant i hadn't even met his family the first year and then after i had our daughter he made a complete 180 and after i had met his family they HATED me. They said i took away their son, brother and thst i ruined his life. They were, are horrible ppl. They're a huge reason we aren't together today. He NEVER ONCE stood up for me pr told them to mind their business or even once corrected his brother about the way he talked to me. After 10 years i left. And NOW qmy ex husband is in jail going to prison for 2 years and he has completely disconnected himself from me and our kids and took a charge for his brother. It nevrr changed, it hurt so bad because i did everything and anything for that man. Now, he's a diabetic and looking at time and he still doesn't admit that he was wrong. But he has lost his family ,because of him not making his family a priority. If you want to leave be sure thats what you want first, its gna be very hard and you won't have that companionship even though he's hardly around, but remember you have a child coming and if you're positive you can do ot than go for it. Im 34 and thought i could on my own but have struggled don't get me wrong i have a new man in my life and im working through my issues and its been super hard and im 35 weeks with my.little boy but i did the whole i wanna go bavk no i don't thing, that's what you need to avoid. It can be confusing for your baby. Just talk to him first and lay it all out, yes you do sound young but you're an adult. You have to think about baby. Good luck God bless and you can always message me if you need to talk.

[Blessingbaby15]

He only spends time probably ever other week other than that im lonely at hes house

[Blessingbaby15]

This was going on before I was pregnant he spends To much time with hes friend I swear everyday

[Blessingbaby15]

Im 21 I have had this conversation plenty of times with him all he does is say he knew hes friend before me. He doesn't ask how the baby is doing he doesn't ask do I need anything but definitely hes friend can ask for money food he will definitely give it to him

[raventidwell12]

That is exactly What's going on with me...I thought it was juSt pregnancy brain.

[jenz21]

Oh well he sounds childish ... I think he needs a lesson maybe leaving him would make him wake up a little.... I'm not saying he shouldn't have friends but at this point you are now his family and should be his priority.

[jenz21]

Lol I mean .. u sound a bit young. U can't just leave .. I mean u can of course but now you're pregnant .. this isn't just about u anymore. I mean let's be honest did u truly stop feeling for him? Or you're hormonal? Most Women Would Feel Lonely And Cry But U are ready to get up and leave.... I think u should have a serious conversation with him. And see where u guys stand. That's my opinion ...

[Blessingbaby15]

I have tryed to actually talk to him and all he says is he knew hes friend before he knew me he acts like hes friend is hes boyfriend literally I be wondering if he might be ubdercover it really crosses my mind how much time he devotes to hes friend then me. I pay all the bills literally without me being here he would be a reck he doesn't appreciate me he can't even pick me up after work I have to walk home but he will do anything for hes friend no way will hes friend be walking home

[19jellybean94]

Do the decent thing and tell him your leaving him and moving out, he should be there for you and supporting you in any way possible. Not making you feel the way you do, i don't blame you for wanting to leave him. Good luck and i hope someone better comes along!!

[maw4389]

Your hormones are probably getting the best of you. You and your bf should have a long talk about each others feelings and what not.

[Octmommy2015]

If that is really how you feel then talk to him and if that doesn't work then leave but you'll have to decide if you still want him in baby's life

[SabrinaCasner]

I would just be honest and tell him how you really feel. Maybe see what he thinks or how he feels, or to see maybe how he reacts. But the choice is yours and yours alone. Do what you feel would be the best thing for you and that baby.