Who do you plan on having in the room during labour?

[browneyedmama]

Since our babies are going to be born soon, I thought i would ask if anyone has thought about who they are having in the delivery room for support and encouragement. is there anyone from past experiences that you WOULD NOT like to ever have the delivery room again? Are you nervous or scared about the labour?


During my first pregnancy, i had my fiance and my stepmom. i was very lucky my step mom was there. she was such a great help. i think my fiance (Brett) felt a little lost and was unsure what to do to help me through my contractions. Without my step mom i dont think my labour would of went as smoothly as it did. it has brought her and i so much closer together, it was amazing.

With this delivery i am going to have Brett and my stepmom again. i am much more scared of labour this time then i was with my first. i think its because i know what to expect, i know what the L&D rooms look like, ive heard other ladies in labour, ive felt the pain. you'd think that would set my mind at ease, but it makes me feel terrified!! ahhhh.... im getting more and more nervous as the days go on!! lol  

[betty12]

i totally hear you on the whole MIL  thing omg i gonna go crazy to its so bad  almost stressful...

[browneyedmama]

hey hon.... if you really dont want your mom in the room, you need to tell her. cuz it might make you feel akward or uncomfortable, and thats the LAST thing you want when you are trying to focus on getting that little munchkin out!  she will probably be hurt and mad at the beginning, but she'll get over it. its about you... not her. good luck

[Cremzin]

I am only having my husband in the room with me! It was the same way when I had my daughter and it was awesome. So peaceful! I've heard some awful stories about having other people in the room. My cousins wife had her Mother in the room with her and the ENTIRE time she stayed on her cell phone talking to someone in the waiting room and letting them all listen to what was going on! I couldn't believe it!
If you want your Mom to be in the room then you need to give her specific instructions on what she can see, who she tells about what she sees and so on. I wouldn't mind my mom being in there but no way in hell would I let my mother in law in the room. Shes one of those people that would go out to everyone in the world and tell them what everything looked like down there and exactly everything that happened. (my mother in law is going to drive me insane!)

[kelliestarr]

I was hoping for just my boyfriend and I but my mother wants to be there and demanding to be there. It would be different if she asked me could she be there unstead of saying I am going to be there no matter what. I really don't want her there though. What to do???

[shadowserpent]

ive decided it will be my biyfriend(after a few long talks about no cell phones with cameras no cameras no video of any kind, and hes NOT allowed to point and make faces, lol hes a joker and i MAY allow him drawing paper but only if he doesnt scetch anything to gory, hes a very talented artist and ive no dount hed make a very realistic picture of,,, me in all my "glory!) and i want him at my side staying away from down there unless, its for like the crowning and im not even sure about that!
my moms supposed to fly down from florida to be there, she missed my first pregnancy because my son came early!
my first time at labor i got literally "stuck" with my stepmom and boyfriends mom(different boyfriend than this tiome around) and i seriously wanted them both dead!
my boyfriends mom on one side was saying things like "looking at you is making ME tired~!"
and my stepmom kept saying "quit being a baby it doesnt hurt THAT bad!"
i reminded her 18 times my epidural didnt work but she had to act all superior even though with her 2 kids her epidurals worked flawlessly!
so this time around ive learned who i really need for support! and if for some reason my mom doesnt make it in time cause this one shows up early, ive got two best friends on standby!
i agree though, now that i know what to expect im even more scared of labor this time around! its silly!

[lamb18]

It will be me and my husband. I have asked my mom to be in there too, but she has a 5-year-old to tend to. So, it doesn't matter either way I will be comfortable and healthy.

[lily_rose]

I agree... me + hubby + midwives.

[Mommy3Girls]

That is awesome. I like the way you think!!!

[AZasu]

My fiance only..   :)   Thought it'd be pretty intimate if it was just me and him..  :)

[babydreams9]

It'll be me, DH, and my mom & dad. We're all incredibly close and can hardly wait to share the experience together. DH will be with me the entire time, through all stages of labor.... Mom & dad will be there during the actual birth to see their first grandson enter the world. My hubby and I have been taking birthing classes that focus on both parents enduring labor together, and it has been amazing. It's brough us so much closer and DH is so into everything. He's always wanting to "practice" what we learn in class - which is great for me, because one of the things we learned is massage and touch-therapy during labor!! :-D He's also learned so much about the actual process; he was pretty much clueless beforehand as to the physical and mental aspects of pregnancy, labor, and childbirth for the mother-to-be. I'm glad he's gotten a lot of exposure (via lots of great videos our instructor has shown us) to labor - so it won't be as difficult for him to see me in pain or understand the strange sounds I'm making! lol... We're all literally busting at the seams with excitment for the big day... 8 more weeks to go. Feels like forevever!! :-P

[Mommy3Girls]

Well, since I have a scheduled c section the only one in the room besides the doctor and about 8 nurses and doctors assistance will be my honey and baby's daddy. Otherwise it would have been my dear fiance and my mom.

[browneyedmama]

yikes... thats a tough call about your sons seeing all the "gory" stuff. lol ...i would see how they react to watching a birth on tv or online and then use your judgment based on their reactions. my fiance really had a tough time seeing me in pain, i would be worried that your sons may get upset seeing exactly what happens and knowing how much pain comes of it.

[Wendy80]

My husband will definitely be in there with me, and assuming she can make it there in time, my mom will also be in with us (she's a 5 hour drive away, but as soon as I check into the hospital she's going to come out and hopefully make it for the birth).  My husband and I have agreed that I NEED him in there with me, but it is his job to stay up at the "cleaner" end near my head for emotional support (I know that childbirth is beautiful and a miracle, but I also know that both of us would be more comfortable with him not seeing every little detail from the other end).  I can't wait for the big day... but I'm nervous as hell!  

[Nadia77]

im hopping for my husband to be there although he is a chicken when it comes to this kind of circumstances and if he sees blood he may faint!! I am not sure of my mother because of her health issues and my sister is young and never had a baby either... so not sure... would like to have someone there very close as well as I can rely on them.. Im am worried about labor but at the same time exited as I will get to see my baby at last! so makes me feel labor is special in a way..

[lynda544]

I'm sure my husband will be there but I'm unsure about my 8 and 10 year old boys. A good friend of mine had her 2 boys present during her delivery and she said it was great. I'm not sure if I should expose my little darlings to the beauty of birth but I also don't want to have them miss out. Right now I'm thinking maybe a close friend should stay with them until baby is born and I am "covered". Do any of you have a strong opinion on this or experience?