I told my Mom last week, and as i was talking to her, my sister came in the room and was like what are you guz talking about, well its not like its a big secret that me and DF was ttc, they all new that. But she asumed anyways. And I just told my dad today which he got a little upset, he said so you new a whole month and 2 weeks and just now telling me.
I told one of my best friends but not the other one bcuz i was disappointed with how she acted when i had my m/c and the comments she made. I have told some associates that i talk to every once in a while.
I dont plan on telling my mothers family or fathers family until im out of first trimester. I didnt appreciate their comments either after my m/c, so they can all wait to hear the news.
We did the same thing. I told the people who are closest to me who I would want to know if something goes wrong. After my mc last year I had a list of people I for sure would NOT be telling. They don't even get a call after the first trimester. That group of people will figure it out when they see my belly.
We told my dh's parents right away. This will be their only grandchild(ren.) So I was super excited to tell them.
When I found out it was twins, i got so excited i told my mom also. She said "let me sit down" LOL
I will go for my next u/s to check on the babies on Wednesday. I'll be 7 weeks. At that time, or sometime within the next week, we will probably tell our other children. This is going to be a shock for them. I just want to wait till I see both babies hb on ultrasound one more time to make sure everything is okay before telling too many people, especially my kids. (Don't want them to deal with the stress of losing one if it were to happen.) Twins have a little bit higher rate of m/c ~ but by week 8, the chance is very very low.
Gonna try to wait another month or so to tell my Boss. I'm a little nervous about that one.
Just about everyone and their moms know that I am expecting. I told my mom and cousin and my cousin decided to spill the beans to our grandma...who was on the phone in minutes with the entire family. (I had just found out at the time).
lol, ladies....well, pretty much every one in my family knows too. I told my sister the first time I tested (1/07/08), she was thrilled! She knew I had been trying for a little while too. I'm going on a skiing trip at the end of Feb so I'll share it with the rest of my friends then. They will be in shock.
One of my best friends knows I'm pregnant but the other one does, I'm waiting to tell her on the trip. I spoke to my friend Karen today (the one who knows) and I basically told her that I would be staying in the condo most of the time instead of going outside and playing with the snow...I don't want to risk falling down or anything. She understood.
My Mom, sis, and stepdad were the first to know besides my fiance (of course!), and then he told his immediate family. They all knew as soon as we found out. My Mom passed on the news to the family I'm kind of close to (I don't get to talk to them much, they live in NC, I live in TX - long distance is expensive!). My Dad lives in NY, I just told him Friday, he was not at all happy. We told my boss a couple of weeks ago -- all he said was, "Well that explains why she's been gaining weight!" (in a joking manner of course, I hadn't really gained weight yet). All of our close friends know, it's not really a secret at all at this point. We're bad at keeping secrets.
I have told my sister and my close friends who knew we were ttc. We have also told dh's parents - his mom is fighting breast cancer so we hoped it would lift her spirits! I have my second ultrasound on Wed and assuming all goes well, I will be calling my parents Wed night. They are terrible at keeping secrets so I wanted to wait - I just hope they are not upset that I waited so long! I will be 8 weeks and 5 days!
LOL ladies.... some of the stories are funny. Okay so I feel left out. We haven't told a soul yet. Yip no one knows at all. Not my mom and not his...DH doesn't want us to tell anyone at all, he says they will just eventually see....LOL So I suffer alone....LOL
No one knew that we were TTC, as far as everyone is concerned I am still on the pill and planning to go off it this year and we are planning to have a baby this year....LOL I have been on the pill for almost 6 years and was afraid it might take a year for me to fall preggors. So hence I didnt' tell anyone in my family that I was TTC. Only friends and colleagues here at work know that we were TTC.
People have been very negative telling me that it could take years for the pill to work out of my system etc, I still keep gettting that...LOL Little do they know my butterfly has a heartbeat already....
I told my DH's sister. Really he told her. He told his bff and I told my bff. That's all folks. After my loss I don't think I can bare to go through explaining a m/c and the negative words about how i can't have kids b/c I keep m/c. I hear that now and I only had one m/c. I know they don't mean any harm. they just don't know people who that has happened to before. So I will tell everyone else when I start showing or at 17wks. That's my safe zone.
I understand Ashmcc, thats how i feel, the explaning is unbareable and the remarks that folks say are jus so rude. I didnt even tell my best friend bcuz she was one of the ones whose remarks was so negative, ex: well mayb it wasnt meant to be, mayb you should b married b4 trying again, etc. I did just tell my cousin on my father side who is due aug 24 and her sister. I only had a problem with one person on my father side, everyone else was ok.
Why is it that the people that were suppose to be the closest to us are the most judgemental? I also havent' told one of my closest friends yet because she once told me that, people who love children the most are those that most often can't have children. She was implying to me. I have always loved kids and always babysat over weekends and holidays and I don't think she couldnt handle the fact that kids loved me back.
I haven't told my mom because my mom is the money whiner, haven't told my sister because she has constantly been nagging me to have a baby so that my nephew can have a cousin and at one point told my husband that he shoots blanks... So yah, we aint gonna tell either of them soon...LOL
As for my colleagues here at work - they have also been constant nags. Another lady in our deparment is due in May and she keeps telling me that I should go to the doctor because she knows that something is happening in my tummy...LOL Boy will they be surprised...LOL
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