4 weeks pregnant and extremely nervous to tell anyone

[Shante34]

Hello, I am 4 weeks pregnant with my second child. My first child will be 13 years old in July. My son will be very excited. He's always wanted a sibling. But, I'm absolutely nervous about starting over and telling my family. I have a very negative family who's not supportive about anything anyone does, so I don't have anyone to be excited with me about this new journey, except my son of course. I have yet to even tell the father that I'm pregnant. He wants children but he mentioned in discussions not right now. Totally terrible on his reaction as well as my negative families reaction. What should I do?  

[27_eb]

This is your life. I know how your feel i have a family like that to but you have to live for you. God give  you this baby he or she will bring nothing but happiness in to your life . Dont worry about what people are going to say just be happy

[Shante34]

I agree. Thank you 27_eb.

[Nayy_]

First I would take time to embrace the pregnancy. Be happy girl and congrats! You have this special little creature in you that I am sure will receive lots of love. Practice what you will tell the father,  expect any kind of reaction because of course this is big news . If not now he'll come around and be as excited as you. But you won't know till you tell him :)  . As for your family they will have to deal with whatever decision you choose because this is your life and you do what makes you happy and what you feel is best.  As for your son he'll probably do backflips! I wish you all the best and goodlyck through this journey .

[Shante34]

Thanks so much. You're right, he'll come around. And my son is definitely going to be excited. I appreciate your response.  Will absolutely take all you said into consideration.  Thanks alot.

[stacy09]

Congrats momma. Don't let negative family ruin your joy if you are happy your son is happy that's all that matters. The father will come around. Enjoy the blessings and keep negativity away.

[Shante34]

Thank you Stacy09.. Negative people are placed in the background from now on.  

[stitch83]

I think that once you say your pregnant and it sinks in the father will be happy.  If your family can't be happy for you screw them.  Who cares what others think.  If your happy thats all that matters

[Shante34]

I agree stitch83, thanks so much for your response.  

[teksbrat]

I am 7 weeks with my second child. My first just turned 14.  I raised her by myself.  Similar situation for me. New baby dad wanted children but was not expecting one right now. He went and heard yhe heartbeat today and is now shopping online for babystuff.  Sending prayers your way. Everything happens exactly like its meant to. Children no matter when they come are a blessing.

[Shante34]

Good morning, very similar situation teksbrat. As much as I think others don't understand,  there's always someone in this world experiencing the same thing. Thank you so much.  Many prayers and blessings your way. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy.  

[ChynaDiamon]

For telling the father , I would do it when you best feel comfortable. Either way he will accept the news and become excited along the way. As far as your family ? I experienced it all. My family is negative and dysfunctional. I didn't tell no one til I was 30 weeks pregnant. Just let your son know he will be the biggest supporter on your team ! I promise .

[Shante34]

You're absolutely right. Thanks ChynaDiamon. And congratulations on your bundle of joy.  

[valariebug]

All babies r a blessing no matter if it's the wrong time for them I'm about fourteen weeks pragnact I'm excited my first child is soon to be here just be happy bc it's life make ur life happy not make everyone else happy.

[Shante34]

I agree. Thank you Valariebug

[Shante34]

Thanks for your response Ms.Doody.. God definitely has a plan for me and my little one on the way. I appreciate you taking the time out to respond.  Have a blessed day.

[ms_doody]

Dont worry about what the family have to say and think a child is a blessing and the father of the child will come around. My husband didnt want kids right now either but hes came around after a lil bit hes happy now. Stressing and worrying is not good for u leave it in God's hands he have u a blessing for a reason.

[Shante34]

Thanks so much.  You're right, how they think and feel doesn't matter at all. These negative family members are something else. You continue to do the very best for you and your family and congratulations on your new bundle of joy.  Many blessing and continuous success your way..

[claytznkelz57]

I know exactly what you're talking about when it comes to negative family members. Mines are that way as well. For me I'm 7 1/2 weeks pregnant and guess what.. only who I want to know knows the wonderful news. I refuse to tell any of them anything. They always have something negative to say about me because I'm the only child and grandchild who lives on my own and is doing it on my own with my three kids. Instead of being happy and proud I'm doing it on my own no they degrade me and talk down on me just because I live housing. Well like I've said earlier.. just do you and your immediate family (son and baby's father) and you'll be fine. Don't let anybodys negativity rain on your parade. What they think don't matter!! Congrats to you and blessings your way:)