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10743983 tn?1440210210

As a first time mom,

I am freaking out! My body is changing every day.. I don't feel comfortable in my own skin anymore. I am having the hardest time excepting the changes happening to my body and just going with it...

I have always loveddd sex, it is a big thing too me and an emotional outlet at times. I am very very sexually attracted to my man, and have always wanted him daily! 24/7 365 days a year! And he hasn't been like that sense after a year of being together. But anyways, for me it has never changed and now I feel like I am just begging for it! I just want the physical acceptance daily.. I am so so afraid he won't be attracted to me as I continue to grow and after the baby.. When he turns me down or hides himself from me I feel so rejected and ugly.. I am having an extremely hard time accepting the changes happening to my body and I am just freaking out..

My boyfriend watches porn and I don't know until I catch him. And I will be leaving in a week for two weeks and I am really stressing out. Trying to keep myself together with my own troubles about my body and him watching porn I just feel awful. I always have about the porn, but I feel so disgusting and ugly... And big... Why would he want to look at me when there are women like that? Why would he want to see or think about me, being all gross, when he can see and think about them?

Can't accept myself.
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Tell him we need to talk, and be open and honest about your feelings (just like you did in your post)

it's a really hard thing to do, and it might be uncomfortable, and you feel like you're selfish But it's so important for him to know exactly how you feel.

it's incredibly important to get your feelings out on the table, and maybe say something like "I want to feel like you still want me" because if you don't talk about it it might lead to resentment down the road which is not good for either of you
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10371348 tn?1416868778
Omggggg ok im posting to support you that sounded like a really honest post. Some ppl!!!!!

Anyway yes your man looking at porn is a  KILLER for your self esteem especially if it was not your idea. This is a big problem in many relationships even with non pregnant women. Personally i do not think its a normal thing society accepts it as normal but watching other poeple do it us just creepy.

Im a 3rd time mum and still get upset at the effort i need to put in after birth just to feel nice again for my hubby.

As long as he is still interested in you i wouldnt worry and he does not put you down. Your body is changing for the best reason you need to love this transition for what it is.
(A new baby will bring bigger changes to your intamacy than pregnancy) you need to accept that things change even the frequency. That was my biggest issue after my first. All of a sudden i had a baby to share my hubby with and i did not like sharing lol  as long as you and your man still want eachother you will do fine.
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Word313 this is a forum for woman to post things for advice. If u don't want to read it don't! ! And don't bother commenting if u feel the need to be rude!


B1128.  It's normal to feel rejected when your man turns u down and u r not comfortable in ur own skin. I don't feel sexy either. So it's hard for me to get into the mood. But if the porn is bothering u pls confront him. Maybe u two could benefit from some couples councelling
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Exactly how I feel. Talk to him about the porn thing. It took me a few tries before I could actually go thru his phone and not find anything. He probably deletes it but atleast I don't deep that bad anymore. The way they change also, like not get jealous anymore. And them not wanting to have sex with you is something that hurts. But think of it this way once we give birth they will be all up on us again. You only have to deal with that insecurity for a few months. That's what I'm putting in my head so it doesn't get to me. Although I have turned to an extremely exaggerated jealous wife.
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Your looking into it to much. All men and some women watch porn. It's a normal thing to want to see what you can't have. You just have to keep your head high and let him know that your still sexy. I'm sure you are. And just becuase your pregnant does not mean that your ugly
And a litle advice just take one small step back from him. Put a little space. It will help the stress. Don't become distant but don't stay up his *** all day.
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So tell him y post it online
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Just lay it out on the table and let him know how you feel. Pregnancy is a Huge change cuz I went through that but I'm pregnant with my other 3rd and I will not allow myself to feel That way no way in he'll. So you know what I do..... I work out.:) Best thing to do I feel great and confident and he seems very clingy lol. But most importantly for ourselves :)
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Just lay it out on the table and let him know how you feel. Pregnancy is a Huge change cuz I went through that but I'm pregnant with my other 3rd and I will not allow myself to feel That way no way in he'll. So you know what I do..... I work out.:) Best thing to do I feel great and confident and he seems very clingy lol. But most importantly for ourselves :)
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10743983 tn?1440210210
Uhm, from my boyfriend of course I do! Who doesn't want to feel accepted going through such an enormous life changing thing such as pregnancy? Who doesn't want to feel accepted by the person they love in general? Your point is vague and pointless. Obviously I am wanting attention, as my post talks about, wanting attention from my boyfriend. And?
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10707428 tn?1415569790
@word313 well thats rude....
Its normal to be scared of everything, being pregnant is a scary thing! And she deserves the attention, she's growing a life inside of her...
But hun, i'm pretty sure your boyfriend loves you and your body even if you dont like it. I had the same worries and i talked to my husband and he assured me that its all in my head, you're still sexy and attractive, you're just pregnant, you're not ugly ;) try talking to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. xx
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I think u just want attention
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