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Autism
I know this has nothing to do with pregnancy...but...I was wondering if any of you mothers have boy's that are Autistic? I have a soon to be 2yr old nephew (dec 5th)...that i believe to have some signs of Autism! I myself have down research and talked with doctors..and all signs seem to point to Autism. But I can not get his mother (my sister) to even read about it because she sees nothing wrong with him! I am concerned as a mother (of 3) and his aunt...thats something is not right with him! He don't talk (not even any words) he only makes sounds...he wont make eye contact with me (like when i try to talk to him or correct him on his behavior) he is very aggressive toward other kids..and he seems to have almost a cycle where he has real good days for a week (where he listens/follows directions,plays well with others, seems real calm) then he will like have a bad day (dont listen, throws fits, hits, pinches and bites, cries alot, dont want to eat,fights his sleep)..i know that with a toddler they all go through somethings kind of like this..but my 2yr old definitely dont act out like this! I also noticed he has started stacking things (like can goods)...i have noticed all these things because i watch him 5-6 days a week while his mom works! So moms do you have any insight on this?
Thank you all for your inputs...as his aunt im just trying to find ways to help him...in a way that he can learn...i dont treat him any different then i would my own! And narajo4...that was my first thought that it could be his hearing! But with out mom on board i can do nothing but sit back and do the best i can! Also knufrio thats exactly why i brought it up to his mom in the first place because the early the better! Clearly this is hard for me as his aunt...i know something isnt right! And i just want to help him thats all! I dont need the negative comments that why in my post i said moms with Autistic children!!
My 7yr old is autistic. She started showing signs at 9mos old the first was pica (eating non food items ie:wood . I would encourage your sister to have his hearing tested. My daughter didn't speak other than mum n bub until over 2yrs old. After starting working with a speech therapist. She would point n grunt and act out especially to "talking" kids around her. Turns out she couldn't hear well and she would get frustrated cause everyone else could communicate while she couldn't. It was hard dealing with and accepting her challenges at first and some days it still is. There is alot of stereo types n things parents have to be prepared to handle once they accept it. Its hard. I wish I had a support sister or family. Stay strong for her and reasurring because others may turn there backs on her/them. Treat him as "normal" as you can but set limits for him. Structure helps so much, set routines help (even tho he don't understand words a picture board of routines can help) good luck.
Vaccines do not cause autism, that is absolutely ridiculous, especially because pediatric vaccines contain no mercury and haven't in over a decade so that argument is moot.... As far as the original poster's concerns, I am surprised the pediatrician hasn't said anything yet. I am a PEDs RN and in my practice they speak up when they pick up on things and push the parents to seek help from sources such as early intervention. (They don't push meds for autism AT ALL - mostly only psychiatrists will do that). Our practice starts screening for autism at 15 months, 18 months, and 2 years. I know as a parent it is hard for them to accept such a difficult diagnosis and many parents like to push things under the rug even if they partially agree. Everyone wants their child to be "normal". I personally think that the beat thing you can do is keep pushing the issue. The earlier that services (such as speech and OT) get started the better the outcome.
I agree with b4b, If he's not talking yet then he should at least qualify for speech therapy through early intervention. Getting the right therapies early on can make a huge difference. If he can't communicate that will affect his behavior. It's frustrating to kids when they can't talk. I don't have an autistic child but I do have a child with down syndrome. He is just about 5 & said his first full sentence 2 days ago. He gets very frustrated at times which causes him to act out.
My 7 y/o has autism, I new something wasn't right before he was a year old and it took until just before he was three for the doctor to admit it. As his caregiver during the week, you may be able to eci do a 'home' interview. Eci is early childhood intervention, if they determine a need, they will provide free in home therapy until the child is 3. After that, he would qualify for preschool in the special needs or life skills class. It does hurt to hear the diagnosis and there is a lot of fear, especially when you see the cost of private therapy. Try looking into any baby can in your area also do some research on aba therapy. Good luck!
I work at a special needs preschool. They won't diagnose autism until at least 3 years old because it's too hard to tell before that. I don't know if it is autism or not but you can bet when he starts going to school they will ask you to get him tested if the teachers are concerned. My biggest plea to you is to not treat him differently. That can screw a perfectly normal kid up. :)
Its obvious the reason he is aggressive is because he doesnt know how to express himself. The child will talk when he's ready. I knew someone who didnt talk until they were five. They actually was raped. Someone said they are other reason to his behavior, i agree that can be the case too. Just have patience. Im not saying u are wrong to have concerns. Do whatever the hell u feel.
I know many people as a child who were diagnosed with different labels and were told they have developmental delays and they have no problem now. They all are reading and working. It breaks my heart how people run to "doctors" when society pushes nothing but corporate b.s. for instance a little girl had seisures and they decided to take out a peice of her frontal lobe thinking it will help. The girl wound up more cognitively challenged. She still has seizures and when u look up natural remedies MARIJUANA CAN CURE SEIZURES!! But will a doctor tell u that NO! They rather experiment with a bunch of pills that barely make any difference all it will do is make the kid drowsy. F what anybody thinks. I have my reasons to tell u y u should have patience and try to find ways to manage online and through research. If it severe yes seek help but im just giving u an opinion. If all u wanted was for people to agree w. Ur feelings u should make a blog called "the only if u feel how i feel blog" smh...
Calm down. My whole thing is that doctors are going to want to pump her child w. A whole bunch of medicine and thats something she will have to mentally prepare for. Yes the medicine may help but in my background and family we believe in natural ways of coping and remedies for many topics. It probably was vaccinations filled with mercury that did that to her child! Alot of people wont agree with what i have to say. But i am just saying be gentle w. The topic. At the end of the day do what feels right to you. At the end of the day i could care less. All ur damn !!!! Goodluck.
Well, he's probably got a two year check up coming. I'd contact the doctor and tell them what you are seeing and ask that they not share this with the mom, but you have concerns that he may have autism.
Doctors can't give out information, but they can listen when you give it!
It sounds like she's not going to listen when you bring up concerns but probably the pediatrician can direct her to getting an assessment.
Doctors can't give out information, but they can listen when you give it!
It sounds like she's not going to listen when you bring up concerns but probably the pediatrician can direct her to getting an assessment.
And smallbby for you to work with special needs children you of all ppl should be encouraging me to seek helo with my nephew and talk to my sister...and not just sweep it under the rug because its a touchy subject! ITS NOT ABOUT ME OR HIS MOM...BUT HIM!!!
Typo uhh excuse me hope you know what I meant about your mom and dad an his dad as well..
Stay on top of it.. do your best speak to your mom also or dad who every else really just mom or dad.. And his dad.. And when he has an doctors appointment I think you should add your input about him to the doctor.. I think you are a good sister maybe she is scared to believe the truth.. Goodluck..
Thank you very much Lovinglife_712...and i have taking it very slow and not have brought it up again but however if there is something wrong the sooner we get it taking care of the better off everyone will be! Im not the only one in our family that sees somthing different in him..im just the only who who cares enough to say something!
Now as his Aunt and part time cargiver...why should i stay out of it??? Thats my nephew! I may not have birth him but i take care him like he is one of my own! And having him around my other children and he is acting out and hurting them..i need to know what i could do to help him! See and one thing that i failed to mention..is that me and my sister are very close and i have brought it to her attention that something is not right with his developmental stage! And the only reason i said something beacause I myself need to learn how to help him in ways that he can understand so WE can learn to have better days! Im concerned and i want to help him! Ive only brought it up one time to her cause it is very hard to hear something like that. But the reaction i got from her really bothers me! I just want advice from other moms who have a Autistic child.
I have a 5 yr old nephew with Autism and it took my sister some time to realize and accept that there was something wrong with her baby. I don't think you should stay out of it BC you are her sister and his Aunt but continue to be gentle on your approach and leaving information for her. When she goes to the doctor with him the topic will come up and eventually she'll have no choice but to help her baby. Good luck honey.
I feel like you should stay out of it. Wait until she seems to show concern. You may only insult her even tho u are being genuine. I work w. Special needs children and it really is a touchy subject for most parents.
I have a son with autism. He is 7 years old. It sounds like he could be autistic. As for his mom it is hard to hear that there could be something wrong with you child. She could already be having concerns about him and that may scare her. As for you just try to be understanding with them cause you never know what is going thru her head. If you want more information look up autism society of your state and maybe try getting the information to the mom.
As a former early childhood teacher, I'd say he is showing signs, but without an actual diagnosis it's hard to say for sure. I know it's hard to stand by and not be able to do anything, but because he isn't your child you cannot do much. I would keep trying to talk to your sister. There are also other things that can cause a child to misbehave, but the not being able to talk at age 2 is a bit concerning.
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