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'Blessings' Unwanted

So, I'm not being rude or judgemebtal at all. My fiance was raised Catholic and his family is Catholic so don't take this the wrong way.. But I am Pagan, and no that does NOT mean I'm a witch who does voodoo rituals contrary to believe. What bothers me is when people I don't even know, or barely know, touch my stomach or run up to me with that bless your child nonsense. Or when people ask me how I'm going to raise my child with a religion. For one, it isn't anyone's business. For two, I want my child to learn on their own. To question things they don't understand or agree with. To find their own path ans believe what their comfortable believing. I know that's hard to take in that I'm not raising MY child with a standard belief in something like religion. But still, it really isn't anyone's business.. Is it?
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People get crazy when they see a pregnant belly and forget about keeping their hands to themselves.They usually look at you funny and reach out I'm getting good at dodging most of them. I don't like it at all but it's so incredible also.
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^ @happybaby2015
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I completely agree with you. these children were given as a blessing to us and it is our choice and responsibility to give them that knowledge. of course, we are put in the position that we can make our own decisions and whenever we bless children and tell mothers that they're in our prayers we are considered the bad ones due to a religious view. I understand that everyone is different and we won't ever believe the same thing as a society, but feeling anger toward people who send you praise is nonsense. religious people send love for your child and you respond to it with anger?
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Midgett_Mommy,  I think you need to sit down for a couple hours and figure out what you believe.

Why are you baptizing your child at ALL - at home or in a church - if you don't believe in a religion?  

I really don't sense you've given much thought at all to what you believe and don't believe.  You just seem sort of "anti".  

You said earlier that you're a Pagan.  Well,  Pagans are the ones who came up with the term "blessed be".  I really think you have no idea what you're meaning when you toss out the term "Pagan" or "blessings" or "baptism".  
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I can see where you coming from but best wishes..blessings and Just the hope for your child's well being can't be offense can it? I mean every time I hear someone wis pregnant I wish them well and say I will pray for them..I'm Christian but I'm do it for muslims...hindu it dosent matter. Juat smile and nod if you truly don't agree with thier blessings. And your religion and the religion of your child isn't anyone's business
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10084709 tn?1407712389
God Blessed us with these babies. They did not fall out of the sky and/or were not given to us by the universe. I respect our opinion differences but I know God to be real.
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Part of me gets exactly what you're saying.  I agree with following your own path, religion is a personal decision for everyone.    But i don't really get being offended by someone giving a "blessing" to you and your baby. To me positive vibes are positive vibes right? At least they are doing that and not saying nasty things. Their heart is in the right place, to many people get offended by the smallest things now days.
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My fiance is also atheist now. He was raises Catholic but he decided he didn't want to believe in that religion. His parents don't really practice. We've decided to baptize our child together at home rather than at a church. My whole thing is I don't feel right when people do that because it's a false blessing to me. It seems fake to accept something like that from someone who's devout in a certain religion that I don't agree with. Thank you very much for all of your support. I hope all of you have a very happy and safe pregnancy :)
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8778737 tn?1413827423
^ cool point. Gahh... I find religion and peoples beliefs so interesting.
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I completely understand. For one thing, no person especially a stranger has the right to touch you without your explicit permission. Your body is not public property just because you're incubating another body within you.
Nobody has the right to question the manner in which you will raise your child. Nobody has the right to tell you what is best or to attempt to inflict their belief system on you or your child.
I am an atheist (more specifically, a recovering Catholic), as is my husband. My son will be raised to know the difference between right and wrong and follow what his brain and his heart tell him - to do what is right BECAUSE it is right, not because he's afraid of "eternal damnation" or whatever they're calling it these days. He doesn't have to have the fear of an omnipotent deity to be a good person.
You have the choice to raise your child in whatever sort of belief system you see fit. It is nobody's business as long as nobody gets hurt. There are of course people who will say that by not teaching your child about THEIR god you are condemning them to a life of suffering. Of course they also say that children are innocent and always protected. Except for the children who starve to death in Africa and elsewhere for the crime of being born into poverty. So their opinions... well... you know what to do with them.
Don't let 'em get you down. You are doing the right thing for you and you don't have to justify that for anyone. You have every right to tell strangers to get their hands and their prayers away from you and your child. They have no right to invade your privacy like that. Best of luck.
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8778737 tn?1413827423
Live*
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8778737 tn?1413827423
Personally, I don't believe in a set "rule of religion" but I have my beliefs..... Ya know?

And I wanna get my baby baptized, but again.. I don't believe in set religion. Hahhaha. Its absolutely no ones business how you raise the baby... Because for one,.... Are they paying your bills? Are they cooking or cleaning your house... Or waking up in the middle of the night to feed em? No. Until they pitch in, and life your life... No one better be voicing how the baby should be raised.

I'm the same way. People have some words with me on what I'm naming my son... And I'm like. Whoa. Wanna pay my rent? Wanna carry my child for 9mons? No. Back off. Lol
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No its no ones business. And its your right to politely tell them that.
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No its noones business in how you raise your child. Because in the end when they get older, its then their choice what path of faith they want to take.
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I know what u mean. My husbands family Is penocost. And I really don't go to church. And I know they r gonna want me to take the baby there and get blessed.
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13167 tn?1327194124
I agree that you have every right to make decisions about what you believe and what you will encourage your child to believe,  but really,  with all the things that people do in our society that are profane and vulgar,  I don't think wishing blessings on your child should make you angry.
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No its not u and him decide no one else it's ur decision
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I honestly don't know what a pagan is but I agree, I want my child to choose what he wants to believe in, not feel forced to believe in something.
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Fiancé I mean sorry lol
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No it is not. The way you raise your baby is you and your husbands business alone. I completely agree with you, my family is Muslim so I feel your irritation.
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