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Would I be wrong if I don't let my child dad come in the room during the time I will be having my baby ? Im asking because him and his family been giving me hell since I been pregnant and I want to be peaceful would I be wrong if I call after my son is born to let him come see his son ?
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I'm sorry it is so hard!  The thing is . . . once you have a child it changes everything.  You have to do your very best to promote a relationship between dad and baby. Having a child is an intimate thing----  very hard to have him there if you aren't getting along.  But if he wants to be there when his child is born, it might help with that immediate bonding between father/baby and this you should cheer on.  Your child will WANT to know their daddy.  If you choose not to have him in the delivery room, have him at the hospital waiting to hold the baby as soon as possible.  It makes it hard when you don't get along with the dad and it can be a lifetime process of negotiating.  But hopefully this all works out.  good luck sweetie  
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Thanks for answering my question . & Yes he want to be in the room but it's like since I been pregnant he been stressing me out and begin very disrespectful toward me and I just want peace from the bad vibe that he brings around . I want him in there and I kinda dont because how things been going but I have 46 days left until I have my baby and I dont know if im gone contact him or not when its time for me to have my baby TBH .
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I think that he has a right to be there if he wants to because as my fiancé described it, who had a son with his previous girlfriend, there's this time between the baby being conceived, and when they go to clean the baby and take measurements that the father can be apart of and it's a bonding moment that he really appreciated. I know it can be stressful, but when the day comes I think all you'll have room to think about is getting that baby out of you!! Haha.
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I want to let him be there but he stressful all we do is fuss when we around each other and he very disrespectful toward me .
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Its hard but I would say he should be there. If he starts **** in the room he can be escorted out because stress can harm the baby and not make labor easy. Talk to him. Let him know what's up. Give him a chance to be there tho
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Idk a part of me want him there during that time and a part me dont because he brings drama and he very disrespectful toward me
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Do what you think is best for you and your baby. He is still the dad tho and he does have that right. But if its abusive and not a safe environment for the baby then that will be more legal and don't have him there.
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He should be there. But if he starts giving you problems during labor, your Dr can ask him to wait outside.
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Ok I think im gone have him there but we dont get along at all and soon as he start begin disrespectful I hope they do put him out .
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Proud to be the odd one out here - I would definitely NOT have him present during labor and birth. I hear you. He is not a positive person you have around. You fight. Even if you don't there, that seems to be the nature of the relationship, and that alone will trigger an adrenaline in you that will slow the progression of labor. Adrenaline blocks oxytocin, a natural hormone released by your body to promote contractions. Bodies are primeval - they need darker, quiet, safe environments to relax, to open,  and birth a baby. If he's no help, then his presence is toxic. That's his own fault. It's about you. You and that baby. Trust me, there will be plenty of time for them to bond if that's what he truly wants. He should also want what's best for the mother of his child and put you and baby before his needs.
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Excuse my typos, hope it all made sense regardless.
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Yes your answer made since I understood everything you was saying but he is very negative toward me and I know he aint gone act right in the delivery room because he barely act right when I let him come to the doctor when its time for one for the baby cause I go every 2 weeks now and he barely act right . I can't even be quite for like 10 or 15 mins and he think something wrong and want to argue for **** and nothing Im tired of the bullsht with him it's like I want him there but what for and he ain't gone be a good support
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Exactly. Not positive. I would surround yourself with only those that love and support you. Maybe if you can, hire a birth doula. Someone who is there especially for you. Who will encourage you.
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I agree with you completely.
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Absolutely!!
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To be honest you do what is right for you cause the one who gonna be pushing that baby out is you not him and if he giving u a hard time and dosent respect you as the mother of his child then he dosent deserve to share that moment with you. If you dont let him be in the room that dosent mean you a bad person its means you wanna have a peacefull delivery dont let nobody decide for you. You choose what its right for you and what you feel that you should do
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And you right he don't respect me at all but Don't get me wrong I want him there cause he helped me make this baby but what for and he always negative toward me and during the whole pregnancy him and his whole family been ganging up on me bringing me down and I just want peace and a good support there .
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Honestly I wouldn't let him in. You'll be under enough stress as it is having the baby.
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I was thinking not to let him in but I didnt want to feel bad about it after everything is done but he don't know how to act .
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I personally didnt have my sons father in the room when i delivered we had broke up soon after finding out i was pregnant and when it was time for my son to come out i didnt allow him in there because he was full of drama and i just wanted a none stressful area where i delivered so its up to u what u want to do but either way its ur choice
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Ok it's like I want peace as it could get and I know for a fact he aint gone give me that cause the whole pregnancy been bs after bs top of bs yk what im saying ? But I dont want to feel bad after not letting him in there cause yk its his baby too but I had enough and enough is enough idk how much a girl could take from a disrespectful male .
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I would say no to having him there. My exes were not at their daughters births and they have really good relationships now. Men don't tend to bond with kids unt they are about 18months and are talking etc.
Tell him you will let him be the first visitor but you would prefer the birth to only be you and your midwife.
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Your answer sounds so peaceful I just might do that cause I need and want peace during that moment
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You decided to have a child together.. sometimes you have to put things aside for the child's sake.. if you can't even get along for the birth of your child which you created together.. then how are you going to get along in the years the baby is growing.. either way wether you have him there or not.. that is still his child and regardless he can have something to do with the baby once the baby is born.. so yes I agree you want to keep negativity away from the baby but the father has been disrespectful to you not the child.. so don't exclude him because of the issues you too both have.. because that shouldn't take away his right to see his child born.. if you agreed to have this child then you both need to agree to put all the crap aside for the child.. as it isn't the baby fault that the parents can't get along so the child shouldn't miss out in bonding just because the dad doesn't like you or you don't like him , and i also dont think its right to say dads dont bond with their child till 18months when they are talking,, as that depends on the father.. my daughter is 2 and her dad was in the delivery room and from the minute she was born he bonded and worshiped the ground she walked on and has done ever since.. and we aren't together and wasn't together at the time , his having another child and so am I.. I think when you become a parent you have to grow up and put squabbles aside for the sake of the child you both decided you wanted  
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The first person have a point I never said I was gone keep him away from his child but all Im saying is I want a peaceful moment in the room when Im having this baby the whole pregnancy been nothing but drama , bs after bs and top of bs im sick of it and he disrespected me plenty of times while im pregnant he even have his moments when he try to throw shade and say my child is somebody else which He aint nobodies but his child he very childish and disrespectful its alot I aint letting you guys know but all ima say is he brings no peace at all cant even go to a doctor appointment without talking for 10 or 15 mins cause I want peace and wanna start a argument cause I didnt want to say anything to him . I dont have to if I dont want to and he send threats nope im sick of it
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Do what is best for you. Giving birth is hard and stressful enough without having someone in the room with you who isn't supportive or who is upsetting you. Maybe talk to him and let him know if he can't be supportive and encouraging that toy don't want him in there. Your body, your birth. And really there is nothing for dad to do until after the baby checks and you get your hour of skin to skin
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You right ima talk to him but I know its gone go left cause its like he dont understand nothing at all .
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