Delivery room

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Would I be wrong if I don't let my child dad come in the room during the time I will be having my baby ? Im asking because him and his family been giving me hell since I been pregnant and I want to be peaceful would I be wrong if I call after my son is born to let him come see his son ?

StephanierS · Answer

Proud to be the odd one out here - I would definitely NOT have him present during labor and birth. I hear you. He is not a positive person you have around. You fight. Even if you don't there, that seems to be the nature of the relationship, and that alone will trigger an adrenaline in you that will slow the progression of labor. Adrenaline blocks oxytocin, a natural hormone released by your body to promote contractions. Bodies are primeval - they need darker, quiet, safe environments to relax, to open,  and birth a baby. If he's no help, then his presence is toxic. That's his own fault. It's about you. You and that baby. Trust me, there will be plenty of time for them to bond if that's what he truly wants. He should also want what's best for the mother of his child and put you and baby before his needs.

Mrs_Shorty_blanco · Answer

I personally didnt have my sons father in the room when i delivered we had broke up soon after finding out i was pregnant and when it was time for my son to come out i didnt allow him in there because he was full of drama and i just wanted a none stressful area where i delivered so its up to u what u want to do but either way its ur choice

Athenas_mommy1 · Answer

Honestly I wouldn't let him in. You'll be under enough stress as it is having the baby.

ccooke001 · Answer

Do what is best for you. Giving birth is hard and stressful enough without having someone in the room with you who isn't supportive or who is upsetting you. Maybe talk to him and let him know if he can't be supportive and encouraging that toy don't want him in there. Your body, your birth. And really there is nothing for dad to do until after the baby checks and you get your hour of skin to skin

kiwimummy · Answer

I would say no to having him there. My exes were not at their daughters births and they have really good relationships now. Men don't tend to bond with kids unt they are about 18months and are talking etc.
Tell him you will let him be the first visitor but you would prefer the birth to only be you and your midwife.

emy_aiden · Answer

To be honest you do what is right for you cause the one who gonna be pushing that baby out is you not him and if he giving u a hard time and dosent respect you as the mother of his child then he dosent deserve to share that moment with you. If you dont let him be in the room that dosent mean you a bad person its means you wanna have a peacefull delivery dont let nobody decide for you. You choose what its right for you and what you feel that you should do

chantebs4 · Answer

Its hard but I would say he should be there. If he starts **** in the room he can be escorted out because stress can harm the baby and not make labor easy. Talk to him. Let him know what's up. Give him a chance to be there tho

specialmom · Answer

I'm sorry it is so hard!  The thing is . . . once you have a child it changes everything.  You have to do your very best to promote a relationship between dad and baby. Having a child is an intimate thing----  very hard to have him there if you aren't getting along.  But if he wants to be there when his child is born, it might help with that immediate bonding between father/baby and this you should cheer on.  Your child will WANT to know their daddy.  If you choose not to have him in the delivery room, have him at the hospital waiting to hold the baby as soon as possible.  It makes it hard when you don't get along with the dad and it can be a lifetime process of negotiating.  But hopefully this all works out.  good luck sweetie

reeseyluv · Answer

He should be there. But if he starts giving you problems during labor, your Dr can ask him to wait outside.

savvyactivist · Answer

I think that he has a right to be there if he wants to because as my fiancé described it, who had a son with his previous girlfriend, there's this time between the baby being conceived, and when they go to clean the baby and take measurements that the father can be apart of and it's a bonding moment that he really appreciated. I know it can be stressful, but when the day comes I think all you'll have room to think about is getting that baby out of you!! Haha.

mariee1992791 · Answer

You decided to have a child together.. sometimes you have to put things aside for the child's sake.. if you can't even get along for the birth of your child which you created together.. then how are you going to get along in the years the baby is growing.. either way wether you have him there or not.. that is still his child and regardless he can have something to do with the baby once the baby is born.. so yes I agree you want to keep negativity away from the baby but the father has been disrespectful to you not the child.. so don't exclude him because of the issues you too both have.. because that shouldn't take away his right to see his child born.. if you agreed to have this child then you both need to agree to put all the crap aside for the child.. as it isn't the baby fault that the parents can't get along so the child shouldn't miss out in bonding just because the dad doesn't like you or you don't like him , and i also dont think its right to say dads dont bond with their child till 18months when they are talking,, as that depends on the father.. my daughter is 2 and her dad was in the delivery room and from the minute she was born he bonded and worshiped the ground she walked on and has done ever since.. and we aren't together and wasn't together at the time , his having another child and so am I.. I think when you become a parent you have to grow up and put squabbles aside for the sake of the child you both decided you wanted

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